Anti-Abuse & Anti-Bullying Framework To Protect S'pore Educators

In our 21 years of operations since 2003, we have only terminated a total of 4 enrolments, and all are due to the parents' attitude and behaviour.

The most strenuous job in education is dealing with problematical parents, not children.

No matter how difficult a young child is, children are still more innocent, teachable and mouldable than adults, who can be malicious, unreasonable, abusive and compulsive liars.

We never give up on any child; children are never an issue unless their parents are.

When the parents are the root problems and causing unnecessary distress, stress and ruckus, and cannot be reasoned or be helped by any intervention for their own lives, we have to act promptly.

Last Dec, we terminated two enrolments, equivalent to 50% of our total terminations in just one month, signalling red flags of the society we are becoming.

There is an increasing trend of unruly parents who are more than just demanding and unreasonable.

They share common traits of having grandiose views of themselves, poor self-awareness, and possessing no self-reflection abilities.

Typically, they would either play victim or superior to demand their way.

They would never think they are in the wrong, and even when they do, they will typically deny, lie, accuse, slander, defame and/or intimidate vehemently.

The worst part of this toxic trend is that there are expectations that schools and educators are to tolerate and accept such self-entitled and abusive behaviour imposed upon us by professionals ourselves, our schools, other parents and society.

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We have interesting stories to share.

A set of new citizen parents were verbally and mentally abusive to various of our staff on several occasions.

Muddled with her personal problems, even being unhappy with the heavy rain on her way here gives her a reason to vent her anger on our staff, and then she'd apologise and accuse and scold our staff again.

Another set of parents who not only mollycoddle and condone their child's daily abusive behaviour, but expect other children and us to suffer injuries and damages in silence and as part of work.

They did nothing to manage, teach or discipline their child and insist that there is nothing wrong with their child, and we must also say likewise.

Everyone needs to revolve around their child; assuming other children aren't as precious is just so immoral.

The last straw was when, in an unprovoked attack, their boy maliciously PULLED OUT a big chunk of hair on a little girl.

When one's hair is being pulled, it is already harrowing.

Imagine the excruciating pain and the dangerous psychopathic possibility of pulling out someone's hair!

Our hearts broke for the victim. Our team had sleepless nights.

However, the perpetrator's parents did not even mention a word of concern at all for the victim nor even show the slightest decent remorse on behalf of their child!

Instead, they are incredibly passive-aggressive and highly defensive.

When instructed by us to write an apology note and a compensatory act towards the child, they wrote that their child was "just playing with her" when we already told them that it was an unprovoked attack.

We rejected it and told them to rewrite it as trivialising a wrong, especially such an abusive act, will only aggravate the pain and suffering of the victim and their family.

The perpetrator's parents got the cheek to give a FREEBIE CATALOGUE from a stack of junk they didn't want from home as a compensatory act.

The victim's parents were bewildered as to why they gave "advertisements" to them as an apology.

They refuse to show sincere apologies to the child and her family because they do not even feel sorry at all. If their child was attacked the same way, they'd definitely react differently.

This set of Filipino parents who are working in Singapore is so malicious and narcissistic they twisted the story and lodged a complaint against us for treating them too severely over the brutal attack committed by their child.

They even lied in their complaint that because their child cried at home, therefore, he was the one being abused since it was his last day of school. And we didn't know it was the child's last day since they didn't inform us even.

The thieves cry, "Stop, thief!"

After viewing the CCTV evidence, the mum gave a Jezebel grin and proclaimed, "I can't see how my 'sweet boy' pulled the hair out." That is the kind of evil parents we have to deal with.

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Regardless of one's age, race, language, religion or nationality, everyone should practice the Golden Rule of treating others as they would like to be treated.

Narcissism and Self-Entitlement are diseases spreading like wildfire and affecting public health and safety negatively.

These are more dreadful and deadly costly diseases than COVID-19, but nobody is doing something serious about this instead.

No one has the right to let their bad attitude, behavioural, mental health, marital and character problems affect others' mental health and work morale.

We have permitted teachers and school staff to be abused by some parents and students for way too long. Although these are the minority, even one case is too much and too many.

As educators and school support staff in various types of educational setups, we must not and do not deserve to be bullied or abused.

Upon checking, there is NO legal framework and no national framework that protects the educators and staff working in educational institutions from parental and student abuse. Zero.

ECDA is evasive and ignores our pleas to have a clear legal framework for dealing with abusive and offensive parents and students.

ECDA proves to be an expensive burden to our ecosystem as it fails to do its job well for taxpayers and the country. It has failed persistently in what they do or claims they do.

ECDA's response is highly inefficient and proves incompetent of justice, fairness and ethics as they display no sense of right and wrong and do nothing to protect or even want to speak up for anything suitable, besides snubbing the government's drive for efficiency and productivity.

The late Mr Lee Kuan Yew (1923-2015) laid the foundations for creating a first-world education system in Singapore. Undoubtedly, a practical national legal framework that protects the instrumental people in education is vital to being a first-world society without a third-world mentality of people behaving badly towards teachers helping raise the next generations.

We need your utmost support in our Anti-Bullying initiative to stop bullying and abusing teachers.

We invite and hope all individual professionals and educational institutions to stand up and protect ourselves from verbal, physical, mental, emotional, psychological and social abuse from parents and students (especially the older ones).

https://chng.it/zqt5ykHSbB

We also hope sensible and reasonable parents will support and spread the word to protect those teaching children and the next generations.? ?

We need everyone, including professionals from all walks of life, to show your support and help move Singapore towards a better society.

THINK LONG-TERM

If parents don't learn how to respect their teachers and others, how can you expect children to learn to respect you, the laws and the country?

If parents do not teach and discipline their children correctly, do you want to wait until the laws and courts take over to help parent them and live in regret?

Please show your support by signing this petition! https://chng.it/zqt5ykHSbB

We need to present it to our governmental leaders to not only listen but act on this for the advancement and future of Singapore.

#SingaporePresident #Tharman #PMO #MOE #MSF #ChanChunSing #MasagosZulkifi #dotherightthings #futureleaders #ECDAneedseriousoverhaul