5 Signs of Self Sabotage

Not asking for HELP!

This is one of the ways we deliberately hinder our own success and wellbeing.

It depletes drive and motivation leaving us sad, anxious, and often disconnected from significant others.

Self-sabotage refers to the intentional or unintentional actions that hinder your progress and too often prevent you from achieving your goals.

This is caused by various factors such as negative self-image, difficult childhoods, cognitive dissonance, and relationship issues.?

Self-sabotaging behaviours often manifest as procrastination, perfectionism, or self-medication, among others.?

Sabotage can negatively impact many areas of a person's life, including personal and professional success, as well as mental health.?

Self-awareness is critical to identifying and stop unhelpful patterns of behaviours that are keeping you stuck or repeating cycles you just don’t want to repeat.

If you want to move to the next level in all aspects of your life, yet something keeps getting in your way.

? Could YOU be that “something”?

Self-sabotaging behaviour looks different for everyone!?

Individuals with certain neurodivergent conditions may struggle with self-regulation and impulse control leading to behaviours that hinder their progress and prevent them from achieving their goals.?

For example, individuals with ADHD may struggle with procrastination and impulsivity, while those with autism may struggle with rigid thinking patterns and difficulty adapting to change.?

However, it's important to note that self-sabotage can affect anyone regardless of neurodiversity, and not all neurodivergent individuals struggle with self-sabotage.?

It's also important to approach neurodiversity with a strengths-based perspective and not view it solely through the lens of deficits or challenges.

5 Signs you’re self-sabotaging

1. NOT asking for help Hyper-independence is a stress response that causes you to feel that you must make decisions and accomplish things without the support of others. It can result from significant emotional damage, potentially caused by abandonment, broken trust, or betrayal. It is important to identify this as a trauma response and perhaps you no longer need to default to this as a survival tactic. You can allow yourself to be loved and cared for now.
2. Superwoman, Perfectionist The Superwoman imposter type is one of the five categories of imposter syndrome, where individuals feel like frauds but disguise this by working harder than others to prove their worth. They may also set excessively high goals and believe that they must be 100% perfect all the time. This type of behaviour is often a response to deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. Understanding imposter syndrome and how it may show up will help you to nurture inner confidence.
3. Lacking Self Compassion Many of us do not regularly practice self-compassion, but being kind and understanding towards oneself, recognising common humanity, and being mindful is linked to increased feelings of happiness, optimism, curiosity, and connectedness, as well as decreased anxiety and depression. How are you practicing self-compassion?
4. Negative & Harsh Self Talk is closely linked to self compassion Cultivating compassionate self talk can enhance emotional resilience and overall well-being, helping us to bounce back from adversity and achieve greater happiness. Inner speech has been linked to cognitive functions such as problem-solving, self-regulation, and emotional reflection. How are you disrupting your inner dialogue? Are you even aware of what it is you say to yourself?
5. Procrastination?It can take many forms, such as delaying tasks, putting off important responsibilities, and avoiding challenging situations. People who procrastinate may fear failure or feel they do not deserve success, and this can lead to a cycle of negative self-talk and self-doubt. Procrastination can have detrimental effects on all aspects of life, causing stress, anxiety, and burnout. To overcome procrastination, it is helpful to break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps, avoid distractions, and seek support from a coaches or mental health practitioner if needed.

Ultimately, recognising and addressing some of these behaviours is essential to combating self-sabotaging behaviours and achieving personal and professional success.

If you can relate to these behaviours or are feeling stuck, repeating the same situations at work or are feeling disconnected in your personal relationships and feel its time to move forward. #selfsabotage?#careerdevelopment?#connection

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