The Ability To Get What You Want

I recently got introduced to this definition of intelligence: Your ability to get what you want. Higher the ability, higher the intelligence.

It took me some time to wrap my head around this.

But once I understood, it revealed the hidden path to achieving a laser-sharp focus and accomplishing my goals more swiftly.

First, this is what happened.

In the last 9 days live streamed 9 video trainings every single day on YouTube, LinkedIn and Facebook. (Do consider following for some rad leadership strategies!)

I will tell you why this is relevant.

I pride myself more on my writing skills. When I do make videos, once I am on camera, I am fine but, it takes a lot out of me to actually start the camera and start talking.

So being able to live stream my videos for 9 consecutive days is a BIG deal for me.

For those who don't know me, I am a career advancement and executive coach for smart and brilliant South Asian professionals (and anyone who vibes with me). I coach them to speak up and command the room in the workplace (and at home) to establish an executive presence so they can step into or thrive in leadership roles.

Most my clients, just like me are proud of their writing skills and 1:1 conversations. But in a group setting or wherever the attention is on them, they wish to melt into the walls.

These are high-achieving clients who want to lead and influence and make an impact. And deep in their heart they desire to step into bigger roles.

But despite their glaring qualifications and expertise they've found themselves stuck and can't seem to break out of the middle management box. (And of course we change that trajectory for them in our 6 month Unshackled Career Program!)

They know based on their own observations and the feedback from their bosses and leaders, their biggest gap is the soft-skills.

They are technical sound and get boxed in as technical subject matter experts.

But if they worked on their soft skills they could transform how leaders perceive them and put themselves in the best position to be considered as the ideal candidates for growth opportunities.

(Just as a side, when I Google soft skills I got 799,000,000 results! But I've got you. I don't want you to sift through to find what you really need to work on! Watch the video below.)

We ALL know what we need to do to get what we want. (Yes, we do.)

Yet, even smart individuals like us find it challenging to achieve our goals.

It's not that we don't put in the effort.

In fact, we often push too hard, but perhaps on tasks that don't lead us to our desired outcomes.

For example, to help my prospective clients understand more about me and what I do, I need to put myself out there and speak up about the importance of 'speaking up,' rather than hiding behind written words. This approach will help build trust, authority, and credibility in their minds. Simply writing about speaking up won't instill the same confidence in them.

The same way, even though, many South Asian professionals know they need to work on their soft skills, but they get busy in gathering more certifications to enhance their technical skills.

How is it possible that smart people like us busy ourselves in things that lead us astray instead of leading us to our dreams?

Since learning this new definition of intelligence, I realized that I have been designing my life with the least intelligence and more on an auto pilot mode.

I drastically changed how I approach my business and life. I now have a better client attraction strategy, I work less and get more done and I get a lot more time for myself and with my 6.5 year old son.

I want to share this with you because my hope is that you will take a lesson from this. I hope that you will design your life intelligently so that you can focus on what matters and become a better version of yourself and start living your dreams.

Before:

I always wanted to spend more time with my son. I thought that if I hired a nanny to take care of him after school until I could take over in the evening, I would have more time for my work and still be able to spend 'quality' time with him.

Turned out working until 5:30pm wasn't enough. I would be thinking about business while with my son. There was absolutely NO quality in the time he and I spent together.

After:

Now, I focus solely on tasks that make my business profitable. These activities definitely push me outside my comfort zone, such as making videos, personal outreach, perfecting sales calls, creating educational resources, and ensuring my existing clients achieve their goals. I also continually learn skills to enhance these efforts.

By doing this, I now finish my work by 3pm. I am relaxed, happy, and fully present with my son. We engage in fun projects together, and I even have time to record songs and collaborate with singers in India.

I am truly harnessing intelligence; my ability to get what I want.

You too can achieve this.

You already know what you need to do to get promoted. (And if you don’t, the video below will make it crystal clear how you can improve your soft skills.)

You're working harder, feeling stressed, and pressed for time.

You might be thinking that if you work even harder and get promoted, you can take your spouse and children on big vacations and spend quality time with them. Meanwhile, the quality of your relationships and health is suffering.

Accumulating more certifications and working harder won’t bring you closer to your goals.

Building your leadership and communication skills will.

It will definitely stretch your comfort zone. But I promise it is worth it.

One of my clients, Anuradha, was overworked, overwhelmed, and burned out in her job. In less than 11 months, she got promoted with a $20K raise and a $20K bonus. She is now a sought-after speaker in her industry, networks like a pro, and spends much more time with her family. Together, they have become a stronger and happier unit.

DM me if you're ready to enhance your ability to achieve what you want. I would be happy to be a part of your transformational journey.

If you watch the video below you will find out exactly what it'll take to improve your soft skills to position yourself as a leader.

Best,

Dr. Mrinalini Garv,

Founder, Unshackled Career Woman