Am I complete?

In success, we keep chasing and in failure we keep brooding. Achievements and success surely guarantee glory and pride. But, achievers need to keep running as their goal posts keeps changing. No choice, they have to run all the time to retain the top spot! But, those who fail lose all their confidence and sink in frustration and disappointment. They think life is lost. Sadly, our happiness and existence are driven by external goals and achievements. Can success, pride and glory alone make you complete? Of course NO.

We hardly have time to think about our own inner self. Is it required? Yes…it can help in getting a sense of inner peace, self-acceptance, and the alignment of one’s actions with their values and purpose. This can lead to one becoming whole, fulfilled, and content and to me its completeness.

Don’t you agree as one moves higher and higher in worldly pursuits/achievements, he is forced to compromise on his values and hide his ugly self leading to a life of internal struggle and lack of peace. As one grows externally and bask in the glory, he should also equally evolve internally as a good human being. In Maslow’s words, it is self-actualization and in philosophy, it is self realization. Psychologically, it is a dynamic process of growth and self-improvement.

How to go about it? Understanding who you are at your core is essential for identifying what brings you joy and satisfaction. This helps in defining the purpose which is integral to the journey of completeness. A sense of purpose gives direction and motivation, enriching your life with a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Self- acceptance is another crucial aspect of feeling complete and it fosters resilience. It means embracing yourself, including your flaws and imperfections. Else, the inner critic, or negative self-talk, can erode self-confidence and self-worth.

Being kind to oneself is equally very important. Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend.

Never compare yourself with others and this can undermine your sense of completeness. Everyone’s journey is unique, and focusing on your own path and progress is essential for self-fulfillment.

Completeness might be more accurately described as a journey rather than a destination, involving continuous self reflection, learning, adaptation, and growth. Ultimately, feeling complete is about embracing your unique journey, finding peace within yourself, and living a life aligned with your values and aspirations. It’s not running after and it’s evolving within!