9 Quick Ways to be More Likable or...

Ok, ok, you got me... the title may be clickbait - I know that our likability is not dependent on others and it is about liking yourself and not worrying what others think. Let's just call this, how to be a good human?

Do you have to be born with a pleasant personality and exceptional people skills to be likable? I mean, it helps but the research suggests that you don’t. There are several quick ways you can transform yourself into someone that others find enjoyable to be around. A few simple ideas can drastically enhance your experiences with others (think: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie).

Even if you don’t seem to connect well with others, maybe you’re an introvert or just awkward like me, you can make dramatic improvements to your social presence. Give it a try!

Be the most memorable person in the room with these strategies:

1. Put your phone away. Give the other person your full and undivided attention. Treat them as if they are the most interesting person you’ve ever met, and you’ll have a friend for life.

2. Ask questions. Show interest by asking questions. Rather than spending all of your conversation time thinking of something witty to say, try asking questions instead. Most importantly, listen to the answers.?

3. Be reliable. Be on time and keep your word. Do what you say you’re going to do. Be prepared for meetings, dates, and other social engagements.

4. Do quick favors for others. You don’t need to drive a new acquaintance to the airport, but do something small for people. You’ll earn some easy points and be seen as more likable. It can be as simple as getting someone a refill on their drink or emailing something that came up during a meeting.

5. Smile. Nothing puts others at ease like a smile. Not only do you make the other person feel better, but you feel better, too. A smile is a great way to begin any interaction.

6. Maintain your composure. Likable people keep themselves under control. We feel better around those who have their emotions under control and aren’t flying off the handle at any little thing.

7. Be honest, but gentle. Liars are never appreciated, but being too honest can be just as unlikable. Being honest doesn’t mean saying your every thought out loud! Remember we all have to follow social mores. Just because you had a rough upbringing doesn’t mean everyone needs to know all of the details. What you say should be honest, but intelligently moderated.

8. Remember names and use them. You know when someone doesn’t remember your name. It’s hard to hide. It also doesn’t feel very good. Make a concerted attempt to remember the name of everyone you meet. People love it when you’re able to greet them by name.

9. Be interesting. Your work is only interesting to those you work with. Have interesting hobbies and share your experiences. Take a trip. Do something adventurous. Have a full life, and people will find you more likable. Added bonus: you will meet new people doing those things you love.?

The most likable people you know share several traits. You can hack these traits with a little work and attention and become just as likable. Be engaged and respectful, and others will enjoy spending time with you. You can develop new friendships wherever you go.?

Use the people you know to your advantage. Think about the most likable people you know. What do you like about them? What do they do that you don’t? What behaviors do you exhibit that they don’t? With a little detective work and practice, you can be the most likable person you know!