AFA #60: Assurance In the Wait (Series Pt 1) - Factor in Failure

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Figuring out the right flow for this newsletter has been tricky, but I think I've got it!

I'm testing out series as a way to not only expand on topics from different perspectives but also to make my job of writing and delivering the newsletter on time much easier. For now, this will be a pilot, but I would love your feedback to see if we're sticking to this format.

Life often presents us with periods of waiting—times when our dreams, goals, or even basic needs seem just out of reach. These moments, though filled with uncertainty, hold profound potential for growth and transformation.

Personally, I’ve had so many mixed emotions about waiting. As the self-proclaimed A-for-ambitious, waiting was not in my plans for success. I already did that on my way to where I am. Now, my priority is acceleration, which is the exact opposite of having to wait.

Does this sound familiar? Can you relate?

No matter how motivated we think we are, waiting is an inevitable part of the human experience, whether it's waiting for a dream job, a relationship to blossom, or a personal breakthrough.

The most incredible or tragic part of waiting is who we become in the waiting process.

"Assurance in the Wait" is a four-part series dedicated to exploring the power and purpose of these waiting periods. Each week, we will delve into different aspects of waiting, from factoring in failure to building belief. Join me as I speak authentically about assurance that you can rely on in the midst of life's hard realities.

Let’s dive in to week 1.

While it might sound counterintuitive, understanding and anticipating failure can be your greatest strength in achieving your goals. I know this is not the empowerment message you want to hear BUT embracing this mindset can potential transform your greatest setbacks into powerful breakthroughs.

Failure is an inevitable part of any worthwhile endeavor. From the smallest projects to the grandest ambitions, setbacks are bound to occur. What sets successful people and organizations apart is not the absence of failure, but their preparation and response to it.

Society often views failure negatively, as something to be avoided at all costs. But do we actually understand what failure is?

Some dictionary definitions I found that describe failure are:

1. The inability to meet an expectation.
2. The action or state of not functioning.
3. A lack or deficiency of a desirable quality.

These are all very normal outcomes of anything you attempt.

So why isn't failure normalised?

I am not saying it is something we should aim for BUT what if we saw failure as a crucial part of the process, an opportunity for growth and learning? By embracing this view, we can build resilience and adaptability—qualities essential for long-term success.

One powerful way to manage failure is by developing contingency plans. I know this is also something I'm proposing that's going to upset you.

The project manager in me has stepped on to the podium, hear me out.

This is the one time I am begging you to be more committed to the result than the process. Especially, when the said process is not functioning (failing).

Think of these contingency plans as your guide on how to proceed when things don’t go as expected because at this point what do you have to lose?

If failure causes you to FREEZE this is especially for you. GET FAMILIAR with failure and that stuck feeling will go away...

HOW?

Simply, by factoring it in. Failure stings the most for me when I least expect it. When failure is anticipated and planned for, it becomes less daunting and more manageable. Instead of a crippling event, it transforms into a valuable learning opportunity. Each failure offers insights that can refine my strategies, improve processes, and spark innovation.

So here's what I do instead:

1. I pinpoint areas where things went wrong and need redirection.
2. I develop response strategies. For each identified problem, I create a detailed plan of action. This might include alternative strategies, resource reallocation, or a temporary pivot.
3. Then, I build flexibility. I ensure my plans are adaptable. This could mean having backups, maintaining a financial cushion, or cultivating a versatile skill.
4. Finally, I regularly review and update my contingency plans to reflect new lessons I've learned and changing conditions. This keeps my strategies relevant and effective.

One of the toughest aspects of pursuing any goal is the waiting period before results materialize. During this time, it’s easy to feel discouraged, especially when facing setbacks. However, having a strong contingency plan and a positive relationship with failure can provide a sense of assurance and stability.

Even when results are yet to appear, knowing I’ve prepared for potential failures helps me maintain my confidence and focus.

This assurance comes from understanding that setbacks are not endpoints, but part of the journey toward success.

Central to anticipating failure and creating contingency plans is the cultivation of a growth mindset. This mindset embraces challenges, persists through adversity, and views effort as the path to mastery. It is the foundation upon which resilience and long-term success are built.

I am not saying any of this is easy but from experience and foresight that YOU WILL find yourself in this position, I wouldn't be the exceptional Career Coach I am setting out to be.

Factoring in failure is not about expecting to fail, but about being prepared for the possibility and knowing how to respond effectively. By developing a strategic approach to failure, we can lessen its impact, learn from our experiences, and continue progressing with confidence. This proactive stance not only prevents us from becoming stuck but also ensures we remain on the path to success, even during periods of uncertainty.

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Stay tuned for more insights and strategies for professional growth and success in my upcoming posts.

Sincerely,

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