The Art of Getting What You Want: 10 Guiding Principles that Won't Fail You
Cherene Francis
Personal Brand Marketing Consultant and Multimedia Professional - Producer, Director, Actor for Film TV
I remember several years ago wishing and obsessing over the potential of having a freelance lifestyle where I work where I want, when I want, how I want, making as much money I desired. This may sound like a Narcissistic desire, however, this desire was birthed out of a desperate need to care for my mother who was struggling with severe schizophrenia, blindness and out of control diabetes symptoms.
I had great aspirations and it was hard for me to see myself live a normal life as many other young women did where they had all the resources and support to get to their dreams: education paid in full, an abundance of time and energy to put towards building a corporate career – freedom.
At the time, my perspective was limited as I didn’t have the specific tools and thinking modalities to help me see that my burden was actually a blessing. And with my mindset breakthrough and the proper habits in play, I manifested my dream lifestyle and I’m still on the journey…
Below are 10 Principles that guided me in manifesting exactly what I wanted: a business and lifestyle that allowed me time, energy and money freedom to care for my family and live an adventurous life.
1. Decision
The first step to getting anything in life is first deciding what you want. You must choose a definite place in order to actually arrive. Most people avoid doing this out of fear that they will be “missing out” or make the “wrong decision,” but these feelings are coming from a lower place; a negative self-outlook.
Trust that you know who you are and what you want. And don’t worry about not liking the result when you get there. You can always change your destination and move on to something better.
It makes more sense to choose what you want, rather than have it chosen for you.
2. Be SMART
Once you have decided on your goal, you want to format it so that your unconscious (aka subconscious) mind can act and move towards the goal with ease. Your unconscious mind is responsible for the “Goal-Getting.” The behavioral part, which are the habits, actions, instincts and emotions that lead you to your destination.
SMART is an acronym meaning that your goal must be Simple, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely. I lead several workshops on creating SMART goals. This is truly an art. Do not take it for granted as an elementary skill. Based on my experience, 90% of people DO NOT have SMART goals mastered.
3. Confidence
Crafting your goal is one thing, however, it will never get done if you don’t have the belief that you can do it. The great business leader, Henry Ford, said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
In fact, there is no limit on what you can do. The only limits you have are the ones you give yourself.
4. Duplication
Don’t reinvent the wheel. If you already know someone who has done what you’re deciding to achieve then simple ask.
Get mentoring and coaching to learn from people who have the experience. It will shorten your learning curve and reduce the loss of time, money and energy trying to figure it out on your own. Follow closely and sure enough, you will achieve the same if not better results.
5. Courage
This is moving forward in spite of your environment.
You may hear people mock you and or disagree with your goal.
You may see people failing or struggling at achieving a similar goal.
You may feel like there is no room for you to accomplish your goal.
Yet, there is an awesome verse from the bible that I love and that rings true in so many philosophical and business spaces:
“Walk by faith and not by sight.” (Corinthians 5:7)
Be bold and courageous in your steps with unwavering faith that you can do it.
6. Plan
Begin to reverse engineer the steps that it will take for you to get to your goal.
In your mind, imagine that you have already achieved the goal. Then begin to think “what is the last step that I took to get here.” Then from that step, ask yourself again, what did it take to get here? And repeat until you have walked backward from your goal to now.
Reverse engineering allows you to see all the steps, time, money, and energy required to achieve what you want. I walk people through this process in my group workshops and one on one coaching all the time and alleviates the fear and overwhelm attached to achieving big goals.
7. Flexibility
When you start to take action on what you want, you will find that your plan has a few flaws. Don’t change your goal, but continue to commit to your decision and be flexible with your plan. Maybe you need to get more help and resources to achieve your destination at your appointed time. Maybe you just need fresh and/or experienced eyes to take a look and determine where your plan can use some tweaking.
8. Lawfulness
In all the getting of your goals, you must consider the laws of your community and most importantly the laws of the universe. For obvious reasons, and in most cases, you don’t want to break the laws that have been set by governing bodies in your country, province or business associations. And in a spiritual or philosophical space, using the laws of the universe or your governing faith will help you get to your goals faster.
Although there are debated to be 7 – 21+ universal laws, here are some that I subscribe to. You can find detailed descriptions of these laws all over the web and specifically in this book:
- The Law of Divine Oneness
- The Law of Action
- The Law of Vibration
- The Law of Correspondence
- The Law of Cause and Effect
- The Law of Compensation
- The Law of Attraction
- The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy
- The Law of Gestation
- The Law of Relativity
- The Law of Polarity
- The Law of Rhythm
- The Law of Belief
- The Law of Gender
9. Obsession
This may sound sinful, but it’s not. It’s simply having strong perpetual and positive emotion towards the goal that you are looking to achieve.
Great passion is massive energy that your unconscious mind will use to keep you motivated and drive you towards what you want. This is the energy that has people wake up at 4 am and 5 am every morning to get work done.
Trust me, without it, your dreams will simply remain fantasies.
10. Commitment
Commitment is required for manifesting what you want. The moment you waver from the target, you literally have to start back at one.
It’s just like being a pregnant woman. You can’t abort a baby and then say, “No, I change my mind! I want my baby back!”
You would have to go through the entire gestation process all over again from the beginning.
Commit and stay to the end until you have given birth to your desires.
Let’s Get What You Want Now!
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In the plan, you stated that one should act as if the goal has been attained. The idea can be substantiated from the Holy Bible in the book of St Mark 11:24.
Lifelong Learner
7 年Thanks for your pointers Cherene Francis. Like you my motivation to move away from a 9-5 job is my mom as the catalyst. My resolve from a while back to care for her drove me to search for a career in which I had some control especially with timing. I just launched my mortgage agent business so I am still learning- I consider myself a lifelong learner and I have dedicated myself to help individuals achieve their goals in real estate. So even though my mom is the catalyst my inner desire to help others will keep me on track. So thanks for outlining those steps.