Achieving Success When Nobody is Rooting for You

Hello again.

Today I want to talk about “Achieving success when nobody believes in you.” It’s a subject I’ve wanted to tackle for a while now. I wondered why people usually only talk about the struggles that they overcame once they achieve success. I don’t see many people talking about the hardships on the way to success.

You know how people say it’s not about arriving at the destination but enjoying the journey?

The way overcoming obstacles will transform you, nothing else will. And if you’re alone in that journey, sometimes it will feel really hard, there will be times when you won’t see any solution and you won’t know what to do. Here’s the thing, once you set your mind to never give up, every obstacle will be destroyed and you will find a way.

Never give up

I’m sure you’ve experienced moments when others didn’t believe in you either. I certainly did. I had to learn how to deal with difficult situations all by myself. It wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. That’s how I built this trait of never giving up and always pushing through. I overcame challenges every time, coming out wiser and stronger.

The downside is that I got used to doing things by myself and it was hard for me to ask for help, can’t say now it’s easy, but it’s something I’m working on.

Too few people do this….

Give yourself credit for being here today, for overcoming all the challenges, some harder than others. Say “Thank you [your name] for never giving up and thank you for helping me become the person that I am today!”

It might seem really weird BUT you have to do it. There are plenty of studies which show that being nice to yourself helps, to make a long story short.

I used to think the tough situations were “bad luck,” but later on, I realized those moments were just lessons. Life threw challenges at me to help me grow; at least, that’s how I see it now and I want to believe it. I developed this voice in my head, that doesn’t let me give up. Maybe it sounds strange, but when times get tough, this voice in my head comes out and pushes me, it doesn’t let me fold, no matter how difficult things get.

Important time in my life

In the spring, I opened my business and I told a few people about it. You’d think I’d get a “good luck” or some encouragement from people around me. Besides my parents, no one said, “Good luck.” It was at that point that I saw the real face of the people. People were jealous. They didn’t want me to get out of the “normal life”.

But you know what?

I don’t need anyone’s encouragement or validation. So why did you tell them then? Because I was excited and wanted to share the news.

Now things changed, I cut them out of my life.

I started the business because I needed a change. It was one of the best decisions I ever made, but more about this in another newsletter.

Discipline beats motivation

When it comes to handling challenges without support from anyone, my go-to approach has always been “I have to get it done”. It wasn’t about if I was feeling like it or if I had the motivation. Motivation isn’t useful. It comes and goes.

You need something deeper to get through those days when no one is cheering for you, and everything feels like a grind.

Years ago, I started building this sheer discipline. I had to push myself when I didn’t feel like it, when I was tired, when it sucked, when nobody cheered for me. But over time, discipline became something else—it turned into a habit, a desire to get things done and stick to the routine. Now, it doesn’t even feel like an effort anymore; it just happens.

I’m not writing this to brag but to tell you that discipline, once acquired, can get you great results, but if you want amazing results, you have to find that thing that drives you and stick to it until you achieve it.

You won’t like this but

The biggest discouragement you’ll get is from the people around you

There will always be people trying to find reasons why you won’t succeed and drag you down. They’ll say things like: “The economy is bad”, “It’s hard to find people to sell that to”, “You’re better off sticking to what you know”.

It used to bug me a lot, but after years of studying psychology, working with people from all kinds of social environments and functions, I realized something: most people don’t want others to improve because it makes them uncomfortable. It forces them to reflect on their own choices, their own inability to make that change for a better life.

People don’t want you to leave your bubble. If you break out, a part of them knows they could do more too, but they won’t. And that’s where the doubt comes from. So, when people tell you that you can’t do this or that, remember that it’s really them projecting their own limitations onto you.

The role of self-belief

Let’s be real, believing in yourself is crucial when nobody else does. It’s not always easy to maintain that level of self-confidence. You might be an expert in one thing, but when you try something new and fail, your self-belief can take a hit. That’s why your confidence shouldn’t just come from external achievements. It has to come from within.

One of the best ways to build this is by pushing yourself through physical challenges. Whether it’s working out, running in the rain, or sticking to a routine no matter what. This isn’t just about fitness—it’s about proving to yourself that you can overcome discomfort, that you can follow through on what you promised yourself. Never break the promises you make, no matter whom you made them to.

Start small and keep going

If you’re in a similar situation, where no one is rooting for you, the best thing you can do is start small. Build a routine of small wins—don’t snooze the alarm, brush your teeth, go to work, come home, and do something for yourself. Find a hobby, build a side project, or work on developing a skill.

If you don’t like your job, you should have at least one thing that gives you joy or a sense of accomplishment outside of work.

Remember, you can’t live your whole life doing things you don’t enjoy. Life is short – yes, I know it’s a cliché but that doesn’t make it less true.

Let’s say you started working at 20, you get to 60 and one day you realize you’ve spent decades doing something that you didn’t enjoy and even worse, it drained you. Don’t let that be your story. Build something for yourself. Have no regrets. You don’t want to be old and think about what you could have done differently.

No matter what happens, remember: you’re not alone

If there’s one thing, I want you to take away from this, it’s that you’re not alone. Even if it feels like nobody else is going through what you’re dealing with, trust me—someone out there is fighting the same battle. And sometimes, all it takes is talking to yourself. Literally. Look in the mirror, ask yourself what you’re doing with your life, and listen for the answer. It might hit hard, but that’s where change starts.

I’ll leave you with this: It’s not about becoming the “lone wolf” forever, but sometimes, you have to walk alone for a while to figure out what really matters to you. Keep pushing, take breaks when you need to, and never, ever stop believing that you can become better.

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Now go out there and be amazing!

Chris

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