Allow others to be who they are: Detachment

What we do and we don't is up to us because we all for whatever we want so for example if someone wants to go to a place that is no benefit of her or him and if I stop her. She will think that this person don't want me to go. She will think from negative side that there is benefit of this person that forcing me not to go. Or if someone is happy and I am generating her happiness of his happiness with her again there is a problem. He or she will think that there is something. So let's not stop anyone from doing anything they want.

Because trying to control the world-or even one other person-is exhausting. Not to mention, it’s not your business. Recently someone I care for was experiencing a self-created poop storm. I don’t normally get in other people’s business, but this was someone I really care about and it’s a giant poop storm. I noticed myself wanting to tell her to do this or that. I wanted to do things for her. I also noticed how heavy and dark I started to feel and backed off. I don’t want her stuff. I want her to handle her own stuff. I want her to grow so that she doesn’t find herself here again. Her actions led to her situation. Only her actions would get her out. It’s her life. I can’t attend to my life if I’m dictating hers.

Try to stand in their shoes and think why they are pissing you off or making you angry. If they seem right, then it's your fault and if they seem wrong, then follow this method. For those people who mean a lot to you piss you off, think of all the good things that they have done to you and of all the good moments and memories that you share with them. That's what I do and it always works. For those people who don't mean a lot to you piss you off, just ignore them. They are not important to your life anyways. So what they say and do shouldn't matter to you and it definitely won't get to you. So, I put her baggage down and re-established the boundary. It felt a lot better.

Incompatibility, I'm introverted and because of that I've developed some unique interests that other people don't have and it makes me really uncomfortable when they see my hobbies as boring and meaningless that they want me to adopt there way of life. Lies, for the last 22yrs of my life I've been lying to get out of trouble or to get things done my way, I just fell exhausted about the whole thing now I also have learned to detect lies. I really get angry when someone is trying to drag me back to what I'm trying to run from, I want to be honest and truthful.

Mind games: should I feel the slightest hint that a girl is playing a game on me, I'm out ,and I'm done. Narcissism, why would you think you are better than me and in the process of proving it you put me down and make fun of me,when all I wanted was a good friend. Nice guys/girls, if there is something I've learned is that these people are hypocrites they are only nice to you because of something they want from you once they get it they discard you, I tell you it's not fun.

Recklessness, why would you engage in doing things that are harmful to your health like drugs, partying all night, sleeping around, being an outlaw and call it bravery. no that's not bravery it's foolishness and I'm going nowhere with a fool. Passive aggressiveness, why would you give me silent treatment so that I can involuntarily do or give you what you want. Close minded, every now and then a new thing comes up ,an easy way to complete a task or a new life hack, and how would you be updated in these things if you don't want to learn them.

Well, complacency, lacking emotional intelligence, this kind of person can drive you insane. Lacking morals. Being negative and spreading negativity, how i hate these red pill coaches and gurus, how I hate feminists and why would you brainwash young men and women to such a hollow and empty life just because of your bad experiences. Putting me on a pedestal, I really won't live up to your expectations and I am afraid of the falling I will experience once you see me for who I am. Cockiness? Justifying your bad behavior because you're just a kid in your 20s you don't what you are doing, forget you. You ain't a kid, you're a moron. Indecisive and procrastinating forever? Cheers!