7 future-proof techniques to stop self-sabotage

Self-sabotage seems to be such an obvious term, we all think we know what it is. Yet, we self-sabotage ourselves more often than we realize. So how can we notice its symptoms and what to do after?

Self-sabotage is very commonly goes unnoticed and that is because it has found its way to co-exist with us. Sneaky, soft, gentle-speaking, yet powerful. An elegant monster so to say. An often referred to phenomenon called impostor syndrome when you feel that you are just fake and your fakeness can and will be revealed anytime, is one way how you can self-sabotage yourself and live of fear. Another favorite of mine is adding more barriers to achieve my goal so it becomes harder and more difficult to reach, and it might lead to giving up or just silent suffering episodes. There is also the tempting voice of your limiting belief, sweet talking you to into feeling like a victim, a judge or a hypocrite. These might be old friends of ours, too. Good news is that it is showtime:

You can engage your self-saboteur for a duel of wits and win. WIN BIG.

One action you can take for example that all your limiting beliefs will literally hate is to acknowledge yourself daily. Do it for every seemingly small achievement, do it often and be gentle. Magnificent results will come your way within a few days.

Bask in the tender feelings of joy, satisfaction and success.

Start valuing your body, go ahead and value each part of your body as they are faithfully serving your growth day in and day out. Your hands might be giving abundance of unconditional love to others, your ears might be always listening with compassion and a desire to help, your heart is embracing you with warmth and kindness on those days when the walking gets tough. And the list goes on. Make it a daily practice and write down what you value in yourself.

If you keep daydreaming, while also feeling and seeing those dreams that you want as your reality, your saboteurs will die away like mosquitoes when they sense the killing smell.

Keep daydreaming. It works.

Visualizing, and feeling the feelings that come with it is a beautiful practice that you can do daily to get more in sync and help your dream transition into a wonderful reality. Talking of reality you will love the practice of looking at everyone and everything in your daily life as diligent ants serving your spiritual growth. Yes, that's right! When you focus on it, your mind will create the connection and tell you how a certain event or a certain person is serving your spiritual growth.

Ask your mind and listen with your heart.

All right this next one will be a bit of a challenge, and a super intense practice at the beginning (but you can do it, for sure!). Notice where your attention goes and learn to focus and channel your attention. What and who you are paying attention to is where your energy is going to flow. Social media scrolling, netflix, a meaningful conversation or multi-tasking all the time?

Master your attention, because you can.

If you are still reading, well done for being committed to your self-development and focusing on what matters to you truly. Before sharing any more tips, let me ask you please to take it easy on yourself and maybe try one technique at a time, master it before you move on to the next time. So, just...

Take a deep, deep, deep breath in....................1..................................2.............................................3..............................................4................................... and exhale.........1........................2..................3..........................4...............................

Choose to take deep breaths throughout the day. Air to fill your wonderful lungs is available for you in abundance and it heals you instantly. You will notice, with lots of deep breath moments in your day you will gradually become aware of the 'overdose sisters' called Overthinking, Overdoing, Overpromising. Once you know them, you can choose to love them and accept them. They are also serving your growth.

Accepting yourself is an adventurous journey on its own. A maze. For you and for others, too. So be compassionate with everyone, but also be determined to prioritize yourself.

Stop prioritizing what other people think. You are your number one.

You might find yourself at the beginning of this practice saying or thinking sentences like:

*I don't know if I can do this really.

or

*Right, much easier to talk the talk.

or

*From today, I will stop judging myself

or

................................. (fill the gap).

The point is your words carry energy. So use your sentences wisely. The words you pronounce can bring much awaited relief to others or push them further into depression.

Your daily practices, your everyday actions is where you can make a big difference. Small, steady, conscientious and brave steps taken every day. You are the essence of your life.

With dedication to your self-growth,

Beatrix :)

Beatrix is sending you these messages in form of a newsletter to serve your growth so that you can start and/or continue your journey of self-development. You can connect with her for a private conversation of transformation or start co-creating and embarking on a joint adventure together. Her details and how to get in touch is on her website: www.beatrixhenkel.com