5 types of lies you tell yourself and what to do next!

Throughout Centuries, April 1st is celebrated as April Fool’s Day , and although the exact origins are some sort of a mystery, the tradition remains as playing practical jokes during that day, and mostly, Lying… and that tradition carries over since 1582 till today, where we still see “White Lies” played by individuals and companies around the world.

This Monday's Tip, since it’s falling in April, will cover Lies, not those that we share during April 1st, but the ones that we tell ourselves over and over.

We talk to ourselves all the time, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing… You just need to?be careful with the topic itself as what you tell yourself, you Become…

?What are the most common 5 lies you tell yourself?

?“If you wear a mask for too long, there will come a time when you can not remove it without removing your face.”?

Matshona Dhliwayo

#5 I’m a failure

THE END LIE:?That’s one statement that you tell yourself when you feel devastated from trying too hard and not succeeding; however, what you may not realize is that it’s actually an END RESULT which implies that you WON’T CHANGE no matter what… So instead, you can start saying: This happened, What can I learn from it for the next time…

?#4 I am nearly there

THE MOTIVATIONAL LIE:?Now despite that, I’m not necessarily against this type of way to motivate yourself, but sometimes it is used in a way that gives a false sense of completion and holds you back rather than pushing you forward. For example, if you are commuting for 20 KM, and you passed 1 KM only… Saying that you are nearly there is an overstatement and at the same time, if you’re on the 19 KM mark, then yes, you are ‘more’ truthful… However, When you are 9 KM or 11 KM, then you’re not there yet, and but you are far off from where you have begun, so in this case, you can motivate yourself in whatever you think feasible to keep going… and Not taking it as a reason to stop.

?#3 He loves me, but, he’s too busy

THE BETTER-HALF LIE:?He (or she) loves me but is too busy to call, too busy to give me attention, and too busy for a lot of other things… But still loves me… and I’m OK with that…. My partner did this or that because they care about me… I must have done something wrong to deserve this… And the list goes on and on.

?To be honest with you, you’re giving excuses on behalf of someone else, so in other words, you are assuming something that you don’t know for certain, and if I know one thing… NOTHING is CERTAIN… a lot of people get deceived by someone whom they think they knew… and the best con artists in the world… are those who make YOU BELIEVE IT ON YOUR OWN… So if you’re doing the work of giving your Better-half an excuse… Congratulations… You’ve just made a BETTER-HALF Lie to yourself.

#2 I’m going to do this for the last time

THE ONE LAST TIME LIE:?I’m going to __________ (start exercising/ dieting/ stopping this /starting that) tomorrow, however, for today, I’m going to do this ONE LAST TIME…

Whether you want to quit a bad habit or start a new one, the temptation you can get from the?ONE LAST TIME?of something is unparalleled. Maybe one last smoke? or one last time with this delicious fast food before switching to healthy eating… Whatever your ONE LAST TIME was… If you wanted to quit, you would just START and resist the temptation of this type of lie.

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#1 You can’t cook the chicken except after removing its legs.

Wait… What???well as a start you need to give it to me that I grabbed your attention... Read on cause this is the worst type of lie of them all!

THE TRUE LIE:?I once had a conversation with a friend of mine who told me that when he got married, his wife had a small conflict with his mother who was “suggesting” to her how to cook chicken by removing its legs then putting it in the oven. And as weird as it sounded, the wife complained to my friend who told her that the mother learned it from her mother…

?So my friend went to the old grandmother, and asked her the SECRET… and she simply replied?“We had a small oven that didn’t fit the whole chicken.”

?Just like the mother of my friend didn’t know why her mother was cooking the chicken this way and decided not to change the way… We have a lot of habits and Knowledge that we don’t know where they came from, and we do them anyhow… And that eventually, they became?our Truth!?

and?this?is the?worst?type?because?it’s?a?true?lie…?And?you?have?no?idea?that?it?is…

?So how about you check which habits fall in the last category… The Lies that you don’t know are Lies… And you pass them on!

The tip for this week is related to?“Stop selling your lies to yourself”…

?Have a?TRUE-LY?wonderful week!

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