"80% Men Are Unattractive": Women And How Over Estimation Bias Works Against Them?

Above 10 million women above age 35 are unmarried in Pakistan, a UN report said.

This is a serious issue. Globally! Yes, I said it right.

"Based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley ?(USA) forecasts,?45%?of prime working age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030."

And this data was not twisted to support certain agenda, but by Financial Institutions, to address financial needs of a new demographic section of population. Obviously, a woman with husband and a couple of kids will have different financial needs than a woman living alone with a cat.

117 million are women of the total 241 million of Pakistan’s population is 241 (48.5%).

Roughly 44 million women are from age group 20-49 years.

10 million women being single or awaiting marriage means: one out of every four women between age 20-49 is single and not married.

This is alarming because of a lot of social issues directly or indirectly related to the fact.

While there is a list of socio-economic factors responsible for this situation: poverty, illiteracy, cultural norms, forced marriages, lack of compatibility of available men, domestic violence, bad parenting, dysfunctional families, being raised by single parents etc.; I will here point to only one of those mental and emotional factors, that has to do with personality, called Estimation Bias. It is better explained with a simple rating scale.

Assuming? 0/10 as lowest and a 10/10 highest rating score on a scale of how a man rates a woman in terms of attractiveness or for compatibility and vice versa. This scale can also be used for people, as what do they think of ourselves as a whole personality and worthiness.

Simply put, a scale with 0 minimum and 10 maximum points can be used to know how much one rates oneself, ?for his/her overall personality.

The interesting bias is here now, for which I had to share this preamble:

Women falsely, unrealistically assume, that the high number of matches, appreciations, and likes they receive are a reflection of their real-world-attractiveness or value.

This is supported by the following research.

1.??? Our research shows that while deciding whether to accept or reject a potential match on Tinder,?women are highly selective. (Asia Marketing Journal Volume 24, Issue 4. Article) .

2.??? According to 2021 stats from Swipestats.io in a study done by The Bold Italic, women only Swipe Right around 5% of the time.

3.??? In the?study?“Rules Of Attraction: Female Perception of Male Self-Representation in a Dating App,” researchers found that more than 80% of women liked only one profile out of 100.

4.??? A study by dating app OkCupid found that women find 80% of men unattractive or “below average.”

5.??? Another study shows, only 20% of men have physical relationships with 80% women.

While #5 above may not be very true for Islamic regions or societies, but it definitely shares the trend that women have become extremely rather unrealistically choosy when it comes to selection of their partners.

• This is because a large number of men chase them on social media, dating sites and online portals, showering them with ultra-high levels of attention, making them overestimate their value.
• It is like a woman who is made to think that she is a 9 /10 or a 10/10, will not settle for an average regular guy with a realistic ranking of 5/10 or 6/10.
• Thinking she is a ?9/10 or a 10/10, which is actually a ranking of a super star actress or celebrity, she never gets settled for a guy who is average, and also keeps on the search for a guy who is a 10/10.
• But, there comes another interesting side to this fact, guys who are 10/10 are extremely rare.
• They will be people of business, or highly educated professionals with six figure annual dollar incomes and above average looks, and they will not settle long-term for 4/10 or 5/10 woman, because men are generally realistic at assessing true values, this will eventually lead to a breakup or a divorce.

And so with that the possibility of finding such a guy decreases substantially, resulting into a higher number of women, who are single, unmarried, separated and living with a cat, just because they tend to over-estimate their true worth.

There might be other reasons, and there are in fact, but one strong reason for women, not being able to find their spouses is a tendency to over-estimate their worth.

Assessing one’s true worth is the greatest art since history. It will be the greatest skill for future. It is the worthiest step to begin to change or create a new destiny. It is one of the top measures of success at winning in wars.

It often happens with new born businesses. They quote examples of what the CEOs or executives of other top-notch organizations in their industry are doing or purchasing or adopting a policy for their employees or for equipment, but forget they are just a new company with a real value of perhaps 2/10.

So, let me ask you, how much do you value yourself as a leader, as a professional, as a manager, or as a human being on a scale of one to ten? Or as a man or as a woman?

In case you are not sure, we have devised quite an accurate measure of self-worth, which we use in our leadership development programs for executives.

If you are interested, let us know here.

See things clearly, with clarity.

Blessings

Hassan Bukhari (pen name)

Syed Hassan Abbas

Chief Editor

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