Accept how you feel about someone …Accept about Love

You can dance around your feelings all you want, but sooner or later, it catches up with you. You can also rationalize, argue, and try to talk yourself out of how you feel, but all of that is mostly futile.

Feelings can be a fleeting thing, and I certainly don’t think they should always be acted upon. But being honest with yourself comes first, the rightness or wrongness, or action or inaction, comes second.

Is there anything worse than falling for a person who is terrible (for you)?

Whether love is a choice or not, is a question we will never be able to answer for certain.

What is a choice, however, is who you choose to be with, assuming, of course, they also choose you?

Whether they are ones who got away, or lifetime crushes, or shoulda-coulda-wouldas, a little part of us will always carry some people with us. Is that weird or is it just human?

Rebounds and distractions don’t solve the problem, they extend the length of time it takes for you to move on.?

I’ll openly admit I’ve never liked the idea of “rebounds” or the like. Only because it makes me feel uneasy like one human is being used to ease another’s pain. Maybe it’s not so simple, and maybe both parties know what they’re doing.

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Thank?you …This goes along with timing, except it’s not so much that the stars don’t align for both parties, as it is they may not want to make the sacrifice to be with you right now, for whatever reason.

Still, it’s not a good idea to wait around for the person, because some people will never be ready for you.

If it’s really hard in the beginning, it’s not going to get any easier.

Good movies and great literature convince?us that having to overcome difficult things to be with someone, is a sign that you’re meant to be together. More often than not, it seems that the exact opposite is true.

This is not to say?you don’t have to put in any work, but it is worth it to be weary of things that feel more like work than they should be, especially at the beginning.

Your heartbreak is not uncommon, it’s actually quite ordinary.

And you will heal, even if you don’t want to. (Sometimes you won’t want to.)?

Too many people romanticize heartbreak, when there’s very little that’s romantic about it. Still, one day you listen to the pains and hurts of others as you consider your own, and you realize in a weird way, that you’re all in this together.

Want to add word or two?

You can change your hair, your face, your job, your city, etc. but if you’re not okay with you, a relationship isn’t going to fix that.

It might even magnify all the ways in which you’re insecure. In the end, putting the burden on something or someone else to “fix” you are too great an ask.

Finding someone who loves and accepts you is an amazing experience, but doing that for yourself is just as important.

And you shouldn’t go into one expecting that you will.

You have to accept the person that you’re within all their flaws, and if you can’t, you should let them go. Because it may mean that you don’t want them; you want the version of them you’ve created in your head, and truth be told, that is entirely unfair.

Your comment ….?

Sometimes you might be single for any of the many reasons people are single.

Sometimes you are single for no reason at all. Sometimes being single feels like a blessing, and sometimes it feels like a punishment. You can lose your mind wondering why you’re single. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying that you want to be in a relationship.

But ultimately, it’s always best to know what you’re willing to sacrifice to be in a relationship, and what you aren’t.

Your love story much like your life story is going to be different from everyone else’s.?

Everybody has something to say about love and the lessons they’ve learned.

Be willing to listen and take what makes sense to you – even the difficult lessons. But don’t define your love and your love story by the stories of other people.

You’re not entirely in charge of all the details, but when it comes to the love(s) in your life, you should have the courage to put your own pen to paper.

Finding true love takes time and a lot of patience, and trying to rush it can never yield good results. So, wait for some time, and love will find you when you will least expect it.