Am I Mad? Sacrificing Security, to Find Purpose...

When I told friends I was training to become a professional coach, many of them looked at me as if I was mad.

They couldn’t understand why I would leave behind the comfort of a “normal” job and life, especially after everything I had been through.

But then, many of them hadn’t lived through the life-changing events and circumstances that shaped my path.

During my time in prison and following my release, I embarked on a journey of profound change and self-transformation.

I enrolled in the world’s leading coaching school, and for the next six years, I immersed myself in learning and practicing a new way of being, one that would lead to me becoming a new version of myself.

It was a path that would dramatically change my life.

At that stage, I could have easily chosen to return to a regular job, earning the same kind of money I did before prison.

But I knew deep down that wasn’t an option for me.

I was in the midst of working through some dark and traumatic experiences, as I worked fully on altering the beliefs and attitudes that had led to deep feelings of guilt and self loathing, so the idea of just "going back to normal" simply wasn't possible for me.

I chose instead to commit fully to this journey of self-mastery, quietly working away on myself, day by day.

Outwardly people may have assumed I was struggling, but internally I was growing.

When I decided to set up my own coaching practice, I knew it would require significant sacrifice.

There was no support, or mentorship helping me, I had to do it all by myself. Learning the in's and out's of running a business from scratch.

And naturally I made many mistakes along the way. And still do!

But with each mistake or set back we grow further, if we choose to see the opportunity ahead of the problem.

I had to give up the luxuries I once enjoyed—the nice car, the holidays, the financial security that comes with a steady pay cheque.

I had to let go of those comforts because I understood that being the best I can be internally, and at what I do professionally, required total commitment.

And that’s the key—total commitment.

But here’s the reality that most people don’t see.

Much of the time, I have had to face the uncertainty of not knowing whether I’ll have enough money to pay my rent that month. Never mind spend money on myself.

As an entrepreneur building a business, especially through challenging times such as Covid, and a cost of living crisis, if you don’t get paid or sign up regular new clients, you can be left literally penniless.

And It really would be so easy to just quit during those moments, especially when some clients don’t fully commit to the work we do together, or if I’m not paid on time for the time, money and energy I invest into the process of working together.

It can be challenging and demoralising... If you allow it to be so!

Especially when people don’t realise the impact that late payments can have, not just on their own progress but on me as well.

Thankfully the work I do, on myself, helps me stay on top of these potential drains to my energy.

I choose to live life in the moment, and not dwell too much on the maybe's, and what if's...

As a result, I no longer fear any outcome or worry about things.

I’m fully committed to helping my clients transform their lives, and create the same mental and emotional balance I now have.

I fully believe in the work we do together, and the methodology I now live by.

But the reality is that, like anyone else, I have bills to pay, and when payments are delayed, it can leave you struggling to cover even the basics.

So why do I keep going when surely it would be easier to 'just do something else'?

Am I mad to continue when the rewards can be so uncertain?

Should I focus more on myself and less on helping others, especially when the sacrifices can feel overwhelming?

The truth is, I know my work works.

I don’t need to prove it, I’m living evidence of it.

After all I’ve been through, finding peace of mind and happiness despite the fact I literally have no family left, and when I’ve sacrificed financial security to build this career, proves to me that what I do internally makes a difference.

I work with clients who, on the surface, have so much more than I do. And yet they lack that peace of mind and happiness.

By rights it should be the other way around!

My life may not look perfect, from the outside, in the material sense, but considering all I have been through I am a whole lot happier than a lot of people in 'better' financial positions than I am.

When you commit to achieving something fully, in life, and cut out all the bullshit distractions and excuses, nothing can stop you from being successful, even when you have to go through tough, uncertain times, and set backs, where you question whether the sacrifices are worth it.

Because it is in those moments that you remember exactly why you're doing it...

All of these challenges make you stronger, more resilient and determined to go on creating something amazing with your life.

So, am I mad? Maybe.

But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

It's my purpose in life!!

Learn More about my Life Changing Journey Here: https://the-mens-coach.com