5 Tips To Improve Your Self-Esteem

Self esteem can be defined as a person’s ability to judge their own identity and attach a value to it. The value that a person puts to their identity will determine the persons self esteem and self worth.

As a human being, we all have the capacity to be judgmental. Usually, the harshest form of judgment is aimed towards ourselves. This self judgment is usually distorted in its ability to fairly critique our own self worth and self value.

This allows a person to accept or reject parts of their personality rather than appreciate and accept themselves for who they are as a whole person – faults and all. Rejecting parts of you can lead to many complications in life including relationships, friendships, health and career.

When a person’s self esteem is low it can change a person’s behaviour by creating a self protection barrier of defence, including anger, depression, illness, perfectionism, lying or addictions.?

It also severely impacts everyday thoughts. One sure way to improve self esteem is to address your self talk. Self talk can either be positive or negative and it will be determined by your self value and self worth.??

The critical voice inside your head can take over your thought processes and translate any ordinary event into a negative and self defeating behaviour, feeling or trauma.

Most people would admit to wanting more self esteem and self confidence but really don’t know where to start. There’s a good reason for this because self esteem is not?something you can have in one second. How can someone go from being self conscious to self confident in one second??

Self esteem is a process of building good feelings and good thoughts about you which takes time. It takes time because you need to believe it. You need to feel it and you need to live it. Even if you can say positive things to yourself the question is how many times do you need to hear it or feel it before you believe it??

There are certainly ways you can increase your self esteem instantly but it’s holding onto it that becomes difficult. It’s something that you must keep working on. Treat it like a bank account. The more you keep putting in you will build up a nest egg to draw on when you need it.

So let me help you out here and give you some ideas on how you increase your self-esteem.

1. Stop Criticising Yourself

Find the strength to stop criticising yourself so much. You cannot expect yourself to be perfect any more than anyone else can.

If you don’t like other people criticising your then you need to stop doing it to yourself. It doesn’t feel good so you need to stop.?

2. Write a List

Make an actual pro’s and con’s list and write down what you do and do not like about yourself. Be specific and resist the impulse to just write about your physical appearance.?Take into account your person as a whole.?

When you’re specific you might find that you have less to dislike than you think which is awesome. Once you have the list you can do one of two things.

1. You can focus on your strengths and the things you like about yourself or

2. You can create a personal development plan to improve the things you don’t like.

Either way you will feel so much better. You can accept yourself for who you are or you can take action to make improvements.?

3. Set Realistic Goals For Yourself

Set personal goals for yourself so you have something to aim for. Make sure they are things that have meaning to you. Give yourself a time frame and reward yourself when you’ve achieved it.

When you achieve something it’s a feeling you create that money can’t buy and no one can give to you. It’s a measurement of your commitment and effort towards something.?

Start of with small goals and then build on your successes. You can always reassess your goals as you continue on but getting started is the most important thing. Then next important thing is to assess if this is the right goal for you and lastly, keep going until you finish it.?

4. Self Care

A lot of people thing self-care is a hippy word or it means some kind of guilty luxury.?It’s not the case at all.?It’s all about having a balanced life and having the ability to tune into your body and recognise what you need.

Start off by eating clean and healthy, be active every day, and get plenty of sleep. This goes a long way towards good mental health.

Of course you can add in massages and spa days but even taking time out of a busy day to listen to some music or call a friend when you need to offload is still self-care and is beneficial in so many ways.

Don’t look at self-care as a treat look at it as part of your mental health plan.

5. Change Your Self Talk

Try to avoid thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to yourself. Catch yourself when you’re saying negative things about yourself and switch it for something positive.?

Even if all you can come up with is “No, that’s not true.” Negative self-talk can become a bad habit so catch it and replace it. As much as possible.

You have to consider if you would talk to anyone that you cared about in the same way and start treating yourself with a little more respect.?

Your Career Coach,

Ruth Mac?

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Hi, I am?Ruth McCrackin!

Your Career & Success Strategist Coach with well over 11 years of experience working hand in hand with Human Resources and Business Partners in achieving company goals and mission. It is my wish for high achievers to getting their high-end position in attracting their dreams and passion. Avoid the loop holes of missing great opportunities by applying job search strategies, LinkedIn Branding, storytelling, and much more to up level your career and?lifestyle.?Start Your Transformation Now?

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