The Art of Uplift: How Compliments Shape Our Lives
Hussain Almarhomi
Managing Director, Almarhomi company, Saudi Arabia, Jeddah. Wholesale kitchenware & hotels utilities.
Compliments are fascinating in our lives, impacting our well-being, relationships, and self-perception.
1. Mood Enhancement and Well-Being:
?? Mood Boost Receiving compliments has a mood-lifting effect. When someone acknowledges our efforts or qualities, it validates our self-worth.
?? Neuroscientific Evidence: Verbal affirmations activate brain regions associated with reward, similar to receiving monetary rewards.
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2. Strengthening Social Bonds:
?? Connection: Compliments foster connection. When we praise others, we create positive interactions and strengthen relationships.
?? Reciprocity: Complimenting someone often leads to them reciprocating, creating a cycle of positivity.
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3. Workplace Morale and Performance
?? Employee Morale: In organizations, expressing praise and gratitude is vital for maintaining morale. Feeling valued enhances job satisfaction.
?? Stress Mitigation: Positive feedback mitigates the negative impact of stress on employee performance.
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4. Hypocrisy and Stereotypes:
?? Inflated Praise: Be cautious of inflated praise. Overly exaggerated compliments can backfire, especially if they don't align with reality.
?? Stereotyping: Compliments based on stereotypes (e.g., racial or gender biases) can be harmful. They reinforce societal norms and may lead to anger or confrontation.
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5. Appearance-Based Compliments:
?? Gender Disparities: Women often receive appearance-based compliments, while men are praised for their abilities. These compliments have distinct effects.
?? Body Monitoring: Appearance compliments can lead to body monitoring and appearance focus, especially for women.
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6. Accepting Compliments Gracefully:
?? Self-Views: Some people struggle with accepting compliments because they challenge their self-views. It's okay to feel uncomfortable—it's a common response.
?? Deflecting vs. Accepting: While accepting compliments graciously is essential, it's equally crucial to recognize that not all compliments are genuine or appropriate.
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7. The Art of Giving Compliments:
?? Sincerity: Be genuine. Please be sure to remind others when you truly mean it.
?? Specificity: Specific compliments (e.g., "Your attention to detail in that report was impressive") carry more weight than generic ones.
?? Balance: Balance praise between abilities and appearance.
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8. Living Without Compliments:
?? Psychological Impact: Compliments contribute to our emotional well-being. While we can survive without them, thriving often involves positive interactions.
?? Self-Validation: Internal validation matters too. Cultivate self-worth beyond external praise.
In summary, compliments are like emotional vitamins—they nourish our souls, strengthen bonds, and contribute to a positive world. So, let's continue to appreciate and uplift one another.
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References:
A Simple Compliment Can Make a Big Difference - Harvard Business Review. https://hbr.org/2021/02/a-simple-compliment-can-make-a-big-difference.
Why it's so hard for some people to accept compliments? https://www.bbc.co.uk/future/article/20240403-why-its-so-hard-for-some-people-to-accept-compliments.
The Psychology Behind Compliments. https://www.psychologs.com/the-psychology-behind-compliments/.
Why you need to give more compliments - Reader's Digest. https://www.readersdigest.co.uk/inspire/why-you-need-to-give-more-compliments.
Why Handing Out More Meaningful Compliments is Good for Your Health. https://onedrop.today/blogs/blog/why-handing-out-more-genuine-compliments-is-good-for-your-health.
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Why we don't dole out many compliments – but should - BBC. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210722-why-we-dont-dole-out-many-compliments-but-should.
How to give and receive compliments…and why both are important. https://www.melissahereford.com/give-and-receive-compliments/.
?12 Compliments Every Woman Wants to Hear From Her Partner. https://www.lovearoundme.com/blog/12-compliments-every-woman-wants-to-hear-from-her-partner.html.
?12 Compliments Your Husband Probably Wants To Hear - Fatherly. https://www.fatherly.com/life/compliments-for-men.
?The Importance of Accepting Compliments - PsychAlive. https://www.psychalive.org/the-importance-of-accepting-compliments/.
?Why Is It So Hard to Accept a Compliment? - Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/happy-together/201812/why-is-it-so-hard-accept-compliment.
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9 个月I agree! It takes so little to give someone a genuine compliment & spread good vibes ?? I have noticed that men seem to receive less compliments than women do. I wonder if it’s because men might be perceiving women’s compliments to them as being flirtatious. What do you think? ??
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9 个月Love this Hussain! When receiving a compliment, it's important to respond with a simple "thank you" to show appreciation. Avoid downplaying the compliment or deflecting it with self-deprecating remarks, as this can undermine the giver's sincerity. Embrace the compliment with confidence and humility, recognising your worth without arrogance! May God's love and grace be with you every step of the way. Wishing you a lovely week ahead! ??????????
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9 个月Beautifully written… great post and yet so true . Thank you for sharing ??xx
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9 个月Excelente..muy bonito ??????????????
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9 个月Great advice!