The Art Of Knowing When NOT 2 SAY Anything Is Much Underrated Virtue in Both Politics & Organisations...
Raj Gupta Lift Others to Get Lifted
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In martial arts, they teach that when someone takes a crack at you, instead of blocking you should step away. Why, even to block you require energy - why not use it more productively?
Similarly, in order to fight petty people, you have to come down to their level. This is what they want, because now you are one of them.
So avoid falling in the trap.
Practicing aggressive listening help in comprehending layers of communication that we may not have otherwise understood because when we communicate, most of the people focus on what they want to say rather than 100% focus on listening to others point of view, reflecting on that and then responding.
Silence is not about giving way to dominance, quiet compliance, dismissal or neglect and if some people choose not to speak at some times this does not mean they are not in control, however it may be a choice that reflects empathy, regulation of emotions, to bring about harmony and prioritising the bond you share.
It is about knowing when your comment or opinion will fail to add value or make matters even worse.
This at times can be misunderstood, however, silence does not mean that one is afraid, however, at times, you shy away from argument as you are in a better position to understand that your point of view, will not be understood. Not going very far, we have all heard people saying that when one person is in state of not listening it better not to talk, no matter how much you give logic, enforce your point, he won’t just understand because he would have blocked his mind. Either you choose to speak at a later stage or let take time its toll and wait. Or maybe it is not important that you make a point at all.
We have a tendency to influence everything around us and commensurate it as per our understanding of situation. The question is, can we influence everything, or is our understanding of situation totally correct, or is it important to influence everything.
The answer may be no, so why not let it be.
We should focus on what is in our circle of influence where we can actually make an impact rather than focusing on what is outside of our circle of influence. Slowly and steadily our circle of influence will increase and we will be in better control.
Hence it is important to know when to speak and even more important to know when not to speak. Click Here to read more.
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3 年When I was in a car accident.that was my first.tbe force was so great!I'm lucky I'm alive.i know I'll make beating sounds at the airports!..lol.my care wreck made me more creative.
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3 年This is so very true.
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3 年Raj Gupta - Lift Others to Get Lifted wonderful Thought ????????
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3 年Absolutely! So many times, we only listen to respond. We don't seek to listen and understand. Empathy is totally missing.
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3 年Agree ..a task hard to master ,if not done early in life.