Actions & Tips to Develop Resilience with Emotional Intelligence

On the occasion of the International Day of Happiness, here I'm expressing a little bit to help individuals get closer to the true meaning of 'happiness' in our work life.

First of all, confirm that it’s a demanding world out there.

Yeah, we all know life can get tough sometimes. Unexpected pressures from careers, family, health matters,? or relationships could? suddenly overwhelm us. There are moments we temporarily lose the ability to absorb emotions, recover, and get our lives back to normal.

But here's the good news, we all have this amazing inner strength called Resilience. It's like a superpower that helps us bounce back from difficult situations. It's also like having a toolbox full of mental tricks and habits that help us cope with stress and adapt to difficult situations.

Some people might find this easier than others, but the important part is that anyone can learn to be more resilient.

Seeing many of my friends, colleagues struggling with their worklife, how coincidental indeed, I just finished the Udemy course by? Robin Hill - How to Develop Emotional Resilience to Manage Stress, would like to share a little bit on Strategies to Develop resilience with Emotional Intelligence (EI)

You don't need to have knowledge with EI in advance. Just read my notes from 1-8

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SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #1 [Create a Personal Vision]

It's really important, when faced with obstacles or setbacks, your vision reminds you of the bigger picture and encourages you to persevere.

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) ?- Esteem, Engagement, Passion

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling) - Frustration, Inadequacy, Anxiety

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• Have a clear vision of what you want to accomplish/ achieve
• Approach adversity and stress with a sense of hope. Believe in the best and Prepare for the worst
• Let your belief and purpose carry you forward in life

Daily Tips to Help you Create a Personal Vision

• Set yourself clear goals and objectives focussing on what you want to achieve
• Establish a plan that will accomplish your goals
• Ensure that the plan is made up of small, achievable steps
• Remain committed, even if events take you away from your plan for a short while
• Remind yourself of what you want to achieve and why
• Challenge your own self-limiting beliefs

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #2 [Feel in Control]

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) - Esteem, Contentment, Optimism

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling) - Hopelessness, Discomfort, Disappointment

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• View the world as complex and challenging . . . but filled with opportunity Hold a positive perception about yourself
• Defend yourself well
• Be confident in your ability to meet any challenge with hope and realistic optimism

Daily Tips to Help You to Feel in Control

• Be realistic about what you can and can’t do
• Learn how to say “No” so that you don’t commit to too much
• Challenge your own self-limiting beliefs
• Set small, short term goals that you know you can achieve
• Tell yourself you can do it and prove yourself to be right
• Communicate your intentions clearly to others, delegate and encourage their support

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER 3 - Be Flexible and Adaptable

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) - Esteem, Contentment, Optimism

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling) - Fear, Disappointment, Anxiety

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• Be sensitive to changes in your environment
• Adapt quickly to what is happening
• Learn from life constantly
• Remain true to your purpose / vision whilst making room for other’s ideas and opportunities . . .

Daily Tips to Help You to Be Flexible and Adaptable

• Anticipate change so that you can be prepared for it with a series of contingencies
• Accept that situations are going to change
• Positively move forward rather than dwelling on how unreasonable or unfair the changes may seem
• Remain focussed on your personal goals adapting how you work to accommodate the change

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #4 [Get Organized]

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) - Esteem, Pride, Enthusiasm

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling)? - Hopelessness, Fear, Discomfort

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• Create structures and methods to bring order and stability on your terms
• Set realistic goals for yourself
• Expect things to work out
• Manage the moment with calmness and clarity of purpose

Daily Tips to Help You to Be More Organised

• Create a plan or draw up a list of tasks
• Create systems and processes that make you efficient
• Be realistic about how you can manage your time
• Avoid putting off anything that eventually needs to be done
• Tackle big projects by breaking them down into smaller chunks and start to work on them one chunk at a time
• Be aware of, and avoid, anything that you find distracting

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #5 [Practice Problem-Solving Skill]

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) ?- Engagement, Contentment, Happiness

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling)? - Anger, Hurt, Guilt

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Daily Tips to Help You to Be Able to Solve Problems

• Gather as much information about the issue as possible
• Define the problem precisely and accurately, evaluating it objectively
• Look at the problem from different perspectives
• Generate a number of options drawing from your experience and the experience of others
• Critically review the options and decide what will work Be decisive and start to put agreed plans into action

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #6 - GET CONNECTED

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery)?- Engagement, Love, Contentment

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling)? - Loneliness, Anger, Sadness

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• Reach out to others. You can't survive well alone
• Contribute to other’s welfare by giving of yourself
• Build bridges - discover common ground
• Be playful and creative when exploring opportunities together
• Touch other’s hearts . . .

Daily Tips to Help You to Get Connected

• Look for new opportunities to build your network
• Proactively seek out the chance to engage with different people
• Communicate with empathy
• Listen by your empathy
• Look at ways you can get involved and help others with their problems Be willing to seek support for yourself

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #7 [Cultivate Social Competence]

• Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) ?- Love, Happiness, Passion
• Draining emotions (experienced when struggling)? ?- Guilt, Loneliness, Hurt

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• Have high-quality relationships, social interactions and good friendships
• Seek diverse perspectives from others
• Demonstrate empathy and an understanding for others Share your feelings honestly
• Learn to laugh at yourself

Daily Tips to Help You to Cultivate Social Competence

• Assess your current social network to ensure diversity in backgrounds, skills, and experiences around you
• Keep an open mind to broaden your horizons
• Be selective about the support you need
• Openly request assistance from others, both practically and emotionally
• Embrace humor as a part of your social interactions

SECRET TO BRING RESILIENCE NUMBER #8 [Be Proactive]

Uplifting emotions (achieved through mastery) ?- Enthusiasm, Esteem, Pride

Draining emotions (experienced when struggling) ?- Frustration, Hopelessness, Inadequacy

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• Address changes head-on
• Expand your sphere of influence
• Focus on what actions you can take versus waiting for others to act
• Experience and celebrate small victories
• Lead others through change by setting the example . . .

Daily Tips to Help You to Be Proactive

• Use our foresight to plan ahead and prioritise
• Critically evaluate how tasks can be completed more efficiently
• Act decisively
• Keep on top of less-urgent tasks
• Identify and develop the skills you will need in the future
• Don’t waste time on truly unnecessary tasks
• Take the lead and become a role model for others

Now, we’ve just finished 8 strategies to develop resilience with emotional intelligence. Reflect on yourself and apply each tip one by one, moving forward with the stepping stones of your everyday life.

Moving on. Driving Yourself

• Accept the reality of the situation
• Deal with the emotions
• Consider from a different perspective (it doesn’t have to be true right now, just believe it!)
• Learn from the situation
• Identify the benefits open to you
• Identify the new skills you need and can develop
• Consciously choose to let go – change what you can, let go of what you cannot

Preparing your own resilience today could help yourself to retain a focus on what matters, leading? to better psychological well-being and health, increasing your happiness in work and home life.

Being prepared is key. Life throws us storms, but we can prepare ourselves by building a mental shelter.?

Stuff happens, but we get to choose how we react. We can let stress get us down, or we can use it as an opportunity to grow and find solutions.

At our worst times we can become our best. Resilience is forged through adversity, not despite it.

Cheers.