5 Tips to Keep Your Cool During a Divorce
Going through a divorce sucks – there’s no doubt about it. Life is changing, emotions are running high, and everybody’s got an opinion. Here’s some consolidated help, plus some more reading below.
- Just get started. It doesn’t matter that your spouse is throwing a wrench in the works, you don’t have all the cash right now, or any other excuse. You’ve decided that divorce is something you want, and it’s time you got moving toward your brand new life.
- Keep the lines of communication open. As much as you might want to make their life miserable, being open and honest with your spouse throughout the process will be better in the long run. Trust me. The two of you will be making some big decisions, and making them together will help preserve your sanity better than any revenge scheme.
- Be willing to compromise. Let’s face it, there will be times you two won’t agree. Be open to some give-and-take on issues like child custody, visitation, etc. There will be some tear-your-hair-out moments, but a little patience and understanding will go a long way toward getting you back to your happy place.
- Be prepared to wait on the judge. Divorces don’t get granted overnight, and in some backed-up courts there might be radio silence for several months – yikes! Don’t freak out and assume the worst. If the court has a question or needs more information they’ll call you. Otherwise, just sit tight and work on that whole patience thing.
- Go easy on yourself. Your thoughts and feelings will be all over the place and you’ll be caught right in the middle. Give yourself a break and remember that getting a divorce doesn’t make you a failure, a bad parent, or anything else nasty. Lean on the people and things that build you up and block out those that tear you down. Things WILL get better, one day at a time.
Just because it’s tough doesn’t mean that divorce has to throw off your whole groove. Try these five tips to keep on keepin’ on, no matter what. Of course, NextGenJustice is always available to help at our locations – contact us anytime!
More reading:
10 Signs It’s Time to Get a Divorce
Mistakes to Avoid During the Divorce Process
Agree to Disagree – The Use of Compromise in Conflict Management
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