7 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Imposter Syndrome

Welcome to the Trust Yourself newsletter by?Melody Wilding, LMSW, executive coach, human behavior professor, and author of?Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions into Success at Work. This biweekly newsletter is designed to give you the tips, tools, and inspiration you need to gain confidence and effectively as Sensitive Striver.

Imposter syndrome. These days, everyone’s talking about it.

In some respects, that’s good news for?Sensitive Strivers. Because, as highly sensitive people, we are more likely to experience imposter syndrome, and seeing so many articles, podcasts, and experts speaking about the subject can be reassuring.

Finally, you can see that you’re not the only one who feels like a fraud. You aren’t the only one?constantly questioning?whether you deserve your success or worrying that you’re going to be “found out.”

Of course, there’s a flipside. The more people there are talking about it, the more the knowledge can become warped. And that same Google search will confirm something else:

There are plenty of imposter syndrome myths.

That’s less helpful, because if you want to tame your own imposter syndrome, first you have to understand it. And you don’t just have to understand it in a general sense—you have to?recognize how it connects?to your?highly sensitive personality.

So let’s clear up a few of these imposter syndrome myths so that you can start unlocking your true potential.

7 Imposter Syndrome Myths Debunked

Myth 1: Imposter syndrome is not real.

This is by far the worst of the imposter syndrome myths. As a sensitive person, you’re probably used to people telling you to grow a thicker skin. When you express doubt or share your thoughts relating to imposter syndrome, those who’ve never experienced it likely invalidate your feelings, telling you that it’s all in your head or something you have to “get over.”

However, it isn’t all in your head: it’s very real. In fact, imposter syndrome has been extensively researched for the last 40 years across different environments including academia, medicine, and the corporate world. One thing that the scientists and researchers all agree on is this: Imposter syndrome exists.

Myth 2: Imposter syndrome is a mental health condition.

Just because you experience imposter syndrome, does not mean there is something wrong with you. It’s commonly referred to as a?syndrome, and many people liken it to a mental health diagnosis.?

But imposter syndrome is better described as a?phenomenon?because, unlike mental health conditions like depression or anxiety, it isn’t pervasive across all parts of your life. It usually only presents in certain situations—especially professional ones that you perceive as stressful, challenging, or demanding. Imposter syndrome tends to occur at certain times and under certain conditions and is not an inherent, unchangeable part of who you are.?

Doubting your capabilities doesn’t mean you are pathological, but rather that you have a habitual pattern of thinking that you are a fraud and unqualified for success. Which, with the right tools and practice, can be changed and corrected to help you?become more confident.?

Myth 3: Imposter syndrome only affects women.

When imposter syndrome was first observed, it was seen primarily in?high-achieving women. But now studies show that it’s equally common in men. One U.K. survey found 52% of female respondents and 49% of male respondents said they struggle with imposter syndrome “daily” or “regularly”. Across all age groups (from adolescents to late-stage professionals), it affects up to 82% of professionals.

Imposter syndrome is particularly prevalent among minority groups, including those who are marginalized because of race, ethnicity, or neurological differences. This encompasses Sensitive Strivers. Since Sensitive Strivers make up only 15-20% of the population, process the world more deeply, and function differently in the workplace, they tend to feel like outsiders.??

Myth 4: Imposter syndrome is your fault.

Many Sensitive Strivers with imposter syndrome assume that having it is their fault—for not being smart enough, stronger enough, capable, or good enough.?This is 100% false.

Sensitive Strivers are?more susceptible?to imposter syndrome because of their heightened perceptiveness, depth of processing emotions, thoughts, and the world around us. They tend to have heightened nervous systems which can equate to being more easily stressed and overwhelmed by challenges, and more emotionally reactive.

So while imposter syndrome is more common for Sensitive Strivers because of their biology, it’s something that can be managed.?

Myth 5: The most confident people don’t experience imposter syndrome.

Some of?the world’s most successful people?from David Bowie and Maya Angelou to business leaders like Sheryl Sandberg and Howard Schultz have experienced imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome disproportionately affects people who are intelligent and capable—so paradoxically the fact that you experience it, pretty much proves that you?aren’t?an imposter.

Interestingly, there is an opposing phenomenon, the Dunning Kruger effect, a cognitive bias that leads people to believe they are more competent than they actually are.

Myth 6: imposter syndrome keeps you humble and overcoming it will make you overconfident and big-headed.

If you’ve been relying on imposter syndrome to keep your ego in check, it’s time to rethink that strategy.?

There is a difference between authentic, genuine, healthy confidence and the overconfidence and cockiness that comes with the Dunning Kruger effect. And by neglecting to work on developing healthy confidence, you’re holding yourself back?from reaching your full potential.

For example, you may be passed up for new projects because you so frequently discount the work you do. You may miss out on earning more money because you don’t ask for what you’re worth. Or you may avoid going for leadership opportunities because you don’t think you’re qualified.

These consequences could be devastating on a personal level—burnout, the most common consequence?of imposter syndrome, increases your risk for health conditions like sleep disturbances, digestive disorders, and mental health problems.

And there’s a societal impact too. Burnout costs the economy upwards of $190 billion per year. That’s over $6000 a?second.?

Myth 7: The solution to imposter syndrome is awareness and positive thinking.

Remember the millions of posts that came up on your Google search for imposter syndrome? If you’ve read just a handful of them, you’re probably under the impression that to overcome your imposter syndrome, you just have to “be more aware,” “talk it over with a sympathetic friend,” or “think more positively.”

Talk about a letdown. While these strategies might work for some people or bring short-term relief, they’re rarely effective in the long-term—particularly for those who identify as Sensitive Strivers.

However, that doesn’t mean that you’re destined to experience imposter syndrome forever.

As Sensitive Striver, you have unique gifts that the other 80% of the population lacks. Your empathy, emotional intelligence, conscientiousness, and sense of integrity are your superpowers and offer tremendous value.

And with the right tools—highly actionable strategies designed with your unique personality as a Sensitive Striver in mind—you will be able to overcome the doubts, fears, and feelings of inadequacy, and finally recognize just how intelligent, capable, and deserving of success you truly are.

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