The Art of Unconditional Love in a Divided World

I recently caught up with a friend who shared a troubling experience. She told me about her "friend"—let's call him Mike. They had taken a vacation together, hoping to unwind and relax, but what was meant to be a peaceful trip quickly evolved into a series of intense debates. Around the campfire and dinner table, Mike began berating her and her husband, outraged that they, as Democrats, were still friends with Republicans. He couldn’t fathom why they didn't share his disdain for those who support Trump. To Mike, anyone who associates with Republicans, regardless of their personal character, was inherently bad.

What struck me was the level of anger and the depth of division. Mike had locked himself into a singular perspective: his belief that people who support a certain political party were evil and undeserving of friendship or support. But what he didn’t realize was that in doing so, he had built a prison for himself—one of judgment, resentment, and fear. His world had narrowed, leaving him isolated from those who could offer different perspectives and richer relationships.

It reminded me of something deeper—the way we see the world through only one lens can lead to a loss of depth perception, just like losing vision in one eye. When we view the world from a singular, rigid perspective, we miss out on the complexity, nuance, and beauty that come with seeing things from all sides.

I felt compelled to write about this because it’s a situation I’ve seen repeated countless times, both in personal relationships, companies and across society. People confine themselves to a mindset that punishes them more than anyone else, trapping them in a cycle of anger and division. It’s a self-imposed hell that strips them of the ability to connect, empathize, and truly understand others.

In my view, we lose sight of the duality that exists in everything—the balance of light and dark, good and bad, joy and sorrow. This duality is essential for our growth and understanding. When we view the world with both eyes open, we can see the bigger picture, connecting our minds and hearts. We recognize that love exists, even in difficult moments, and that free will allows us to choose how we respond to life’s challenges.

This doesn’t mean we have to agree with everyone or compromise our values, but it does mean we should acknowledge that each of us carries a mix of good and evil, light and dark. We are all part of something larger, interconnected by the shared experience of being human. Instead of filling our lives with fear and division, we can choose to embrace love, empathy, and the beauty of diverse perspectives.

A Personal Journey

This reminds me of my own journey of unconditional love, that took me many failed romantic and friendly relationships before I finally learned.

In a relationship, particularly early on, we often try hard to control the narrative. We set conditions: "If you do this, I'll love you more" or "If you behave this way, I’ll be happy." We hold our love hostage, expecting certain outcomes in exchange for our affection.

But what if we surrendered to love, without conditions? What if we loved someone fully, without the fear of losing them or being hurt? No matter the outcome—whether you stay married for 75 years or part ways after a year—the love you gave leaves an indelible mark on your soul. To love someone deeply is to lose a part of yourself, but in that loss, you gain something far more valuable: the understanding that love is not a finite resource, but something that grows as we share it freely.

The Choice We All Face

We live in a world where information is thrown at us from every direction, and it’s easy to fall into the trap of deciding who’s right and who’s wrong. But I urge you to resist that impulse. Don’t let your mind dictate every interaction with your loved ones, coworkers, or even strangers.

Instead, start looking at the world through three lenses—the trinity of sight: your mind, your heart, and your spirit. This allows you to see beyond the surface and into the core of what connects us all. When you elevate your thinking in this way, you can break free from the prison of judgment and find your true inner power.

As a woman, I’m connected to the cycles of the moon, just as men are aligned with the sun’s rise and set. We all have rhythms and waves that guide us, but when we connect with the deeper power within us, we can create a different world—one filled with unity, love, and harmony.

Call to Action

So, what will you choose today? Will you remain trapped in the narrow vision of fear, division, and judgment? Or will you open your heart, embrace the duality of life, and elevate the vibration of this world by choosing love and understanding?

Your choice matters. It affects not just you, but your family, your community, and the world we all share. Let’s start making those small, daily changes to bring more love, empathy, and harmony into our lives—and watch as the world around us transforms.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. How have you navigated the divide in your relationships or within yourself?