The 5 Ways You Know You Have Created Your Ideal Life

Today, I’m going to share with you the five ways you know you’ve created your ideal life.

As we dive in, I’ll let you know that I originally recorded myself on video saying this and there is an activity where I ask you to close your eyes and think, feel, and imagine something. You may prefer to listen to this on the Dynamic Women Podcast or my YouTube Channel . Then I’ll go through these five ways you’ll know if you have created an ideal life, and you can treat them almost like a checklist.?

Later, I’ll also share how I can help you to take this further, gain clarity, and truly step into a higher level of your ideal life.

Start with a Visualization?

In a moment I’ll ask you to close your eyes and plant your feet firmly on the ground. Now, for my high-achieving women—women like me, driven, A-type, wanting to accomplish so much— I want you to imagine a life where you’re not only successful but deeply satisfied in every area that matters to you.

As I go through the 10 different areas of life, imagine that in this ideal life, you are thriving. You’re not just living; you’re reaching your goals and feeling fulfilled in every area. You’re not merely ticking off boxes, but you’re savouring each accomplishment.

When I look at this with my clients using the Wheel of Life, I’m always asking that question: What’s possible in these areas? I encourage you to grab a notebook, piece of paper, or something.

• Friends: Everything is ideal, exactly how it should be. You’re fully fulfilled. What’s happening with them??
• Family: You’re surrounded by loved ones, and you’re content. What’s possible in this area?
• Physical environment: It feels so good. How do you want it to be?
• Personal development: You're getting ahead, and you're feeling really content about it.
• Finances: You’re very satisfied with how things are. You like the progress you’re making. What does that look like?
• Career: Whether in business, working for someone else, or volunteering, what is that like in the ideal when you’re fully satisfied?
• Romance/Significant Partner: Even if you don't have a partner, are you good with that? Are you good with where you're at? Are you loving yourself?
• Health: Not just physical health, but also mental and emotional health—how are they doing?
• Fun and recreation: This part is so amazing. What are you doing in the ideal?
• Spiritual life: Things are great. What’s happening here?

Now, think about these areas and ask: What’s possible in each of them? Take a moment to imagine this.

Were you able to really imagine it? If not, pause reading now, go back, do the activity again, and take as much time as you need to really feel into this ideal life, not just look at the list of things.

Five Ways to Know You've Created Your Ideal Life

As we go through these five ways, score yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 or by percentage. Be really honest and go with your trust decision.

As I share about each way, ask yourself: Do I have this? Is this true about my life? I encourage you to score each. How true is this for you? You can use one of two scales: a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being fully true and 1 being not so true, or you can use a percentage—80% true, 20% true, or whatever feels right for you.

When we get to the five ways, please trust your gut on your answers. Once I explain each point, go with your initial response. This will show you the pieces that might be missing.

1. Fulfilled and Intentional

You wake up every single day knowing that every moment counts. You’re intentional about how you spend your time—it’s like you’re investing it. You’re choosing to fill your life with experiences that matter to you and your loved ones. You’re living your bucket list now, not saving it for “someday.”

You're intentional with every minute of every day, and you feel fulfilled.?

You're not spending time by default where when you got a couple extra hours you decide, “Oh, I'll just work.”? Or you clean up the house. You're scrolling on Facebook or watching Netflix.?

How much do you feel fulfilled and intentional??

2. You Prioritize Yourself with Confidence

There are two pieces here. A lot of times people aren't even on their own priority list. In this way, if you prioritize yourself, you do it unapologetically. You do it naturally as part of your day, part of your week, part of your life. Score yourself on this, are you doing it without guilt? Do you feel apologetic when you sleep in, when you read a book, when you go to the gym, when you say no, when you take time away for yourself, like your own holidays??

Are you understanding that taking care of yourself fuels your ability to show up? Again, this is investing in yourself. Then you can show up fully in all areas of life.?

• Do you feel you can prioritize yourself right now??
• Can you show up fully in all areas of life??
• Do you also know what you want, and you're making it happen confidently, so then you're creating a life that brings joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, energy, resonance, all of those amazing things?

Score yourself at a 10 or a percentage on how well do you prioritize yourself with confidence.?

If you're going to go for a walk for your mental health, your physical health, and someone says, “Hey, can I touch base with you right now? Can I ask you a question? Or can you help me with this?” Are you apologetic or does your tone come across that way where you say, “Oh, I'm actually going for a walk, but maybe I don't have to.”

Really check in with that and be honest. Score yourself in how much you prioritize yourself with confidence.

3. Connected to Freedom and Desire

Your life feels expansive. It feels alive. It has energy. It's filled with choices that are bringing you fulfillment and keep you energized.?

If you're in touch with what truly excites you and brings you resonance, are you reconnecting with the freedom you once dreamed of? I know for business owners, that's probably why we get into business, is for that freedom, but you can still be a nine to fiver who has freedom of time and freedom of decisions for what you're going to do for yourself.?

You’re in touch with yourself. Hopefully you haven't killed that little voice, the one that shares what sparks you, fires you up and gets you really alive in the world. Often, people will shut up the desire, push down, push aside the desire, and eventually you just stop feeling.

One of my clients shared with me in the past how she was afraid to take vacation because she hadn't been in for so long. She just worked all the time. It was the default. She’s a high achiever and did very well in her career. She was afraid to take time off because she didn't know how to have fun and how to spend her time anymore. That’s an extreme, but are you connected to freedom in life, and your desire of what you're wanting?

Score yourself on how well you are connected to freedom and desire.?

4. Shining Authentically

Shining is actually a pillar in the Dynamic You program of how to be a dynamic woman. It's one of the nine pillars. In this case, score yourself on shining authentically.?

• Do you get to show up as you not just your titles, not just for what you achieve??
• Do you get to show up as who you are??
• Do you allow yourself to be seen??

A lot of people are shining, but they don't want to be seen, or they feel like they need to fly under the radar because other people are intimidated by them, jealous, or they're just not feeling like they get the same response when they're true to themselves.?

Do you allow yourself to be seen, celebrated, and valued simply for being your authentic self, not a role you play, not a mask you put on, not in “I'm on right now”, but like your authentic self?

Are you confident in your being? Do you radiate joy and strength??

I'd like to be in this place all the time. It's not always true for me, but I was at an event recently for the ICF (International Coaching Federation), and the lady beside me said, “We didn't get to talk much today, but you really shine brightly.” I was like, “Oh, thanks”.?

How much out of 10 or percentage wise, do you get to shine authentically, not shine again for your awards, your titles, your results in business, but how much do you get to shine as you, as a person??

5. Abundance of Energy, Time, and Resources

The last way that you know that you have really designed your ideal life is, do you have an abundance of energy, time and resources? Score yourself on that out of 10 or on a percentage.?

In your ideal life, it's not always about the things you have, the things you've bought, the things you've earned. It's having an overflowing supply of energy, time, and resources, whatever that may be, empowering you to live each day fully.?

• Do you get to live each day fully because you have energy or are you tired??
• Are you allowed to live every day fully because you have the time to do it??
• Or are you missing out on important things because you just run out of time or have too many conflicts??
• Are you able to live every day fully because you have the resources, the connections, the money, the smarts, whatever it may be to help you be there??

This is how you have an abundance of energy, time, and resources. You're financially secure with the freedom to invest in experiences and opportunities, not just the red bottom shoes, not just the diamond earrings or the flashy car, but in opportunities and experiences that enrich your life. Enrich, not make you rich. They enrich your life.?

In this area and in this way, your time is yours to design. Really that is freedom. Even if you're working nine to five, do you get to design that time? Do you get flex time? Do you get to choose what you work on throughout the day? When you come home, do you also get to design that time??

When you get to design how what you do with your time, it's your time. You're putting into place the ability to pursue passions, and rest when needed and wanted. You get to spend quality moments with the people who matter most to you, even if that's yourself, that's fine or a fur baby. This abundance fuels your joy, enabling you to live with ease and generosity.?

Score yourself at a 10 or score yourself on a percentage of the abundance of energy, time and resources.?

See, I didn't say money because when you create your ideal life and you have all these five ways then money, titles, success, don't matter as much. You start to live a new way of life that has you being successful and satisfied.

Wrapping Up

How did you do on these? Is there room for improvement? I'm guessing, yes. What I encourage you to do is, I have a really special opportunity right now. It's called, the “Take a Stand for the And” Strategy Session. ?

• It’s focused on pinpointing the area for you that needs to be changed.?
• We're going to identify where you feel stuck in the enough cycle. “I'm not enough”, or “There's never enough”, so that we can stop you from striving but never being satisfied or not feeling satisfied all the time.?
• We're going to uncover the cycles that keep you caught and burned out and unfulfilled achievement.?
• We're going to help you to learn which patterns are blocking your path to success and satisfaction.?
• We're going to create action steps to initiate change.?

You will leave this 1:1 60-minute session with me with a clear, practical plan to align your success with the fulfillment you're craving.?

What I shared today in this blog is part of a talk I did called, “Enough: How to End the Cycle Of “Empty” Achievement Chasing and Step into A New Era of Success and Satisfaction,” and so you've heard me say, “success AND satisfaction,” that's why this session is called the “Take a Stand for the And” because that's what I'm doing for you.?

As a fellow high-achiever, you may have checked off all the boxes, yet you still feel something's missing, or you've reached a career milestone, business milestone, but you crave a deeper sense of satisfaction, then this is for you.?

It’s also for you:

• If you're successful but not successful AND satisfied.?
• If you know you could have more joy, more balance, more fulfillment, and you're ready to embrace that.
• If the ideal life I shared with you today and the five ways to know if you have an ideal life sounds amazing, then this session is for you.?
• If you're craving a life where you feel both accomplished yet genuinely at ease, I hear a lot of people who are accomplished and stressed, accomplished and overworked, accomplished and overwhelmed, accomplished and anxious and accomplished and on the verge of burnout or a breakdown.
• But if you want to be at ease, this session is for you.
• and also for those high achievers who are exhausted from doing it all and doing it all for everyone, and you're ready to reclaim your energy, then this session is for you.?

The session is $395 (normally, $495), so I encourage you to jump on this. Grab this session. Because really, this one hour can truly change your life. When you take a stand for both success AND satisfaction, you will take that first step toward living fully, thriving, and making a lasting impact in the world. Because it's not just about what you do every day, right? It's not just about your career. It's not just about your business. There's so much more.?

Make sure you watch out for my next blogs because there are some really amazing things happening. Some really great additions are coming, and new offerings and cool projects, and I wouldn't want you to miss any of it.?

Make sure that you are living according to these five ways of having an ideal life and trust that I can support you to be able to do the first step to get there.

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