Another chapter from my book about Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy

In this chapter, I compare and contrast the experiences of other members of my family before, during, and after tragic events like most recently the death of my mother. Following a suicide attempt in 2019 just before Christmas, my sister Carrie Whealton (https://www.dhirubhai.net/in/carrie-whealton-79427924/) barely demonstrated any concern for my well being or if I was having a merry Christmas. Years earlier, Carrie had said that I caused the family troubles or problems or something like that.

The above photo shows Carrie Whealton on the left, Elee my second wife, and Kathleen Whealton my mother, who died last month.

I had reported Child abuse to Child Protective Services in Dumfries Virginia based exclusively on what my niece, Emily Whealton, (https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100019265477692) told me and what I witnessed. I did not add to or amend anything beyond what I witnessed or what Emily Whealton told me. I NEVER expected that the children would be removed from the family. Indeed, they never were removed. John Whealton (https://linkedin.com/in/johnwhealton) was never sent to jail or prison. It was supposed to be an anonymous report but for unknown reasons the police were involved and they are not obliged to maintain anonymity, I suppose. It is rare for the police to get involved I was told.

Here is a photo of my brother from his LinkedIn profile. Despite our past disagreements, I do want to reconnect and understand what happened.

His daughter Emily is pictured below.

Above is a photo of Emily Whealton.

I wasn't sure if I was overly sensitive to what I was seeing and thus I was blown away when I discovered that the police were involved. Never in a million years would I have imagined that a Child Protective Services agency would need to involve the police in a matter of the nature that I had reported. I had been asked if she was cut or injured all over her body to which I said that I had no way of knowing that. As usual, they start with a phone call and seek to find out some background information to decide whether or not to proceed. They ALWAYS begin to find out if someone might be exaggerating their concerns. Even the best of us can over-react and they are prepared for that. They are EXTREMELY hesitant to even make a home visit.

What is totally and completely bizarre is how something with no consequences was a problem for the family according to Carie Whealton. Yet, far more disturbing events in my life that had very real consequences had were not problems for the family. Elee said even at a time when she was mad at me, that "you don't treat your enemies the way you treated Bruce." Elee and I had some problems and I was at my wit's end when this happened and I called my sister. Despite being mad at me, Elee was blown away with shock at the mere suggestion that I caused the family problems according to Carrie. She knew that Carrie was not being honest at all.

The mere suggestion that I had divorced myself from the family was a form of gaslighting and it would go nowhere with my wife even when she was very, very angry at me. This was a time when Elee might have been expected to say something bad about me. If ever there was a time for someone to say something negative or critical about someone they loved this was the time. She was not at a point where she was ready to defend me in 2017 at the darkest time in our relationship. In fact, Elee was looking for a sympathetic ear to tell her that her husband Bruce was less than perfect. If ever there was a time for her to agree that there were things that I did wrong this was it. Instead, despite all expectations to the contrary, she rose to my defense at such patently absurd claims that I ever caused the family any problems.

In private, she thought I had been raised by devils and wondered how I could have come out so normal and good.