Be abundant, don't think everyone ignores

Actually in this condition it's very natural to feel loneliness..you feel so..because they're doing so. Doesn't matter. Thankfully you realized what is happening with you. Now its time to act. Make some rules for yourself. 1.Stop thinking much about it. 2. Keep yourself busy in something interesting for you. 3.Start helping others suffering from any this kind of pain. Helping others will boost your own confidence. 4.Always remember that world is not about few people surrounding you. It's beyond. 5. Be happy.

If you feel like everyone is ignoring you, that’s because most probably they are! The fact that it happens puts you down, implies that it is so much important to you. Of course, it is. Like a lot of people. Like almost everyone. And I am also assuming that as it is important to you, you must be trying to get the attention somewhere. maybe consciously, maybe subconsciously. And judging from the result, maybe you are bad at it. It is a funny thing about getting attention. You can try to get it, but it only works when your efforts are invisible. Haven’t you noticed in daily life? If the other people get a hint that you are just trying to get attention, it puts them off. Unless someone is interested in you otherwise.

As you are trying hard for attention and you don’t receive it, rather it is leading to more ignorance from the people, it starts to attack your self-confidence. At some point, it stoops to such a level where you even start imagining things. You start feeling like someone is ignoring you even though one is just busy in their own stuff. Another strange thing about getting attention is, it is many times attracted by those who are not even seeking it. And mostly it is attracted by those who have a distinctive personality. Observe the people while walking on the street, or while in class, or in office. If you find someone with a little different personality like being super cool, or weird, or very shy. You will find there is always attention surrounding them. Even if they are not asking for it.

So, having your individuality is the main key. Many people in order to get attention, try to imitate others who are famous, or just imitate the surrounding people to try to fit in. And in that process, they lose their individuality. Everybody got their own personality, especially you. You just got to bring it out and be yourself. Try to find your own interests, your own hobbies. Find the things you are doing which you absolutely hate, but still keep doing them just to fit in. Rather than getting attention focus on giving attention to yourself. And lastly, not seeking attention is the key. They are ignoring you, fine! You are a sculpture in making. And the world will stop and pay attention to the great art one day. It is difficult I know. But what's the fun in seeking easy.

There is a dialogue in a movie, “ Why do you try to fit in, when you are born to stand out?” Pick up an activity. Any activity of your choice like reading books, watching movies, painting, singing etc. Dedicate some time doing that activity. It kills boredom. If you have a passion for something but never found time for pursuing or following it, this is the time. Please follow your passion. Take a bicycle and go on a ride. It will keep you healthy and also make you feel energetic. There are many things to do, you just have to follow it..

The smartest people are often ignored in a crowd. And, the sad part is majority of people lack depth, and thus manners or behaviour. But, you, you are so beautiful and potent, you don't need other's attention. The most successful people, today were often ignored, but now look at them. Take Elon Musk as an example, he was bullied at school and hardly had one friend to talk to. Change the meaning you give to your life, other's behaviour doesn't make you less, it never will. Be proud of your inadequacies and stop apologising for who you are. Develop a character through a mindset. Lastly, you will never feel ignored by everyone, for the one who truly understands life and humanity, will treat you right. One who knows how to treat others is the most educated person in the world.

You don't cope, you change your inner narrative. By choosing to cope you are assuming that you are being ignored and are unwanted and accepting the emotions which come along with those lies. And they are lies. They are lies that you are telling yourself, and there is no basis for them. They are simply emotional habits you've built over time because you don't like who you are. Even if everyone didn't want you (not likely) your Ego will always jump in to protect you. In your case it's keeping you small, telling you that you are unworthy and placing walls between your view of yourself and how you think others see you. It's a protective mechanism.

But you don't need this. You can choose to change this. Small steps. Start with changing your thoughts. Examine your thoughts like a scientist. Consider each thought that you can become aware of, that you are having. Are they for you or against you? Of the ones which are against you, which keep you small (doubt), are they true? Like 100% true? Not likely. You may think they are true, but given the 100% test, they are likely not the full measurement. Start there. Of the ones that are for you, repeat them. Rephrase them, and then repeat. While its hard to believe at first, our thoughts each moment create who we are in the next moment, but from a higher view. It's simple, but not easy. One step at a time. Choose to take the first step. Cheers!