I recently surveyed current and graduate students on their advice for making friends at university. Here is what they had to share with the world.
- "Focus on finding things you're interested in, and that you can unwind with. So many freshers stress about making friends, if you prioritise having fun, you'll find people along the way." Coco, Engineering and Physical Sciences, Southampton University.
- "Make friends with people in semester 1 because by semester 2 most people have their groups and it is real difficult to get into those when they're made. Make sure you take out the food bin regularly because it will be rank for everyone." Eddie, Marine Biology, Southampton University.
- "Meet as many people as you possibly can - quantity over quality at first. Most of them will be boring but if you speak to enough people you’ll eventually meet those you click with. Having lots of acquaintances also increases the amount of places you're invited to which allows you to meet more people in turn." Owen, Ancient History and Archaeology, Southampton University.
- "Join clubs/socs! Attend a GIAG [Give It A Go] event if you don't feel you have enough time for clubs/socs." Rebecca, Geography, Southampton University.
- “Throw yourself into everything and make as many friends as possible, say yes to everything and step out your comfort zone! I know people who didn’t and didn’t even try to make friends and all they did was sit at home, don’t let this be you!! Uni isn’t just about the work, it’s about the experience too! Work hard but also make sure to enjoy yourself!!” Lauren, Year 3 Marketing Management (Placement Year), Lancaster University.
As someone who doesn't have a comfort zone (because everything is uncomfortable), I recommend getting out as much as possible. I have done the scary thing of joining a society mid-way through the year in my third year, and I have picked up a hobby I love (crochet). I also have a great community of crocheters who are always keen to help me. I can't say it enough, but everyone is in the same position and wants to make friends! So get out there, and as another student said in one of these, do it scared!!
