A-Gay-Ny Aunt #11

A-Gay-Ny Aunt is a weekly column written by Gina Battye - about navigating work, relationships, family and feelings, your sexuality and gender and being your Authentic Self in a chaotic and often confusing world.

----------------------------

Since quarantine, I have realised I am not attracted to my boyfriend any more. I am in to women. How do I break it to him?

Hello there,

If you know for certain you are not attracted to your boyfriend and don't want to be with him any more - it is time to have that conversation with him.

I know it will be difficult and he may get upset. But you have to think about what is best for you both in the longer term.

Your sexuality doesn't need to come into it. He already knows you are bisexual.

This is about you saying you don't want to be with HIM.

Before you talk to him, think about how you might start the conversation and what he might respond with. Prepare yourself for questions he might ask and consider how you will respond to those. It is best to prepare yourself, so you are not on the back foot in the conversation!

Be honest and authentic with him. Tell him you have realised you are not attracted to him any more and you are breaking up with him. Make it clear that is what you are doing so there is no question in his mind about what could happen going forwards. You don't need to bring up the past and any wrong doings.

Keep it simple, to the point and deliver your message as clearly as you can.

Listen to what he has to say and then give him the space to process what has just happened between you.

It may be a shock for him initially but hopefully, over time - you will be able to maintain and build a strong friendship that lasts many years to come.

Hope that helps,

Gina x

----------------------------

Have your questions answered in A-Gay-Ny Aunt

To have your questions answered anonymously in A-Gay-Ny Aunt, please DM Gina or send an email to [email protected]

----------------------------

About Gina Battye

Gina Battye is a world-renowned Authenticity, Psychological Safety and LGBT+ Inclusion Consultant and Trainer for Multinational Corporations, Fortune 500s, TV, Film and the Global Press.

As a media friendly experienced expert, with an acting background, Gina's work has been featured widely in the media, including:

Sky News, BBC Radio, Forbes, Psychologies, Cosmopolitan.

Media Enquiries | Authentic Self Process | 5 Pillars of Psychological Safety