Always value others more than they deserve

God has been very kind in giving us this life and we must be grateful to him always. We give some people more than what they deserve only when we love them more than they do! Only love has the power of “ giving “ . When we love, we give give give and give! When the other one loves us back, they too give give give and give. So in a healthy relationship, both parties give their part to make the bond stronger.

We give and keep giving because that's how we express our love. And if you think they are not worthy of receiving it, move silently,no rage, frustration or disappointment. Now you love yourself more and that's why you feel the need to check what you give ! When you feel more pain than love, that's when you stop giving ! Because you have it more than you require and the world is a selfish place, not everyone is as amazing as you are who are concerned to give away to others. Take pride in that & never regret because at one point of time in your life you did exactly what you wanted to do.

Keep it in mind and don’t be judgmental because it is your superiority complex that makes you think others are less deserving person, what illusory thought made you believe that you are a person of epitome of good virtues and therefore be a generous giver. You are not just anybody but a wise noble soul, correct your perception , be humble, avoid boasting , cultivate kindness and ability to think rationally and judge not yet to be judged by others.

There can be two scenarios here one is that a person knows that he is getting more than he deserves and he believes he is important enough. In the first case, person might want to find out your angle. Why are you giving him something extra. There must be something you want from him favour/kindness/love/ and there always is something. Once he finds out that, he can play you according to the importance of your want. Or he might just fulfill your want if he is pleased enough and he is good enough to you.

In second case, person would behave like someone who would deserve that much importance. He would act like a more important person than he actually is. But, deep down your heart, you know he is not worthy. In long run, sometimes his actions may fail to instigate the reactions from you, which he thinks, would have been appropriate. Subconsciously you may misbehave with his definitions of himself which you helped create, while you would think you did fine.

Sometimes you make yourself vulnerable to their actions. You give them immense power to hurt you with a trust that they wouldn't. But the fact is, knowingly or not, they do and you cannot even blame anyone but yourself for letting them. Air is the first requirement to sustain human life - air, breath, oxygen - that is what truly sustains our life. You spend every living moment consuming it. But have you ever observed it? As in observed it consciously? Mostly not until it is especially sweet or stinking bad.

Have we ever thought as to why do people put so much effort in food, clothes, houses, cars, etc. Why not in the air which they breathe? Because it is always there. You need to buy food or you will run out of it. Preserve it or it will go bad. Maintain your house or it will crumble. Pay the taxes or government will snatch it. But air - you know it will always be there. It might improve or worsen a bit but it will always be there.

And the same goes for human beings and relations. If you are always there for someone, they will slowly stop observing you or your place in their life. They will start taking you for granted and proceed with things without keeping you or your preferences in mind. We keep on giving more and more importance to people thinking they will appreciate it more. But life and human nature does not work like that. Once an assurance kicks in, people become lackadaisical towards it as they cannot think of a scenario where the person will not be there. Cheers!