The Acceptance Of Conflict

Life is constantly changing and happening. We just cannot deny that certain fact, no matter how hard we may try. People in our past and present have had many opinions about the purpose and acceptance of life. These include procreation, survival and evolution of the species.

Then we have the spirtual leaders that have suggested the sole purpose of life is to know one's self and to discover and wake up to enlightenment. All of these purposes are valid in my view.

However lets us take life back to a basic level that we all can relate to.

We are all on this planet for a very limited amount of time so it makes sense to experience as much as humanly possible

Ask yourself this question: Are you willing to experience all of life or just some of it

If you are winner if you are not then why not, what are you hiding from it's your legacy I played life safe.....Did you granny/grandad.....Great see ya.

How many have said i never want to turn out like that person etc etc and you did exactly that yeah loads of you....what you doing about it NOTHING thats what sitting there feeling sorry for yourself.

Look everyone if life has taught us one thing with gravity and all that jazz. Multiple outcomes are possible but in the end what goes up must come down eventually..

Life is very much like a pendulum of possibilities some times life is swinging great and other times it feels like the whole world is crashing around your ears and you have control over nothing.

We as humans are conditioned to be in conflict with life and it is a bloody bad habit, we pick up these habits from from external and internal influences in our lifes for example parents, teachers, media and this shapes us to percieve what a perfect human beings life should look like.

This is in relation to money, relationships, career, holidays, clothing, car and house now everything going well you may have it all doe's not automatically mean you are happy but it takes the sting out of being piss poor and for the rest of you well keeping plugging away.

Because like i said life is constantly changing and evolving you have everything one minute and the next you are moving back in with the parents. Somethings in your life you have no control over and you have to just accept that and make peace with it.

You see there are three elements to every problem the trouble is we only ever look at two let me explain further. We in the west are very good at labelling things this helps us accept it easier for example the name of condition or the current issue and the symptoms that have caused us to identify the problem.

However the third issue is conflict experience because this is more often than not, this is a major conflicting creation to the problem and a ongoing continuation of the physical problem or life of the problem.

It is important that you make peace with the conflict and accept it this way you will be able to close the chapter on this issue or issues that keep popping up and move on without reflecting on it or come back to haunt you at some point.

Only then do you start to heal the conflict experience, this is a life experience we try hard to resist because you are attached to something else happening instead and we by habit fighting and struggling with the issue. 

However this may not be the real cause or issue it is whatever lies under the surface of the problem/issue which we are trying to avoid. So accepting the problem puts you one step closer to resolving the inner conflict and asking yourself how does this make me feel exploring the accepted problem this will allow you to make peace quicker with yourself.

The quicker you make peace with the conflict the quicker the healing takes place

I can hear the you saying ok i get that i need to stop resisting life and be willing to experience life fully. But how do I do this without opening myself up to a world of hurt and emotional turmoil.

Well the good news is that this approach should not cause negative emotions the difficult life experience or conflict we experience. Is because it is our inner conflict that makes us feel the way we do that is what we are told to accept.

But I truly believe it is not. It is simply the relationship that we have with life that makes or breaks the problem.

Remember when you are experiencing stress and anxiety and various other emotions to a problem then it is because you have conditioned yourself to be this way through repetition. And somebody else with a different life experience may handle it differently this person may accept the conflict and make peace with it.

No resistance or negative emotions towards the conflict just acceptance and by asking themselves how does this make me feel.

And by not resisting you can find a enoromous amount of peace that spontaneously arises within you because of the absence of conflict

I will be going deeper into the subject in more posts but for now accept the conflict  and make peace with it then ask yourself how does this make me feel.

As always your servant....Happy Days.