THE ANNOYING DAY I SPENT CHASING A FLY!

We must know when a season is ending and when a new type of journey or a change in course is needed. I have often felt that I am the type of person who stays too long in situations that I am not happy about and often to my own detriment. I have now resolved to make my up own mind about the issues that impact my life. There is no such thing called perfect decision making in this world but often decisions have to be made and often very tricky decisions. This morning I am feeling very reflective about my life and the choices I have made and remembered a rather interesting experience involving a fly.

Flies! I often marvel at nature and the wonders and extremities of our beautiful world. We live in a diversely and intricately created world and we share the world with many furry, funny, fantastic, famous and often ferocious insects, animals and plants. The Fly! It was a rather ordinary day and i decided to spend the moment doing some introspection on my life and fittingly so as I felt I had somewhat unexpectedly reached an age that I considered rather meaningful.

I always have been a dreamer and as a young student was regularly assaulted with reminders to stop day dreaming and listen to my teacher. I am a dreamer and can so easily get lost in my own world of imaginings and revel in visions of the future and even the present forgetting my current pursuits. That is the general prototype of a dreamer, a dreamer is always very forward thinking and even before they finish their latest endeavour are planning the next step. I have very regularly in my life had to stop and assess my journey in its entirety and see whether the direction I had chosen would yield the dreams I so cherished.

Back to the fly: As I sat down to indulge my nostalgic reveries a wave of interesting emotions assailed me and then an unwelcome visitor, a fly emerged and there began my chase. Flies are quite stubborn beings and rarely respond to instructions. As I gesticulated in frustration in a bid to let the fly out of the window i realised that life is often like the fly. We have roads that we wish we had chosen or that had chosen us and are stuck sometimes quite frustratingly in limbo in situations we would rather not have been in hindsight. The more I tried to chase the fly, the more the fly refused to leave and then in exhausted anxiety I resigned to the presence of the fly and tried to continue my musings. No sooner had I stopped chasing the fly, the fly would suddenly enter my radar and begin quite aggressively to interfere with my ability to focus on my current pursuit. I then tried without much success to ignore the fly’s annoying attempts at disrupting my work and then again would try and chase the fly in the direction of the nearest window. After repeated attempts I again settled on a strategy of ignoring the unwelcome intruder and turn a blind eye but still to no avail. This continued for a long time until I finally chased out the fly and was relieved that my environment had finally been restored to a calm oasis for the day at least.

As I pondered on my encounter with the fly I was reminded of so many life lessons and thought how wonderful that a fly can teach us such profound lessons as we are often confronted with challenges and problems we would rather avoid. I am, at my very core, a conflict averse person but have learnt that conflict is rarely avoidable and what is needed is a skilful handling and a diplomatic nature that seeks to build while also trying to understand the roots of problems and conflicts that arise inevitably.

We must all seek to walk a road that is worthy of the dignity we all have. When a situation becomes like my annoying experience with the fly, i.e. the problem that won't go away then that is the point to say, 'Are you really powerless in that position or can you do something about it.' I read somewhere that there are often two type of problems in any situation of a vexing nature, it may be a problem and that is the better diagnosis or it may be a predicament where options are rather limited to extricate yourself from that scenario. In a problem scenario a solution may be available and there is hope at least, you need not stay in such a situation at all. You can, in a considered and reflective way find new roads, if that will help or even seek counsel but why just do nothing.

A predicament is somewhat different and is often the most annoying because then options are limited indeed but even then you may have a long term hope of that situation ending and often all you can do then is in the best way possible plod onwards with a positive attitude and hope for an ending that dignifies your life. MINDSETS that say i am stuck and have no options have kept many in problematic situations or places forever. ANY FAILURE OR EVEN ABJECT FAILURE SITUATION HAS A REDEMPTIVE OPPORTUNITY:)

Enjoy your weekend and whatever you are facing, may hope never leave your heart:) We must all live lives that truly match our greatest desires and restore dignity to our lives or at least lives that we can at the end of our lives be able to live the legacy we envision. We can dream and that is no crime. We are free to at least see a better tomorrow even when we face a difficult today;) Have a relaxing day and a day free type of impediment