The Art of Rest

Claudia Hammond (2019).?The art of rest: How to find respite in the modern age.?Canongate: Edinburgh, Great Britain

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2?Socrates told us to beware the barrenness of a busy life

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2?the best kind of self-care … is rest

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4?Jonathan Gershuny … busyness has become ‘a badge of honour’

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5?rest deficit, both perceived and real, is damaging in many ways

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5?Tiredness can have a serious impact on our cognitive abilities

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6?The effects of a deficit of sleep are now well-understood and the list of problems it causes is long: an increased risk of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, stroke, hypertension, pain, pro-inflammatory response, mood disorders, memory difficulties, metabolic syndrome, obesity and colorectal cancer, most of which can shorten your life expectancy … Rest … there is evidence that spending time relaxing helps us to make better decisions, lowers our risk of depression, boosts our memories and means we catch fewer colds … Rest is not a luxury, it’s a necessity

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7?rest is more complex than sleep … rest … involves any restful activity that we do while we’re awake

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8?enforced rest … leaves us … restless

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9?the etymology strengthens the notion that rest comes after or through activity

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10?in the modern world meaningful rest comes … through making adjustments and achieving a better balance between work, rest and play

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11?activities … considered restful … Spending time with friends and family … didn’t make it into the top ten … Decades of research … has shown … that the happiest people have … enjoyable relationships with other people … when we rest, we very often want to escape from other people

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13?These activities represent the choices of the large sample [18,000 people living in 135 different countries] who chose to complete the Rest Test and of course the same activities won’t work for everyone … the Rest Test top ten … the most popular activity turned out to be reading

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15?10?MINDFULNESS

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15?If you go to mindfulness classes then it’s likely that at some point a box of raisins will be produced and you will be given a single raisin

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17?mindfulness … it’s not for everyone … there is still plenty that mindfulness can teach any of us about how to rest

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18?The Ladybird Book of Mindfulness … describes it as the ‘skill of thinking you’re doing something while you’re doing nothing’ … Jon Kabat-Zinn … says mindfulness is ‘the awareness of paying attention in a particular way: on purpose in the present moment, non-judgementally’

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18?mindfulness … helps to keep us in the present

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19?William James said: ‘Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.’

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19?Jon Kabat-Zinn … hard work involved in practising mindfulness

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20?mindfulness imposes strict discipline.?It forces you to stop

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23?mindfulness is too often presented as a panacea, when the evidence suggests it isn’t … studies … involve people who have chosen to learn mindfulness rather than people who have been randomly assigned to learn it

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24?the current popularity of mindfulness is running ahead of the research

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24-25?Oxford [University] Mindfulness Centre … Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy or MBCT … depression … It was most successful in those at the highest risk of relapse … Willem Kuyken

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25?There is some evidence that mindfulness can help with chronic pain, ease anxiety and reduce cravings in people addicted to drugs, although other studies conclude mindfulness is not necessarily any better than other psychological interventions … some studies have also found improvements in memory, attention, mood, creativity and reaction times, as well as lowering of blood pressure and boosts to the immune system.?According to one study, using mindfulness can even make you a nicer person … the most interesting studies come from neuroscience.?Reductions have been shown in activity in the amygdala, the walnut-shaped area deep inside the brain that is at the heart of our response to fight or flee when we’re afraid

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27?personality type.?People who score high on conscientiousness have higher levels of mindfulness than those who score high in neuroticism … Of course, we can’t know which comes first

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27-28?David Creswell from Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh has studied mindfulness extensively and thinks of it as a buffer against stress

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29?reframe frustrating waiting times as opportunities to practice mindfulness

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30?Ellen Langer … ‘the simple act of noticing things’ can improve our wellbeing

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30?putting time aside for rest is beneficial

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32?9?WATCHING TV

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33?Worldwide it’s estimated that we consume 3.5 billion hours of TV each year

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34-35?Groucho Marx once said, ‘I find television very educating.?Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book.’

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35?TV is undoubtedly still a hugely popular way of spending our spare time.?Studies of time use conducted in the USA reveal that by the age of seventy-five the average person will have spent a total of nine years watching television – that is more time than we spend doing anything apart from sleeping and working

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37?studies show that one of the main attractions of watching TV … is to relax

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37?the programme that was downloaded more times than any other in 2018 … Friends

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41?It’s not uncommon for TV to begin to fill people’s days nearer the end of life

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44?TV watching seems to be judged more harshly than other cultural pastimes … one of the benefits that watching TV has been demonstrated to bring … it improves empathy and makes us better at seeing things from other people’s points of view

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46?Watching the news can also make us feel miserable

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46?a perennial research issue – correlation versus causation

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50?Moderation … A couple of hours of TV can certainly help you relax, but five hours a day is almost certainly too much

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50?[Mihaly] Csikszentmihalyi found that if people were in a bad mood in the afternoon, a few hours of telly later on left them feeling much better by the end of the evening

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51?there is no reason to feel concerned about moderate TV viewing

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52?8?DAYDREAMING

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54-55?Russell Hurlburt … Descriptive Experience Sampling or DES … he has found that five particular elements turn up a lot in people’s mind wanderings … the ‘five frequent phenomena’ – visual imagery, inner speech, feelings, sensory awareness and unsymbolised thought

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60?Mark Lauckner … Max Planck Institute … Leipzig.?‘The brain only really rests when you are dead.’ .. Wandering … is the brain’s natural state, not rest

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61?the so-called ‘resting state’ is a bit of a misnomer … some scientists prefer … the ‘default mode network’

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61?the brain uses 20 per cent of the body’s total energy

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62?Moshe Bar … The reason we daydream … is to create ‘memories’ of possible future events

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63?Jerome Singer … daydreaming … benefits: increased creativity, improvements in planning, better problem solving, relief from boredom, increase in patient rather than impulsive decisions, enhanced social skills and higher levels of curiosity.?Daydreaming helps us to gain a better understanding of ourselves, our relationships and our place in the world

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65?Dwelling on things that have gone wrong appears to reactivate the body’s response to the stress you felt at the time, thereby interfering with long-term health

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66?Jonathan Schooler … If your thoughts distract and trouble you, then coping with those mind wanderings by turning to a technique such as mindfulness might help, but if your thoughts are nice and it’s not essential that you concentrate on what’s in front of you, then allow yourself to rest by floating away with them

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66-68?bedtime is a time many of us wish we could quieten our thoughts … Some people practise mindfulness … Others do … a body scan …?Michael Scullin … bedtime … write a to-do list … be specific … you need to offload them by writing them down

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71?7?A NICE HOT BATH

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72?having a bath is perhaps rest at its purest

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74?The Roman Baths of Caracalla were said to have held as many as 18,000 people, although … the true capacity was closer to 6,000 … at the time of peak bath enthusiasm, each resident of Rome was said to be using a staggering 1,400 litres of water a day.?No wonder the Romans became so adept at building aqueducts

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74-75?bathing … the notion … is shared to some extent by all major religions

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77?the Rest Test suggested baths are particularly popular with … the young

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78?bathing is not just lovely and relaxing, it is good for you

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78?As Sylvia Plath wrote in The Bell Jar, ‘there must be quite a few things a bath can’t cure, but I don’t know many of them’ … poet

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78?a major review of fifteen studies … concluded that thermal bathing can temporarily reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol

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80?the impact of a hot bath on relaxing us ahead of going to bed and, eventually, to sleep … counter-intuitively perhaps, a warm bath helps to induce our core body temperature to fall and it is this which aids sleep because in order to sleep well we need our body temperature to drop by about one degree Celsius from our waking state … it’s easier to fall asleep in a room that’s too cold than too hot

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81?research shows the ideal time for a hot bath is an hour or two before you get into bed … a bath in the middle of the afternoon works even better

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82-83?you could try having a hot footbath or wearing heated bed socks – special socks with removable soles filled with grain which can be heated up in the microwave … Heated socks help young people get to sleep faster, while a thirty-minute footbath works better for older people … There is … some limited evidence that suggests a quick hot shower before bed can aid sleep

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84?Japanese … those who had five or more baths a week … were found to have better heart and circulatory health … But beware a bath that’s too hot for too long

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85?thankfully bath-induced deaths are rare

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85?the evidence for the benefits of ice baths … is rather lacking

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87?if you want the bath to stay hotter for longer.?A layer of bubbles does provide some insulation … a still bath is just as good at reducing anxiety and improving well-being as one with fancy jets and bubbles

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89?6?A GOOD WALK

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92?One of walking’s delights is its simplicity … Henry David Thoreau … observed that one of walking’s great benefits is that it takes us away from the demands of the home and the workplace

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93?the repetitive rhythm of walking somehow makes monotony absorbing

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94?book Wanderlust … Rebecca Solnit … So how can we put ourselves into this deep thinking mode??‘It’s best done by disguising it as doing something … and the something closest to doing nothing is walking.’?

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94?I don’t have a car, so walking is how I get to anything nearby

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95?a walk is a great way to discover a new place

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95-96?Another restful aspect of walking is that it changes our perception of time … It slows down as we slow down – to a walking pace

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97?Rebecca Solnit, Beethoven, Dickens, Goethe, Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Wordsworth, Kant, and Aristotle … were all fans of a long ramble … because it gave them the opportunity to think

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97-98?There is good research evidence that walking helps to increase our creativity … What is clear from this research and other studies is that there is something about movement under our own steam that seems to free us up to think

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99?If we walk with another person, the evidence suggests we experience increased levels of empathy and become better at cooperating … For this reason it has been suggested that conflict negotiations should take place while the warring parties are out on a shared walk … it sounds like a good idea worth testing

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100?people sometimes feel more able to discuss personal issues when they are sitting beside rather than opposite someone

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102?New research could shed light on why extreme exercise could be considered restful … in a brain scanner … there is an increase in coordinated activity in the areas related to working memory and executive function … and reduced activity in the default mode network … it echoes the neural patterns found in the brains of experienced, regular meditators … running was having a meditative effect on the brain

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105?brief walking … a rest from sitting down … Even micro-bouts of walking have been shown to make a difference to well-being

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107?researchers did find … that the greatest improvement in mood came from activities such as weightlifting

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107?walking is just as good as running, in terms of mental health

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108?there is also good evidence that people sleep better at night on the days when they’ve exercised

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109?When researchers in the US compared two groups of people trying to lose weight, one with a step counter and one without, they found that those counting steps ended up losing fewer, rather than more, pounds

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110-111?Jordan Etkin … found that people who tracked their steps walked further but enjoyed the walk less … and … their happiness levels at the end of the day were lower

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111?use the step counter as a guide

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112?constantly scanning at ground level and way up into the trees and sky, as well as at eye level.?The more you see, the more distracting and restful your walk can become

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113?5?DOING NOTHING IN PARTICULAR

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114?while doing nothing is a popular way to rest it isn’t something that most people find easy

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115?We have a love/hate relationship with the absence of activity

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116?A 1970s study observed that it took fifty days from the moment the sloth finished eating a meal to that food leaving its body (or voiding …)

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117?In Scandinavia many workplaces have standing desks as standard fixtures

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118?There’s good evidence that a sedentary life raises your risk of obesity, type 2 diabetes, heart disease, stroke and cancer

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119?scientifically … there is a genetic basis for not liking early mornings … chronotype … Between 5 and 10 per cent of the population are at the extreme ends of the early/late spectrum

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121?respondents to the Rest Test living in India … love their job, who feel so good about their work that they find it restful, leaving them feeling energised rather than exhausted at the end of the day

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121?Whatever their job, most people succeed in making it more fun if they possibly can

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123?Silvia Bellezza … found that we tend to believe that busy people do things quicker, are better at multitasking and have more meaningful jobs

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124?the dolce vita survives in Italy

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126?we know that priests preaching the evils of laziness were in league with lords of the manor, or later with mill owners, who wanted to sweat the workers so that they could grow rich from their labours

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126?[Mike] Greaney calls on us to be intentionally lazy.?If we want to avoid ‘being defined as creatures of the attention economy, then we cannot afford not to be lazy’

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127?only 74 per cent of employees in the US are entitled to any paid leave

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127?in the USA … Life expectancy is lower there than in many other high-income countries, despite the high proportion of GDP spent on healthcare … holidays could be a factor in making us live longer

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129?those who don’t take holidays were at higher risk of dying

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130?we all like to take a break and there is copious evidence that we perform better after we’ve had one … Athletes are careful not to overtrain … Rest is scheduled

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131?Research from South Korea provides us with some tips on what works best … Those who had taken micro-breaks generally finished the day in a better mood … And it was on the most demanding days of all that these tiny breaks had the greatest impact on people’s moods

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132?A two-minute break halfway through a task could make all the difference to both the quality of the work and the way you feel … a 2019 study found that even a ten-second pause helped people do better

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133?‘When I get home after work, I want to be left in peace for a while,’ and ‘I have difficulties in showing interest in other people immediately after I get home from work,’ … If these statements apply to you, you really need to be finding a way to incorporate more breaks into your working day.?Or … you might need to rest more when you get home … like lying on the sofa

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134?Edmund Jacobson … progressive relaxation … often referred to as a ‘body scan’ … First you lie down flat.?Then starting either at your toes or at the top of your head, you scan your way up or down your body.?You clench and then relax each set of muscles in turn

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136?‘All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone,’ wrote the French philosopher Pascal roughly 350 years ago

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137?2014 … It appears that people hated spending fifteen minutes with their own thoughts so much that they preferred to endure pain rather than do nothing … The numbers in this study are small

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138?Just as solitude becomes loneliness once it’s no longer optional, doing nothing is only restful when we choose it for ourselves

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139?There seems to be an optimal amount of rest that we can bear before it tips into tedium

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139-140?Boredom … has a positive side … It is why doing nothing … can be the state in which we generate new ideas

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140?Sandi Mann … doing nothing allows us – or forces us – to introspect, to work out what we want from life and how we can find meaning in it … it is meaning rather than fun, that is the antidote to boredom at the existential level

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140-141?doing nothing … can even improve your memory

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142?One way to stimulate eureka moments … leave the puzzle … the best thing to do in the meantime? … nothing

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144?to-do lists … As soon as you’ve done everything you need to do on that first list, another list of things has piled up.?That’s life, and there’s no getting away from it

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145?the so-called slow movement

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147?As Albert Camus said, ‘Idleness is only fatal to the mediocre.’

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147?Do nothing, even if it is just for a moment or two

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148?4?LISTENING TO MUSIC

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149?Brand new research from the Anna Freud Centre shows that listening to music is one of the most common self-care strategies used by people under twenty-five … people double that age, and older, find it therapeutic too

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150?several underground stations in London have succeeded in deterring large groups of young people from hanging around stations in areas known for drug-dealing simply by playing classical music loudly

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152?listening to Mozart does lead to a temporary improvement in the ability to mentally manipulate shapes

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153?2006… The children who listened to Mozart did well, but with the medley of pop music they did even better

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153 The story of the Mozart effect is a cautionary tale about believing everything you hear about the benefits of music

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155?the teenagers who were best at using music successfully to improve their moods liked a wider variety of music … So variety is good , but how about volume, how about tempo?

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157?when you are feeling stressed and yearn to relax, put on some easy listening … If we’re in a good mood we can afford to experiment with different levels of complexity in music

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158?People with depression sometimes decide to create what is known as a ‘happy box’, filled with items which might help them when they’re feeling low … And there’s one item you find in most happy boxes – a CD or a playlist of music that makes the owner feel happier

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160?Patrik Juslin … the most common emotion people said they felt when listening [to music] was calm.?Moreover, people in this study felt calmest when they consciously listened to music for relaxation

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161?A German study … If people listened to music specifically to help them relax then the stress hormone cortisol was indeed reduced, but on the other hand, when people listened because they were looking from distraction from their thoughts, the opposite was true

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162?part of the point of concerts … was that music set your mind free

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163?We know from research that listening to music in the presence of other people can amplify the emotions induced by that music

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165-166?Patrick Summers … thinks the best way to experience music is to play it, followed by hearing it live, followed – in a distant third – by listening to a recording

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166-167?David Byrne … the world is now ‘awash’ with music.?‘We used to have to pay for music or make it ourselves; playing, hearing, and experiencing it was exceptional, a rare and special experience.?Now hearing it is ubiquitous, and silence is the rarity that we pay for and savor.’?Perhaps in this world of noise, the sound which can feel most restful of all is silence

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168?3?I WANT TO BE ALONE

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169-170?Humans have evolved to be social beings and cooperation has been key to our survival and success as a species … we have evolved to find being on our own difficult, even painful … It prompts us to maintain our connections with other people … We all crave some solitude, but not too much and only at certain times

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171?On average we spend about 29 per cent of waking time alone

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172?it’s often the quality of relationships that you have in your life – not the immediate fact of being with people – that determines whether you feel lonely.

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173?Sean O’Hagan … ‘The opposite of loneliness is wanting some time alone.’

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175?In everyday life, we constantly use our interactions with people to establish and reconfigure our own identities

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176?The advantage of choosing to spend time alone is that you have no identity thrust on you by others.?You are free to let you mind wander to examine who you really are and what you really think, free from the influence of others

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176?A study of eighteen- to twenty-five-year-olds in the USA found that spending time alone was associated with greater creativity

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177?the UK even has a Minister for Loneliness

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178?One of the best things about ageing is that we get better at comforting ourselves

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179?loneliness … perhaps we take steps to mitigate it, seeking out new friendships or finding ways to reinvigorate older ones .

????However we mitigate loneliness, it is important that we do

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181?social capital is weak in Japan and … it can be difficult to make strong friendship in the workplace.?With long hours before retirement there’s little time for hobbies or friends outside work.?So retirement can come as a shock

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182?We want to be alone, but we also fear being alone

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183?not everyone finds solitude restful

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186?the key to enjoying being on your own, and finding it restful, is choice.?The same, of course, is true of being with others

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187?we are much less likely to feel lonely when we’re alone if we have a strong human attachment to someone

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187?[Abraham] Maslow’s methods have been criticised for lack of rigour

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190?2?SPENDING TIME IN NATURE

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193?For the city dweller … spending time in nature is one of the classic means of escape from everyday life, a great way to rest and relax … there are ways to enjoy nature without walking

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194?There can be idleness in being out in the countryside, but it is excusable idleness

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195?In Japan spending time in the woods is considered so therapeutic that it even has its own name: forest bathing

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198?this study suggests that looking at nature allows us to rest better

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199?‘I’m just popping out to improve my productivity.’

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202?In a Swiss study … those who walked in the managed forest felt significantly better than the other group [sent on a walk through a forest that had been left to grow wild]

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204-205?Nature seems random, but often has fractal qualities … Psychologists have discovered that the more repetition there is on a landscape, the more we enjoy the scene

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208?To get the most from nature we need to consider the natural world, but also consider ourselves

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209?astronauts … could not resist spending every spare moment looking back at the Earth

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210?the ‘overview effect’.?Annahita Nezami … astronauts … After seeing the Earth as a fragile ball in the void of space, nourished by a thin atmosphere, they developed an intense feeling of interconnection with other people, as well as the strong sense of a broader responsibility towards the planet

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211?eudaimonic happiness … profound activities … finding meaning in life and realising our true potential

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215?researchers are finding it hard to pin down exactly why nature can have such an effect on us

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219?1?READING

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219?although it might seem obvious that it is relaxing to sit and read a book surprisingly few experiments have looked into it

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223?Curiously, reading is not only effortful cognitively, but also physically, in a way that you might not expect

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225?should we read before going to sleep?

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225?Sleep experts often advise adopting ‘sleep hygiene’, which … means … keeping the bedroom strictly for sleep and nothing else (in case you’re wondering, they make an exception for sex)

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226?if you find yourself awake for a lengthy period in the middle of the night … get out of bed, sit in a chair … and read a book until you feel sleepy again

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227-228?An intriguing aspect of the research on the restfulness of reading is that much of the best evidence for it has emerged by accident … American study … 2009 … while blood pressure and stress levels did drop after thirty minutes of yoga, these levels fell by the same amount after half an hour spent reading Newsweek articles … Australia … physiological measurements revealed that the reading session and indeed other activities were just as effective as the tai chi at reducing levels of the stress hormone cortisol and inducing a more restful mood

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228?In eighteenth-century England, sitting down with a novel was considered … a wicked vice

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229-230?In some ways we have more control over books than other forms of media … we are unlikely to devour a book in a single sitting … we are constantly being distracted.?We pause … re-read paragraphs, turn back to earlier pages … we read a book at our pace and in our own way … The author sets some boundaries, but within those we have a large amount of creative freedom ourselves … The fact that we can choose the speed at which we read is an important factor

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231?When we read we reflect, we look forwards and backwards

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232?of course, plenty of people read non-fiction and research shows it can bring people just as much pleasure and relaxation

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233-234?In large part, reading feels restful despite the effort involved because it allows us to escape our own worlds

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234-235?[Victor] Nell divided his ludic readers into two types: those who read to escape from their world, who blotted out all thoughts of what was going in their lives; and those who did the opposite, who wanted to heighten their own consciousness and used reading about the lives of others as a way of reflecting on their own

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235-236?In an extraordinary neuroscientific study on reading, researchers at the University of Southern California used software to distil twenty million personal stories posted on blogs worldwide into just forty tales.?These are, as it were, the forty essential human stories … research suggests that while we read the [default mode] network is busy finding meaning in the stories and making sense of that meaning in relation to our own memories of the past, our thoughts about the future and our relationships with others

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237?Reading can facilitate mind wandering … daydream … research on mindless reading suggests we all think much the same way

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238?we are looking to declutter our minds, to clear our heads, to be in the moment.?But perhaps it’s OK to clutter it too

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239?there is a third aspect of reading which provides us with the other reason why reading can help us to feel truly rested … those who enjoyed reading for pleasure rarely seemed to be lonely.?The characters in books were their company

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240?if you want to read to rest, does it matter what you read?

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241?Csikszentmihalyi’s state of flow … his Theory of Optimal Experience … For an activity to promote a state of flow various conditions are required: it involves some effort, but it is within your capacities and it gives you some kind of immediate reward

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243-244?Some people find a novel even more relaxing if they already know the end … on average people report enjoying a book more rather than less if they know what happens … However, other people definitely can’t stand knowing what’s going to happen in a book … Research has shown that the more fiction people read for simple enjoyment, the more they want to enjoy an unspoiled story

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245?There’s now good evidence that even reading to tiny three-month-olds can improve children’s literacy later on

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247?the good news for the bookworms was that they lived an average of almost two years longer than the people who only read newspapers and magazines … It is surprising that a sedentary activity might have such a positive impact on health, but perhaps reading is a more special way of resting than we realise

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249-264?rest is not a luxury … rest is essential … here’s my step-by-step guide to how to maximise your chances of resting well

1)????MAKE SURE YOU REST ENOUGH

The people with the highest levels of well-being in the Rest Test were resting for between five and six hours a day.?This sounds like a lot and you may be thinking that there is no way you could ever do that, but it is likely that you are already getting more rest than you think … If you feel you are getting enough rest you are probably right, even if it is quite a bit less than five hours a day on average

2)????PICK THE RIGHT INGREDIENTS FOR REST

take the time to consider why an activity might or might not feel restful for you

3)????GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO REST

4)????WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED PRESCRIBE YOURSELF FIFTEEN MINUTES OF YOUR FAVOURITE RESTFUL ACTIVITY

Is there an activity which can make a quick difference when you’re pressed for time??… fifteen minutes … after lunch on a weekday

5)????KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR RESTING WHEN YOU DON’T REALISE IT

make a conscious effort to appreciate those spare moments

6)????REFRAME YOUR WASTED TIME AS REST

Things that disrupt our busy schedules and leave us with nothing to do for a few moments are seen as frustrating delays, as dead time, as intensely aggravating and annoying … why not rebrand this time as an opportunity to rest for a short while??

7)????STOP FETISHISING BUSYNESS

Just accept that your to-do list will never end … having some fun with colleagues … every now and then … makes your job enjoyable … Oliver Burkeman suggests that if you constantly feel pressed for time, you should actively decide what you’re going to stop doing … Choose what to give up carefully

8)????JUST SAY ‘NO’

We have a tendency to believe that in the future we will have more spare time … this isn’t true … Unless we make a conscious decision to cut down on the number of activities and events we commit to, we will have no more time to ourselves next year than we do this year

9)????PUT BREAKS IN YOUR DIARY AS WELL AS APPOINTMENTS

getting away from your work station … getting up from your chair and getting away from your screen … And try really hard not to eat your lunch at your desk … schedule your breaks, but don’t be afraid to break that schedule either

10)?ADD SMALL, RESTFUL MOMENTS TO YOUR LIFE

how about sometimes ambling to the shops on foot instead of taking the car??We don’t always have to make the time-efficient choice

11)?CREATE A BOX OF REST

I deserve it, apparently.?Or so the people trying to sell me things keep saying … The self-care industry … in the USA alone … is now worth $4.2 trillion a year … take control of the small things in life

12)?DON’T LET YOUR SEARCH FOR REST BECOME UNRESTFUL

to embrace rest, to enjoy more of it and to take it seriously, don’t overdo it or take it too seriously … Living well involves balance, variety and moderation.?And that goes for rest too