6 Easy Ways To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence

At some point everyone has an awkward moment or has been awkward in general.? But being awkward is not always a bad thing. There are ways to use your awkwardness and change it to confidence and that's what we are going to talk about in this blog. Let's get into it

1.Don't Stare

One of the easy ways to become awkward is staring at people too long. Usually it's a good idea to slowly look in another direction when the conversation topic is switching, then look back when you are re engaging in another topic.

When you stare at people especially a woman you want it to be a soul snatching stare (look at the picture below). This is a stare of confidence not an awkward stare there’s a difference.

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If this is not a person you're having a conversation with for example on a date.

Then do something that keeps you from staring too hard. Go check your phone or play a game on it too kill the awkward time.

Or the best thing to do is if there is awkward silence just ask them a question. People love to talk about themselves. And since we are not taught to listen(I live in America) and mostly talk. If you are all ears to someone they will talk for days.

And you will appear to be charismatic because they will love to be around you because you are interested in their life and actually listen to them and let them speak.

2.Change Your Tonality

If you are ever in a conversation and it suddenly gets dry, change the tone of your voice. Talking in a monotone ABCD? predictable pattern every time you speak you will make people drown you out and become tone deaf or bored when you speak. And they will stop paying attention to you.

If you are excited for a part of the story, get excited for that part. It will shock them and will keep the energy of the conversion spontaneous. Being interesting stops you from being awkward if you are talking to someone who is a bit interested in you.

Your energy will become contagious. Next thing you know the energy in the room is vibrant because of you. You will feed off this energy and become more confident and have better conversions.

?3.Use Body Language

55% of all communication is non verbal body language. So if you want to learn how to be more confident when speaking, most of your energy and effort should be here. You don't want to come off awkward. You want people to think of you as confident before you open your mouth

You can do this but have a confident dominant stand.

When a man stands with their shoulders squared off and hips facing forward with hands down at the sides, it is a dominant stance. This means that the man is extremely confident in himself.

You don't want to appear awkward and not confident before you even open your mouth. So you need to avoid the obvious signs of an awkward person.

Doing things like scratching your noise and touching your face. Being fidgeting makes people uncomfortable and makes them think that you're not interested in them or sometimes going on. This is the exact opposite of confidence so you want to avoid fidgeting and be calm and relax.

This blog post is about you but let me say that I also get nervous around people sometimes. Crowds, even beautiful women. But no one will ever know why? Because I don't show it in my body language I don't get awkward and closed off when that anxious feeling comes. I keep my body relaxed and comfortable then my mind follows. And the situation always ends well.

The reason I'm telling you this is I want you to know that feeling of nervousness and awkwardness is normal but don't let it keep conquering you. You can change it.

4.Laugh

When it comes to being awkward one area most people get wrong is being too serious. Whether its speaking with a group of people or just making a mistake and everyone notices, don't get embarrassed and make it a big deal.

If you walk in a mall and accidentally slip and start falling. Don't get up and run away hoping no one sees you. That makes you look like you are embarrassed and confident men are never embarrassed. We embrace every moment and are very comfortable in ourselves.

So instead of getting up and running away if you see people laughing, smile and laugh with them. Especially if this happens around a woman you are trying to impress. She'll definitely think you're a very confident and charismatic person to not be ashamed and laugh at yourself for falling.

Even when friends and coworkers make jokes about some embarrassing moment you had. Don't get upset and mad about it. Laugh with them even add to it. When you are not embarrassed about things no tends to care and it makes you look super confident.

So the next time your friends bring up that story about how you were acting like you were about to die because you broke a finger. Laugh with them and add some humor to it by saying "385 people die a year because of finger injuries I could've died" (by the way I made that up so don't google it). And that brings me to the next point.

5.Have Humor

Using humor is a super power and deserves an article on its own. Being funny will not only make you more confident but it will make you appear more charismatic to the people around you. And one of the best things about being awkward is that it's easy to be funny because no one is expecting you to be funny anyway.

Use this to your advantage. I'm not saying you have to be a smart ass comedian like Pete Davidson but find a style that works for you. Let's say you're calling a co-worker or friend and they're not answering the phone. So when they finally call you back your answer is "what if a robber had a gun to my head and you was the last call I could make. I would've been died."

Humor makes you more comfortable to talk too and be around. Its softness, the conversion and people with good humor are thought to be more confident, charismatic and charming.

I will give you a warning about using dark humor and making fun of people. When it comes to humor from a confident stand point you want to make yourself a joke. You don't want to be looked at as a bully or asshole and people who make fun of other people are usually assholes.

6.Be Yourself

A lot of times people come off awkward because there trying to fit in and be someone their not. Or trying too hard to come off as confident making you awkward instead. Just chill, relax and be yourself. It's easier to be confident and charismatic around people you're comfortable with because yall have things in common.

I don't talk about myself much but I am a very confident and charismatic person(which is why I got this blog lol). But even me, the "Charismatic King" can find myself feeling awkward when in environments that's not for me. It's normal so don't try to fit in and be a poser.

Same advice with women. I know this can be harder to do because you like her and you're nervous but chill and relax. Being confident will only take you so far. If yall don't vibe well together don't force it or try to become the type of man she likes if it's not you. That won't work either; eventually she'll find out the real you.

And I'm telling you this even if you think you're weird most people will like the normal real you(still work on yourself) better than a fake Ricco Suave character you're acting like.