Another Trip Around The Sun

Another Trip Around The Sun… Can We Slow This Rocket Ship Down?

So the day has arrived - I’m turning 61 - it’s the other side of 60, and pretty damn sobering to realize that I’ve completed 75-80% of life’s journey (if I’m lucky and statistically average). How the hell did I get here so fast? I realize that’s a silly question, but I’m still trying to wrap my head around this backside of 60.  

I still have such vivid memories of being a child myself (and some days I choose to act like one). It seems only yesterday I was playing with my children - now I’m playing with grandchildren and realizing my knees don’t hold up so well on the hardwood floor. The reality of life - and all the inevitable changes that occur - are happening.

So I’m getting older. The truth is, I don’t mind getting older. My life is richly blessed beyond measure. I sit here today with a home; my health; an incredible spouse; a great relationship with my daughter, her husband (who I call son), two awesome grandsons, and a grand daughter whose smile lights the room; and I have wonderful friends. I get to do work I love (teaching, coaching, investing) and I have a great supply of bourbon and red wine. That’s not bad at 61.

In honor of this big day, I sat down and wrote out 61 things I now know to be true - sort of life lessons. If I’m lucky and I get to 62 next year, I’ll add another observation to the list. I’ll keep going for as long as I keep going. And if I’m lucky, I’ll create a really long list.

Here they are, Michael Burcham’s 61 life lessons... more to come I hope.

This year’s Addition:  

• If you want something permanent, get a tattoo.

My previous 60:

• If I want to feel pretty, a quick trip to Walmart does the trick.
• Some of the most beautiful things have dents, scratches and scars - including people.
• The little things in life turn out to be the big things.
• Your kids aren’t you - they need to make their own path.
• Religion that requires belonging and believing what you are told isn’t transforming. It’s a cult.
• God has a great sense of humor - just look around.
• Gratitude multiplies happiness.
• Don’t be ashamed of yourself, that’s your parent’s job.
• Why try to fit in when you were born to stand out.
• Speak even if your voice shakes.
• Showing vulnerability is not weakness - it takes massive courage.
• There is no common ground in fiction - don’t even try.
• We are more defined by what comes out of our mouth than what goes in it.
• Before you climb the ladder of success, make sure it’s leaning against the right building.
• Infatuation is not love. Know the difference.
• You are in control of your own heaven or hell. They form in your mind.
• It’s better to master one thing than to be just average at many.
• Narcissists make really bad friends.
• Art makes me happier than new clothes.
• You are stronger and more resilient than you think.
• Most of the people who condemn you in the name of God wouldn’t recognize him if they met him.
• You’ll never know what opportunities lie behind the next door until you walk through the one in front of you.
• Live life looking forward, learn its lessons by looking backward.
• A meal is nicer with red wine.
• I’ve outgrown some friends. That’s totally ok.
• Grey hair beats no hair.
• I prefer real books to e-books.
• Music playing in the house makes me smile.
• Lying is not okay. Ever. It’s the worst character flaw.
• We all need a few guilty pleasures.
• Being a grandparent is way better than being the parent.
• I hope to never again set foot in a mall. Ever. Never ever.
• A “food court” is not food. 
• Optimism is healthier than pessimism.
• Drunks at parties are not fun. (Never be that person.)
• Going to bed by 9:00 PM is awesome.
• “Move on” is great advice.
• A genuine smile can also be seen in the eyes.
• Buying stuff doesn’t make the emptiness go away.
• Saying thank you matters.
• What works for me might not be right for you. That’s OK.
• “What’s your story?” is more interesting than “What do you do?”
• Fulfillment is the measure of success. It’s never about the money.
• Box wine is a sacrilege - in fact it’s the 8th deadly sin.
• There’s no dress rehearsal in life - you get one shot. Make it count.
• After 30 - few people change their behavior.
• You will fail if you are brave enough.
• Trying to out run criticism is a full time job.
• People are rarely who we want them to be. That’s not their fault.
• Confidence is inspiring. Arrogance is offensive. 
• Grief is love with nowhere to go.
• The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.
• An argumentative person is simply showing their lack of self confidence.
• Love heals - time doesn’t.
• Control is an illusion.
• What looks like luck is usually a lot of hard work.
• Make memories of moments. They sustain you after loss.
• The secret to success: Wake up, Clean up, Dress up and Show up.
• When one door closes, another door opens. Unfortunately we often spend so much time staring at the door that has closed with regret that we cannot even see the door that has opened.
• You only get a birthday if you’re alive on this beautiful planet. So celebrate.

Time to buckle up and make another trip around the sun.