A-Gay-Ny Aunt #13

A-Gay-Ny Aunt is a weekly column written by Gina Battye - about navigating work, relationships, family and feelings, your sexuality and gender and being your Authentic Self in a chaotic and often confusing world.

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I have fallen out with my best friend

Hello there,

I am a firm believer that those who are meant to be in your life, will be in your life.

I hear you say you are giving more to this friendship than your friend.

Take a step back and ask yourself if that is totally true. You want to be 100% sure that you are seeing this in perspective, and not through any filter.

Reflect on the last 6 months, for instance. Can you recall your friend contacting you in that time? If so, what was the purpose of those conversations? Was it a catch up? Did she want something from you?

Ask yourself if you are always the one depositing into the 'friendship bank account' you have together. And - are you BOTH depositing into the bank account? Does one of you withdraw more out than the other?

Give it some thought. Be as objective as you can. Imagine one of your colleagues is looking in at your friendship. What would they observe?

Once you have a clearer (and more accurate) view of your friendship and interactions, then you can make some decisions.

If you feel in your heart that there is more to say, arrange a follow up conversation.

If you feel like 'actually I think we are done', it is time to move forward without your friend.

Remember, nothing is permanent. You may make the decision to move on from your friendship right now. That doesn't mean she won't come back into your life in the future.

Keep the door open, knowing if she is meant to be in your life, she will be.

Hope that helps,

Gina x

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About Gina Battye

Gina Battye is a world-renowned Authenticity, Psychological Safety and LGBT+ Inclusion Consultant and Trainer for Multinational Corporations, Fortune 500s, TV, Film and the Global Press.

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