Absolutely, No regrets!

Before it is little too long for some of us to have ourselves punished and reprimanded for some of our own past decisions and actions, I hope to have this read for all of us which can help bring back that zen and calm.

So, should we ever regret our decisions and actions? I will say, absolutely never. Never.

Everything that happens to us is consequential. There was a strict teacher in your school and you develop an inflicted fear towards a subject. You work hard not to succeed but not to get under the eyes of that teacher. Fear becomes your de facto mode of learning.

Or, often times we were rewarded when we scored well in our exams. So, our learning was a consequence of rewards. It wasn't an intrinsically motivated learning.

Or, we saw that confrontations can often lead to discords and distances. So, we chose to suffer in silence and not bringing things up. Or, some of us who saw that people who raise voices often have their final word. And we turned aggressive in our own ways as we did not get to witness winning with assertion.

The matter of the fact is the way we are today is the cumulative effect of our experiences. Experiences we saw people having while touching hot pots or developing cold feet. Everything we have seen, felt, experienced has ended up changing some of the neurons in our brains. Everything has been consequential.

So, with these changed neurons, we often make decisions in life right from having our first coffee in the morning to the time we toss in our beds to have that childlike sleep. We make thousands of decisions with those changed or rather evolved neurons.

At any given circumstance, whenever we are taking a decision or acting a certain way has something to do with our past. This past never leaves us. It is always causal. It has created a knowledge library in our brains. And in that particular circumstance, we have access to the best possible form of that knowledge library built in our brains over the years.

So, if we are deciding and taking actions as per the best available information in our minds at that particular moment, then why we have to beat ourselves up when sometimes these decisions and actions backfire.

Does anyone ever pick their second best choice.

Does anyone really toss up the coin in the air.

Does anyone really plan to regret later.

The idea here is to honor ourselves with due share of our best possible intelligence and information we had while we made decisions as simple as coffee to as complex as marriage. And for that honor, we should have no regrets! Absolutely never! Wrong decisions of today would certainly transform into right decisions of future. Sooner or later, we all are always right :)