The adversities we faced in our life
Elaine Claire
Bridging the divide between Mental Health & Special Needs | Reducing Societal Stigmas | Storyteller | Early Intervention | Sustainability | Budding Plant Parent ??
You would've noticed by now that I am not one who post about the joy and celebrations in my life. I believe we need to distinguish the fine line between expectations and reality. Expectations are what we expect our life to be, and reality is what we experience that we do not share about.
We all go through adversities in our life, is just a matter of varying degrees and levels - and sometimes we need to embrace these adversities by ourselves solely to be able to understand where we need to be. Throughout the past 6 months of my life, I've met many people who have shared with me their difficulties and pains and struggles that led them to be able to inspire others through their experiences. It takes courage to be able to come out of our safety net and open up to strangers that we just know without the fear of being judged.
I admire the people who gone through storms in their lives to be able to understand the true meaning of hardships. Over the last 6 months of my life, I had gone through panic attacks in public whereby my heart races faster than normal in a public place, the trauma flashbacks of my harassment case which took place last year December, and the constant rejections in my life - where I am not being accepted for who I am because of the anxiety that looms over in my life. But as I started to be the lens of others who faced even harder obstacles in their life, I start to put my life in perspective that the problems I faced can be managed through solutions - with the efforts of being resilient and vulnerable through the process of pain.
Someone recently shared with me this and I felt that it was poignant to share it with others too - that you will never have everything in this world and sometimes happiness cannot be bought through materialistic goods or money, you have to recognise what you are doing with a purpose to be able to keep you going. Sometimes we need to take a step back and rationalise what others saying through listening, and listening is the first step to understand another person's adversity.
Principal Partner Consultant at Strategic Ideas Management Consultants
5 年Elaine life is not always filled with constant happiness, it has its up and downs. At whatever point you find yourself, one needs self re-assessment and look at it’s why and how did I find myself in this situation. You are right, self re-examination should be part our lives in order to develop the bank of experience and the shield for future protection by building courage, strength of character and resilience to confront unforeseen events in our lives. Negative events definitely have profound effects on ones wellbeing but we shouldn’t allow it to weigh us down to a point of loosing direction and focus. We always anticipate failures so that when it happens we are prepared to an extent that we can absorb the shocks with very little consequences. Negative events are all over, some being severe others are less devastating. When one compares his with other devastating events and how they were able to handle tactically, you will be encouraged to learn how to handle yours without much stress. We learn from others experiences. Thank you for sharing.
As an Independent Consultant, I guide professionals through career transitions, helping them achieve clarity in their aspirations. As a trainer and Design Thinker, I tailor training support for sustainable career growth.
5 年Well done. Taking a step back instead of always forward, listening instead of wanting to add, at times, subtract is more.