7 Years of Spending Chinese New Year Alone: Lessons That Changed My Life

If you’re not familiar with the significance of Chinese New Year, think of it like Christmas in Western culture—a time of reunion, celebration, and prosperity that lasts for weeks. For many, it’s the one time each year when families come together.

But for the past seven years, I’ve spent it alone.

I’m not usually one to get sentimental, but hey—it’s Chinese New Year. If there’s ever a time to reflect, it’s now, right?

And you know what? Despite spending these years alone, I’ve gained something invaluable—skills, knowledge, a network, a reputation, and resources that no one can ever take away. So I thought I’d share a few lessons I’ve learned along the way.

1. Love Should Be Shown Every Day, Not Just on Special Occasions

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Happiness isn’t built on occasional grand gestures—it’s the small, consistent moments that matter. Over time, I’ve realized that showing up regularly for the people you love is what truly strengthens relationships.

That’s why I don’t feel lonely or left out. My family and I make an effort to talk every week, no matter where we are in the world. It’s not about waiting for a special occasion—it’s about making connection a habit.

?? The same applies to business.

Success doesn’t come from one viral moment or a lucky break. It comes from consistency—showing up, delivering results, and building trust over time. A strong team isn’t just there when things are good; they stick with you through thick and thin.

2. You Are Your Own Home—Even When You Don’t Feel at Home Anywhere

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For years, I told myself, “I am my own home.”

But if I’m being honest? I don’t feel at home anywhere. And for a while, that felt like an identity crisis.

But then I realized—maybe that feeling never fully goes away, and that’s okay.

Life is a constant journey. Every time I move, my mindset shifts too. Growth is uncomfortable, but I’ve learned to embrace that discomfort. The only constant in life is change—so why fight it?

?? Same in business.

If you’re always seeking comfort, you’ll never grow. Stability isn’t about staying in one place—it’s about building the strength to navigate whatever comes next.

3. You Are Your Own Security

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One of the most powerful things I’ve learned is the ability to catch myself when I fall.

Relying on external validation, relationships, or circumstances for security is fragile. True security comes from knowing that no matter what happens, I have the resilience to stand back up, adapt, and move forward.

I used to think happiness came from external things—success, relationships, recognition. But over time, I’ve realized that true happiness comes from within.

There were moments when I felt completely alone, but instead of fearing it, I trusted myself. I became my own support system. And that doesn’t mean rejecting help from others—it means knowing that, at the core, I am responsible for my own well-being and happiness.

?? In business, the same rule applies.

Financial security, career stability, and success don’t come from one big opportunity. They come from building the right skills, mindset, and adaptability to handle any challenge that comes your way.

4. You Can Build Something Meaningful Anywhere—And It’s Okay to Be Vulnerable

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Moving away from your home base isn’t just about finding a flat near a supermarket with good public transportation. It means leaving behind your entire support system—and rebuilding it from scratch.

And as an adult, that’s a whole different challenge. Unlike kids building sandcastles at the beach, people already have their established circles.

But over the years, I’ve built strong bonds with a new community. And I can confidently say—if it weren’t for these people, I don’t think I would have made it.

There were moments when I couldn’t hold myself together. And that’s when I learned: seeking help isn’t weakness—it’s strength.

When I was younger, I thought, “If people know the real me, they won’t like me.”

Now? I’ve realized that asking for help and showing vulnerability isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. It means you’re strong enough to communicate and find solutions.

?? Same in business.

The entrepreneurial journey is tough, and if you need help—just ask! You’d be surprised how many people actually want to help you.

The world works in a funny way: You wake up today needing something desperately, and somewhere out there, someone wakes up with the exact resource you need.

You just have to be willing to reach out.

Final Thought

So, to those spending Chinese New Year alone this year—you’re not really alone.

You’re learning. You’re growing. And one day, you’ll look back and realize that these moments shaped you in ways you never expected.

Have you ever had a similar experience? Would love to hear your thoughts.