All Gave Some. Some Gave All.

by Chris Cantergiani on May 29th, 2023

Summer doesn’t technically start until June 21st this year, but it’s hard not to see this weekend as the kick-off of the season. As much as I love summer, I have to admit that some years the significance of Memorial Day can get lost in the excitement of summer’s arrival.

I’ve been thinking a lot about Arlington National Cemetery recently. A dear friend from high school, Heather (Mallory) Simmons, passed away unexpectedly last year. A few days ago I found out she will be interred at Arlington in July. I am simultaneously so proud of her, and so sad she’s gone.

While I was debating making a trip to the national cemetery for her ceremony in a few weeks, I started thinking about my dad’s best friend, Dennis Ryder. He and my dad became friends in the Air Force back in the 60’s, and some of my earliest memories involve the two of them in Nebraska when I was a kid in the 1970’s. Dennis’s death from a heart attack in 2000 came as a shock to our whole family. Later, when I moved to Washington D.C. and visited Arlington National Cemetery on Memorial Day in 2009 with my family, I told them stories about Dennis on the drive over. Although I remembered he was buried there - along with more that 400,000 other men and women who served our country - I didn’t have the slightest clue exactly where in the 639 acres he had been placed. Looking for him would have been like looking for a needle in a haystack. I hadn’t planned that far in advance. Heck, I hadn’t even planned where to park! Luckily I found a spot on a random side street, right next to the (rather low) cemetery walls. We wandered in, walked the rolling hills and saw the iconic Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Every single grave had an American flag. It was an awe inspiring sight. After a few hours, we began winding our way back to the car. I spotted the car on the other side of cemetery wall, and began making a beeline through the tombstones for it. When I was about 30 feet away from the car, my son and his mother called out to me:

”Hey… what was Grandpa’s friend’s name?” I slowly turned around. “Lt. Colonel Dennis Ryder,” I said. “Why?”

“I think we found him,” they said, somewhat stunned.

They did. It was Dennis.

To this day, I can’t believe we literally stumbled on his grave. Today, I’m thinking of Dennis, Heather and the hundreds of thousands of other men and women who served our country but are no longer with us.

You are truly missed.

Now, on with this week’s Ohio EFT Newsletter:

Does Therapy Really Work? Let’s Unpack That.

by Susan Dominus on May 29th, 2023

Last week the New York Times Magazine dedicated the entire issue to therapy. I’ll post several of the articles here, but if you only have time for one: This article is a must-read. Research shows that counseling delivers great benefits to many people. But it’s hard to say exactly what that means for you, no matter if you are a client or the therapist. As always, each of the links here will get you behind the paywall as a ‘gift article’. Please enjoy!

I’m A Couples Therapist. Something New Is Happening In Relationships.

by Orna Guralnik on May 29, 2023

For more and more of Orna Guralnik’s patients, the ideas behind Black Lives Matter and #MeToo are leading to breakthroughs at home. Hear from this fascinating therapist who has been seeing couples since the mid-1990’s in this second article from the New York Times Magazine’s Therapy Issue.

What Your Therapist Doesn’t Tell You.

by Amy X. Wang on May 29, 2023

The third article I’d like to share is this one. It’s a clever look at what’s it’s really like to sit in the “other” armchair, as told by a dozen professional counselors.

Want To Fix Your Mind? Let Your Body Talk.

by Daniel Bergner on May 29th, 2023

Somatic therapy is surging, with the promise that true healing may reside in focusing on the physical rather than the mental. The fourth and final article I’ll share from The New York Times Magazine’s special Therapy Issue can be found here. There are quite a few other articles well worth checking out in this issue if you’re looking for some summer reading material.

Ohio EFT’s Next Monthly Google Meet Video Call - Next Friday, June 30th @ 9:00am (EST)

by Ohio EFT on May 15th, 2023

Join us at 9:00am Friday, June 30th, for our continuing discussion about the 9 steps of EFT. In our May call we reached the end of Stage 3 and talked about termination. In June we’ll set aside the steps and stages and instead we’ll talk about EFiT, EFFT, a slew of different workshops and more. If you missed any of our calls on the early steps of EFT, make a plan to pick back up with us as we launch back into Step 1 later this summer. I’ll have a link to the call in our next newsletter.

Free Webinar I Wish We Didn’t Have To Have.

by Kara Baskin on May 29th, 2023

Join this Boston-based Discovery Museum Speaker Series event to hear specialists in child behavior, trauma, and exposure to violence discuss how to answer children’s questions about gun violence and manage our own fears as we try to keep them safe. Speakers include Dr. Neena?McConnico, Director of Boston Children's Center's Child Witness to Violence Project; Dr. Patricia Crain de?Galarce, Director of Lesley University's Center for Inclusive and Special Education; Dr. Anthony Rao, Pediatric Psychologist. This free event will be moderated by Boston Globe Parenting Unfiltered columnist Kara Baskin. Here’s your free link.

Hold Me Tight/Let Me Be Me Online Workshop for Adult Children & Their Parents.

by Drs. Paul and Nancy Aikin on May 29th, 2023

Whether you are 22, 42, 62, or 72 what parent doesn’t want to heal ruptures with their grown up kid and what adult child doesn’t wish to be understood and accepted in their separate autonomous lives? Check out this online workshop June 17th & 18th with EFT certified trainers Dr. Paul Aikin and Dr. Nancy Aikin.

U.S. Depression Rates Reach New Highs.

by Dan Witters on May 29th, 2023

The percentage of U.S. adults who report having been diagnosed with depression at some point in their lifetime has reached 29.0%, nearly 10 percentage points higher than in 2015. The percentage of Americans who currently have or are being treated for depression has also increased, to 17.8%, up about seven points over the same period. Both rates are the highest recorded by Gallup since it began measuring depression using the current form of data collection in 2015. More on this disturbing trend can be found in this article .?

AI Is Unlocking the Human Brain’s Secrets.

by Matteo Wong on May 15th, 2023

If you are willing to lie very still in a giant metal tube for 16 hours and let magnets blast your brain as you listen, rapt, to hit podcasts, a computer just might be able to read your mind. Or at least its crude contours. In this fascinating article you can read about how researchers from the University of Texas at Austin recently trained an AI model to decipher the gist of a limited range of sentences as individuals listened to them—gesturing toward a near future in which artificial intelligence might give us a deeper understanding of the human mind. I don’t know about you, but I’m thinking the future is NOW! Just… wow.

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