7 Lessons On How I Manage And Anxiety

Hi Friend,

I've been speaking to a number of business owners and friends lately.The consensus has been that this year has been tough for a lot of people.Things have significantly slowed down.

Talks of a recession is on the rise.

That's why in this?newsletter, I'm going to talk about my own recent experiences of stress and anxiety, as well as?7 mindset shifts and affirmations?that have helped me tremendously.

I hope it helps you too.??

Let's go.??

?? #1. “Ships dont sink because of the water around them.

Ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening on the outside, get on the inside.”

Business has been low for sometime compared to my insale prediction, economy is hitting us baaad, and now the election Campaigns and government power transition knocked our industry flat out as most investors prefer to wait for the power transition in the government.

It’s safe to say that throughout the past months, but the past week especially, I’ve felt a range of emotions: Sadness, frustration, rage, disappointment, hopefulness, celebration, and confusion.

But despite all these emotions and despite all the things that were happening on the outside, I’ve had to constantly remind myself to detach and recognize that I can’t let everything that’s happening on the outside, affect me on the inside - and to take it day by day.

Mindset is everything and the more you can work on creating stillness on the inside, the more you can ensure the chaos on the outside doesn’t suck you in.

?#2. The result of growth feels great, but the process of growth is painful.

Whenever I feel discomfort, which is most of the time, I remind myself that this feeling is what?I should?be feeling when I’m growing.

Here’s a reminder for you if you’re someone who’s going through discomfort right now in life or business. If this is the first time you’re building a business, creating content, actually going for your dreams…?Remember you’ve never been this version of you.

It’s reasonable for anyone to feel pain, discomfort, disappointment, and any range of emotion when you’re doing something you’ve never done before.

Forgive yourself and be proud of how courageous you’ve been.

Remember: The person who shows up deserves to be there, and when you avoid failure, you’re also avoiding success.

?#3. If I got through X, then I can get through Y.

One of my favourite ways to work through difficult times is reminding myself of the worst moments of my life and the fact that I don’t even think about them today.

My parents divorce.

When I had my baby boy at 21 years old...weeuh story of another day.

The time my biggest client quit on me?and I literally thought my business would crumble without them.

And likely so many moments, where at the time, I felt like were the worst moments of my life.

Sometimes you just have to remember that time is always on your side, and that “this too shall pass”.

A year from now, so many problems you are going through right now won’t be problems anymore.

Likely, they would be problems that you have conquered and became stronger as a result of it; because?there is truly no growth without problems.

?#4. "Your business is broken and if things go well, it always will be."

A past business mentor of mine, would say this all the time. And it’s true.

Even recently when I was confiding in my friend and my kinda new mentor,Leah,?I told her how afraid I was to launch my new Mentorship program. I was so afraid for the unknown that would come with having a whole new offer.

To which she said:

”Your business will break if you sell out your program. And your business will break if your program sells zero. No matter which end of the spectrum, your business will still be broken.”

She’s right.

Even if you 3x your business, you would now have the headache of keeping up with that growth.

Even if you -3x your business, you would have the burden of fixing the losses.

No matter what, so long as you continue running your business, problems will always come up - because that’s the game of being an Entrepreneur.

The moment you recognize this, is the moment you start finding peace.

An incredible business it not built in a year. Have perspective.

A quote I really love is from Charlie Munger, to which he says:

”If you’re in this for the long pull, which is the way to do it, you better be able to handle a 50% decline without fussing too much about it.”?

I’ve had months where I’ve cleared 100k in profit.

I’ve had months where I only made 0.

I’ve also had months where I’ve lost 50k.

Back then, I used to be SO reactive to my month to month income statement.

If I had a “bad month”, I would make it mean that I had a bad business. That it was only a matter of time before I go bankrupt.

But that simply isn’t true.

Because it wasn’t until I met with higher level entrepreneurs who’ve been in the game for 10+ years where I realized that having low profit or no profit months was simply a part of the game.

A new and /or young?entrepreneur is someone who only focuses month to month, and believes that business success is determined by the year.

A seasoned entrepreneur is someone who understands a great business is built in 10 years.

Have perspective and have patience.

?#5.?Happiness is a choice, not a circumstance.

Begining of this year, i wrote on the first page of my Journal this Quote...i was coming from a deep dark hole. the last half of 2021 was supper cruel to me...story i will tell you soon

But i wrote this

"2022 is THE YEAR OF RECREATING MYSELF

i will spend the next 12 months believing that i am 100% responsible for what happens in my life no matter what!!! during this period,i commit to do everything in my power to take charge of my life and situation"

?It’s a decision to see what you want to see, to feel what you want to feel, and to hear what you want to hear.

Yes- shitty, terrible, awful days happen.

You can absolutely feel all those emotions.

But one thing I like to remind myself is not only that happiness is a choice, but I also see it as a skill.

It takes skill to decide to find the positive, despite having a terrible day.

It takes skill to decide to forgive someone who did you dirty.

It takes skill to take the high road.

It takes skill to go for a walk, exercise, and do whatever it takes to calm yourself down during a tumultuous period.

For me, it’s a skill I’m practicing every day; but I can assure you the moment I saw happiness as a skill and a choice, was the moment everything changed for me.

Because despite this year being one of the fair income years, I’ve also been the calmest I’ve ever been despite it all.

And that is something worth being proud of.

?#6. Stay in your own lane.

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t watch my “competitor”’s stuff.

This is to protect my creative integrity, but also my mental health.

BUT, from time to time, it doesn’t mean I don’t get curious and start creeping around.

And unfortunately, 8/10 I leave feeling stressed and not good enough.

Can you relate?

Because if you do, I want to tell you a story?that empowered me tremendously when it comes to paying attention to competition:

At one of the Olympics, a competitor lost the race to Michael Phelps by?0.01 seconds.

They were head-to-head at the finish line, with the competitor being slightly ahead.

But right near the finish, the competitor took a quick glance over at Michael Phelps.

This one glance costed him 0.01 seconds and as a result, he lost the Gold Medal.

0.01 sections. Think about that.

In that split second, one glance costed him the medal.

So remember:

You’ll never get to where you’re going if you’re lost on someone else’s path.

?#7. If I lose it all, I'll still have my family who loves me. And that's all that matters.

I’ll still have my family,i got my son.

I guarantee that there is someone out there who loves you unconditionally, even without your business.

There are people out there who will take care of you. Who will offer their couch to you. Who will keep you safe and warm.

Never take those people for granted in the pursuit of growing your business, and remember that no matter what happens, you will always be able to find safety.

And finally…

?#8.?“But did you die?”

This is hands down the one thing I say in my head THE MOST.

As long as I didn’t die, I think I am doing just fine. because being alive is already such a gift.

No matter how many?clients leave you.

No matter how many posts flop.

No matter how little money is rolling in right now.

No matter how many investments you’ve made that haven’t paid off.

… You didn’t die.

?I hope you enjoyed this newsletter where I share some of the mindset shifts that have helped me.

My mission with these is to make your journey easier than it was for me, and to guide you into becoming the Casual and CEO you dream to become in your life.

Until next newsletter,

Miriam - your environmental consultant buddy.

PS: The hustle of starting your environmental consultancy Biz?have been causing you some stress,i am?definitely willing to help.?i have lauched this mentorship (CASUAL TO CEO PROJECT )that i have been afraid to launch for a long time to help you with the knowlegde, strategies and framesworks i have learnt in the last 5 years of being in the industry.

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