Be Alone and comfortable

"Where to go?", "With whom to talk to?" These are a couple of challenges we tend to face at some point or the other in our busy lives. Helpless feeling of loneliness and not knowing what to do or where to go stares us in our faces.

?During my coaching sessions and while interacting with professionals, these topics invariably crop up directly or indirectly. Senior citizens too, talk about loneliness or being ignored.

Getting into such an empty space, or a void, on-and-off leads to a lack of clarity and drop in productivity. This happens to people of all age-groups--no exceptions.

I pondered over this situation trying to find out why such instances happened. These could be some of the common reasons:

1. Not developing a network outside one’s comfort zone.

2. Feeling that we can do everything on our own.

3. Having more resources than one can handle.

4. Not being present for others when they need you.

5. Ego, a false sense of superiority, and an "I-know- everything" attitude.

Obviously; There will be many other reasons which are specific to individuals…

See the above Pie-diagram, where do you think you are today? It makes sense for us to start our journey from our current point. Your journey should lead you to the desired destination: "Be Alone". "Being Alone" is the place where your growth is fastest and you are in your most-productive zone.

On and off when you feel lonely, confused, it is better to be in a crowded place. In a crowd you will find energy. You will be gently pushed in multiple directions.?

True, at times you will feel confused in a crowd. Decision-dilemma will drain your energy. ?Pick and choose high positive energy for yourself. Avoid people who drain your energy.

Now is the time to move towards "Small group/s or focus group/s". This zone will lead you towards your goals. This is a high and positive energy zone. You will feel at home with these growth-mindset people. These people have enough knowledge to challenge you, direct you and help you reach your potential.

Now it is easier for you to select “Chosen few” with whom you wish to work, going forward. This is where you will get utmost clarity for your goals.?Bingo! Now your path, and focus, are both clear. You are on the highway, where you have to drive comfortably.

Filled with high positive energy will lead you to "Being Alone”.?"Being Alone" is the most comfortable zone for being productive and is the fertile zone for self- growth. Care should be taken while being in this zone. There is every chance you may slip into "Lonely zone, and you are back to Square One.

"Being Alone" is your place. When you go for a trek or a long walk / drive, you savor the feeling you are alone. This helps you to be present and aware. You would have come across this comfortable feeling while meditating because you are alone with yourself. You enjoy the silence and the stillness which is eternal.

Enjoy your Aloneness, be happy and comfortable. And grow to your fullest potential.