6 REASONS WHY YOU NO LONGER HAVE TO BE A SLAVE TO THEIR SUPPORT

Quit waiting for people to approve you and approve yourself.-Joel Osteen

I get to teach people all around the world about change, how to change, and to embrace their change.

However, at some point, I have to tell them that they shouldn’t rely on the people who are currently in their lives. Of course, this rarely goes well. However, it is true. Whenever you are transforming your life, you are moving from one level of consciousness to another. This means, you don’t like your life and you want to change it. Okay, that is pretty easy to handle. Now, here is the difficult part: If you want to change your life and you don’t like it, the people in your current reality let you be a person that you don’t like to be, no longer like to be, or never ever wanted to be. Let’s examine this for a second. The people in your life, cousins, parents, spouses, etc., they all allowed you to be the drunk you want to move beyond, the low self-esteemed person you want to move beyond, or the poverty-stricken person you want to move beyond. In short, they let you be what you hate and they will not be able to support you as the new person you love.

Of course, some of these people mean well, but some of them did not. Some of these people like you where you were because they compared themselves to you and as long as you were lesser than them, they felt like they were better than you, and to be better than you has become a goal in their lives.

Those who do not fit in this category, these are normally your parents, they simply don’t have the level of consciousness that is able to support the new you, because children will never live the life their parents have told them, they will only live the life their parents’ have shown them.

Therefore, you are a living and breathing example of what your parents’ have struggled with or what they have conquered, this just depends on what were their dominant thoughts and what were the dominate activities that happened within your home. Either way, your future is no longer dependent upon their support, but the support of yourself and the new circle of people you have attracted in your life. Let’s talk about it below.

Here are 6 Reasons Why you no longer have to be a slave to their support:

DETOX #1: YOU ARE YOUR PRIORITY

Cynthia Kane, a contributor for Elite Daily, wrote this in an article she wrote, that is probably one of the greatest articles I have seen on this subject:

Growing up, I watched other women take care of everyone else. They put others’ needs before their own, and they were praised for it. “Isn’t it wonderful how selfless so and so is,” I’d often hear. But these selfless women were doing so much for others that they often ignored their own needs, making them unhappy and unfulfilled.-Cynthia Kane

Yep, this is you and you need to stop it as soon as possible before you kill your dreams trying to serve other people. The truth is, you will never be successful saying yes to 90% of the people in your life. Think about this for a second, if you are always saying yes to them, at least 90% of the time, you are only saying yes to your own dreams 10% of the time. How on earth can you be 100% successful if you only give yourself 10% of your own energy? Your own love, your own worth.

To be honest,

To be inside the will of your own destiny, is to be outside the will of people.

The only power only priority people have over you is the power you give them. Detox!!

DETOX #2: YOU ARE NOT COMING BACK

In her book, Me Before You, Jojo Moyes writes:

You only get one life. It’s actually your duty to live it as fully as possible.

This couldn’t be truer if your deity of choice wrote it their self in your sacred scriptures. Your life is yours and you only get one shot at this and you are not coming back. Therefore, you must, and I mean must live it at 100%. No one owes you anything, but you owe you everything. People cannot make you whole, only you can. You are the greatest person of all time.

When you die, that is it. You won’t get a do-over. If you are religious, you believe in an afterlife, but your sacred texts don’t say you get to come back as your dreams and get a second shot at this. Nope. You do not have time to live your best life. So, live your best life now.

DETOX #3: THE UNIVERSE LIKES SPEED

The universe likes speed.

The Universe likes speed. Don’t delay. Don’t second guess. Don’t doubt. When the opportunity is there, when the impulse is there, when the intuitive nudge from within is there, act. That’s your job. And that’s all you have to do.-Dr. Joe Vitale

I cannot stress this enough. Dr. Joe Vitale absolutely nailed this. When it is time for you to move towards your dreams, you will not have time to wait for the opinions of others to get what you want. Most people don’t have what the want in life because they have conditioned themselves to wait on the approval of others to move forward.

No, you are your permission to move forward. There is no authority, you are your own authority. What you are and who you are will always be what you decide it to be. And when we decide to let others teach us how to live our own lives, we will always live in unhappiness.

Opportunity will wait for no one, even if they are the nicest people on the planet.

DETOX #4: THEY LOVE YOU BUT DON’T WANT YOU TO BE BETTER THAN THEM

Sometimes, the people around us don’t want us to be better than them. Sometimes this happens because they don’t like themselves, sometimes this happens because they don’t like you. I will break both down.

They don’t like themselves.

There is a very funny thing about shining brightly. You see, the more you shine, the more you reflect. Basically, when you keep shining, you also keep reflecting. This can create major problems for the people around you who do not like themselves. Think about it. As you are shining in your gifts, you are also showing them their reflection. Therefore, the more you shine, the more they are reminded of how much they are not.

Which also allows them to see who they actually are, and not the lies they keep pretending to be.

In conclusion, when you change for the better, you are a constant reminder to the people who don’t love themselves of how much they actually don’t love themselves. It is not you that they hate. They hate them.

Secondly, some people just don’t like you. That is pretty simple to understand. So allow me to address the side of this coin no one likes to observe. This also applies to some of your family. Some of your family don’t actually like you. They love you, but they don’t like you. This is exactly why you can have siblings, but don’t actually hang out with them. Why?

Just because you are siblings doesn’t make you friends.

As long as your motives are correct and you aren’t intentionally making people feel bad about themselves, their reaction to your shine will never be your responsibility or your burden.

DETOX #5: GRATITUDE IS THE ONLY WAY TO BRING MORE INTO YOUR LIFE, NOT THEIR SUPPORT

Gratitude is the key to everything, not support. You literally have in your life the level of your gratefulness. Now, before I move on, a friend of mine, Nils Salzgeber is covered this far better than I will, in his blog How To Be Happy. With this being said, the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. How you feel about you will determine what you get in this life. It will also determine your level of gratitude.

You don’t have to be perfect, you will have many shortcomings, but you do not have to be ungrateful. When you are grateful for you, you do not have to be a slave to other people’s approval. If you don’t like yourself in a healthy way other people are not going to like you, and they most certainly won’t support you. If you have a healthy love for yourself and they still don’t like you and don’t support you, don’t take it personally, just understand that these people are not the people for the next level of your life. You are beautiful and your best support.

To be honest, your friends and your family have their own problems. They don’t have the time to come home and work on you for three hours.

Don’t force people to support you all the time, and don’t become a slave to their support either. Let go of the negative things in your life and just relax and know that what you want is already yours.

DETOX #6: THEY WILL PROBABLY NEVER SUPPORT YOU NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU ACCOMPLISH

Here is the truth:

Some of the people in your life have become scared of your potential and they can only cope with this fear by being careful.

It is not that they don’t like you, it is that you scare the hell out of them. They don’t know what to do with you, they never have, and they never will. You have always been different. They can’t handle this new you because they couldn’t even handle the old you. So, now, they are afraid. They are afraid of what you can do, and what hurts them the most is this: they have tried to do what you are currently doing and they have failed. They still remember the sting of this pain and they don’t want you to go through it. Their only recourse for you has become caution.

They want to like your status on social media, but if they do you will get more confidence to move forward, and they are afraid if you do, you will get hurt. They want to tell you, “good job”, but if you do, you may actually believe them and achieve your destiny. They don’t want that either because poor people always know what is best for you.

Poor people always think they know what is best for you, wealthy people only want what is best for you.

Let me release you once and for all.

If you have read this far into this blog, you have made it to this moment because you drew this in your life. If it felt good to you, keep it, if not, let it go. When you follow your own heart, you will always live in a constant state of joy. You don’t need support when you get to this point, you will attract it. You will live in a different reality and a different life, and you will unstoppable.

I can see your future. It is unbounded. It is glorious. It is yours to achieve. See yourself winning, don’t worry about their support. It will come, but it probably won’t come from them. I wrote this blog because something in your kept saying “I deserve to be happy”, and the universe told me what to write. It told me to prepare you for the separation from some people and the glorious attachment to the people who will get you to the next level. Who you are and what you do begins right now.

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Detox!!!

Best,

Antonio T. Smith, Jr.

A guy willing to die for his dream and live for others to see their own.

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