5 Tips To Handle Rejection

We have all experienced rejection and we try to avoid it at all cost.  With growth, both personally and professionally there is the potential to encounter rejection.  When we experience it in our relationships the hurt can go deep.   It is one of our strongest desires to make heart connections and to give and receive love.  Rejection is simply just other people's opinion. It doesn't make it true unless you let it.

Some of us have people in our lives that seem to consistently be critical. Would you like to learn 5 amazing tips to handle rejection with a little more ease?  The main key these tips focus on is not letting the rejection IN. I am going to repeat that frequently, "Don't let it IN!"

1. Thank you for sharing.

Someone says to you something like, you need to lose weight, or what did you do to your hair, you need a hair cut, or can't you take better care of your kids. So use this sentence in reply; "thank you for sharing that", and move on. When we get defensive or argue, it lets the rejection in. Using that sentence, it dissipates the tension and stops the rejection from reaching your heart.

2. Can you repeat that slowly, I'm not sure I heard you?

Someone says at work, "that presentation was just awful! You should prepare better next time".

Pause and say, "Can you repeat that slowly, I'm not sure I heard you?" Most of the time the person will say, never mind because now they are thinking about what they are saying. No matter how they respond, you can always add, "Thank you for sharing that." Don't let the rejection IN.

3. Are you trying to hurt me?

Suppose your mom says, I don't like the last article you wrote. It wasn't very good. You reply, "Are you trying to hurt me?" She says, "of course not, you are such a good writer it just surprised me that I didn't like the last one". This sentence helps to clarify the persons motive. Sometimes the person is trying to hurt you, BUT it is still their opinion and your choice if you let it in.

4. That's not going to work, I am not letting it in!

Say this phrase out loud after any of the above sentences. You can even say it quietly, but say it! There is power in your spoken word!

5. Do you know that critical people have the most criticism reserved for themselves? You are showing me and others how much you are dissatisfied with yourself when you behave like this. 

This is my favorite for someone who is out to hurt you.  Remember the key is not to let the opinion of others hurt you or let it in.

Julie, one of my clients said, "Donna, I had to go to a family gathering where I am usually shark bait, you know chum. Donna, I used all of these and it was amazing how it changed the dynamics of the situation. Thank you for giving me the tools to help me live a confident life!"

Give these 5 tips a try and let me know the results. I can't wait to hear.

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Until next time!

Live Vibrantly!

Donna