AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER ????

Thought-provoking ."If you do not get what (whom) you love,start loving what (whom) you get" is ?a ?sensible approach for a peace and happiness.

This brilliant article I posted 11 years ago on social media was shared with me by cousin. Everyone should read it ...it's a great reminder...the words of wisdom here is worth the read ?? ??

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During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right?person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next?to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?"

In all?seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question?because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the?author. Here's the answer.

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Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with?your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like?their idiosyncrasies.. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a?completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO?anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

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People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the?ex-pression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing,?and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and?spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being?together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY?relationship.

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Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),?touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's?idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of?this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic?difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much?duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your?partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you?reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to?desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships?breakdown.

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The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person;?it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for?fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes.?Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a?hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer?to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within?it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You?could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same?situation a few years later.

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Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a?relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the?person you found.

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SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to?work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. Andmost importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make?it work. Make no mistake about it. ?Love is NOT a mystery. There are?specific?things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are?physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for?relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are?predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.