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Only about 20% of people have flow moments once a day

Moments where things tend to link together with effortless ease

Most people however, spend time on a rollercoaster in and out of stress

Where their central nervous system is overloaded with cortisol and adrenaline

Their attention fixates on their worries or their to do lists

and they go round in circles

Unable to take advantage of that 30 mins between meetings to get anything done

Brain fog hijacks the brain’s circuitry

And you forget what you were doing

Or you struggle to connect and be present with others

You’re just waiting for your time to speak

Because you’re unable to actually, truly listen

When you can’t process these emotions effectively

And focus

Or find ways to dissipate the tension caused by stress

Then this emotional exhaustion can lead to adrenal fatigue and burnout

We’re forced to constantly put more and more caffeine in our system

Just to stay awake

Thinking it’s making us alert

The solution?

For the highest performing guys

The type that everyone knows of

Wants to be a bit like

They have the best habits

What’s a habit you ask?

Well…

It’s a predefined automatic response to a given situation

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By the time we’re 30, 90% of our personality is predefined

By the way our brain is connected

There’s a saying in neuro science

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And what that means

Is that as you repeatedly do something

Again and again

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Efficient signalling paths for messages to travel

And if you were a message would you take a country road to get from A to B?

A pathway that hasn’t been used that much?

That takes a lot of energy to use?

No

It’s why without first creating a habit

Change is MUCH MUCH harder

Trying to lose weight for example

Without breaking it down into manageable chunks and automating the desired actions

So that they become consistent

And automatic

Things we do repeatedly

We tend to push from higher brain function (needed to learn new things)

To lower brain function (which saves on mental energy) and allows us to become more efficient

So the highest performers?

They have more bottom up circuitry in their brains

Allowing them more “disposable” energy to focus on their REAL challenges

AND solve bigger problems

Achieve greater things

They’re identified the traits

Actions

Tasks

That they want to automate

And they’ve repeatedly done them

So that they’re automatic and require less energy

Ultimately your mental state

How well you handle and deal with emotions

Determines how well you can focus

And how well you do in life

If you really, truly want to be a high performer

And not just average Joe

Average Dad

Average husband

And get their faster than the rest

Achieving success that others can only dream of

You have to recognise that willpower is of singular importance in determining the course of your life

Willpower is an exhaustible resource

And to maintain it

You have to balance your emotional mind (what you want)

With you rational mind (with what you know you should)

Or in other words balance your focus between

Instant gratification

And Self restraint

Here’s 3 ways that you can do this:

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Emotions guide our attention

Attention guides away from the unpleasant

And we long to ease the distress

The more well rested we are the easier it is to disengage focus

When you sleep to your circadian rhythm

And get 7-8 hours sleep per night

You’ll find it a lot easier than if you only grab 5-6.

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If you’re trying to lose weight for example

Then make sure those beers are in the garage or better yet the shop, not the fridge

If you really want one

You’ll make the trip through the rain

But it’s a lot harder

You’re conditioning your environment so that your desired behaviour becomes more automatic

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When we’re motivated by positive emotions

The motivation lasts longer

Is what we are doing feels more meaningful and the urge to act lasts longer

When we’re motivated by fear

We want to avoid any future state that could generate emotions that we don’t want

And so we display inertia or avoidance

If you’re able to go back to your WHY

The reason you’re looking to make a change

And draw out all the positive emotions

How you’d feel if you achieved your weight loss goal for example

Walking down the beach

With your head held high

Or waking up

Full of beans

Because you’re eating well and exercising

Having the kids look up at you as their leader

Holding onto emotional states like this is powerful

So if you want to be in the 1%

Have a think this week

How and where might you apply these in your life?

On your side

Alex