Acknowledge Your Expertise & Accomplishments

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Harness your Brilliance. Take control of your life. Define your responsibilities.

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Society’s message: Talking about your skills and accomplishments is bragging. Showcasing your expertise and accomplishments is branding. Some aspects of your past is shameful. But is that really true? I was given an assignment to write down all of my accomplishments. This was extremely difficult for me as either I didn’t acknowledge something I did as an accomplishment or I felt like I was boasting. That week in many conversations I noted what the speakers acknowledged me for and wrote them down. Things like surviving a divorce, being a single mom, raising an amazing son, earning an accelerated masters with honors and a toddler, asking thought provoking, life altering questions, and knowing how to connect with people so when I was in collections they not only gave me money, they thanked me and told me when to call back to get more are all accomplishments. Some of these are a natural part of who I am. Some were learned. While others were forced upon me like surviving domestic emotional abuse.

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The way we think of accomplishments will determine how we think of ourselves and our worth. I was once asked how will I know when I’m successful. I replied when I make a difference in people’s lives. The next question was “Don’t you think you do that already?” At the time my answer was NO. I was thinking of the masses. I was comparing myself to people like Arianna Huffington, Brene Brown, Oprah Winfrey, and Tony Robbins. I wasn’t taking into consideration that I make a positive difference to almost everyone I come in contact with: from my random compliments to quick introductions, making people feel welcome in my communities and asking questions letting people know they are heard and seen.

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As the CEO of YFN, Inc showcase your accomplishments. Could you imagine a company like Disney, Carnival Cruiseline or Coca Cola not showcasing/advertising their products or services? This is the same with YFN, Inc and your form of advertising is taking pride in what you are doing, always choosing to do things your best, discovering what needs to be strengthened and what needs to be delegated out. Knowing what you are great at and what you have mastered while delegating or outsourcing your weaknesses, allows you to focus on your greatness and effectively live in your expertise.

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Accomplishments also show you what you have overcome. Many times something happens and we tell ourselves an interpretation, decisions we made about ourselves, our capabilities, and our worth are instantaneously effected. From then on we are always looking for proof that this is who and how we are. At 8 years old, we lose $10 and decide “I’m not good with money” from then on we are looking for proof that we are not good with money. At 12 we fail a test, “I’m not smart enough.” At 16 we have our first breakup and depending on which end we are on “I’m not good enough” or “men/women are out to hurt me” At 35 those stories are still playing AND have now limited what we think is possible for our lives.

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Widening our view of what we see as an accomplishment is healthy. It wasn’t until I spoke to a Sheriff’s Deputy that I learned surviving domestic abuse and 5 stalkers are accomplishments. Surviving a divorce and raising a son as a single mom are accomplishments. Surviving a severe allergic reaction and taking medication to get better are accomplishments. Graduating high school, earning my bachelors and masters are accomplishments. Not having a W2 job for over 2 years and leaving contracted projects early because I completed them are accomplishments. All of these and so much more have shaped me into who I am today, have honed my skills and caused abilities to step to the forefront. Somedays getting out of bed or taking a shower or having something clean to put on maybe the accomplishments. And, that’s perfect! It all depends on where you are, and what’s going on in your life. You are truly amazing and everyday you accomplish at least 5 things. Acknowledge them!

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Hi I'm Stef Lee. I love asking questions that allow me to learn about you and allows you to learn about yourself. If you are feeling lost or unfulfilled in your career and looking for clarity and direction, reach out to me today. I look forward to talking with you soon!