5 Reasons why you need a dating mentor

3 things must be crystal clear for you before I tell you the 5 reasons why you need a dating mentor, otherwise, you won't understand them fully.

1 - Your dating life is damn important

2 - dating is plenty of traps most people, you included, continously fall into

3 - You can't really get proficient at dating only by yourself

Let's start from number 1

I wrote a whole article about this point, check it out if you want to go at full depth.

To sum it up:

You only live once.

Your time on Earth is limited.

You don't even know how much time here you actually have.

Given this, if you're sane, you want to have the best experience possible in your time here.

Don't you?

A massive portion of your time will be spent with the woman you will marry, or get in some sort of relationship with.

You don't want to do mistakes on your choice here, because

1 - you'll suffer a lot from a divorce and

2 - you'll never get back the time spent with a partner who's not right for you.

Most men out there don't marry the best woman they could possibly get, but the worst they're willing to accept given their limited options.

Please don't be like that.

Number 2

Dating is complex.

Sure, once you get the basics of how it works it's easy to find potential partners

BUT there's a lot of subtleties and nuances in it, especially once you get into relationships.

For example:

How do you know if the woman you want to have as a girlfriend is actually the right one for you?

Why do crises happen in your relationship? Is it because that's how it should be or is there something you're missing?

Why does she think about other men and you think about other women?

And so on.

What most men out there do is this:

they meet a woman via friends of friends, date for some months, eventually get together for several years, get married.

Very few of them question their choice.

Once you start a relationship that is good enough, it can get quite difficult to get out.

You end up in a comfort zone.

And you stay there for YEARS.

With someone you met by total chance, who was a good enough choice given the circumstances.

But how many options did you actually have to choose from?

Very few, usually.

Number 3:

Given the complexity of the topic and the possibilities that you're totally unaware of, it would be reckless to try to improve by yourself.

You have ENDLESS options when it comes to women.

Every single woman you see going around in the streets, in the bars, clubs, bookstores, museums, networking events, and so on could be a partner of yours.

But you can't even imagine that because you never go there and talk to them.

Because of course, none of your friends does.

So it's out of your reality.

And even if you do, you don't know how to make the conversation interesting (avoiding the usual sh**ty small-talk on her job and nationality),

connect with her at an emotional level, develop sexual tension and transition to a date from there.

SO MUCH is possible but you have a lot of limiting beliefs in your head that keep you in your comfort zone.

You're insecure about your looks.

You're afraid of being rejected.

You believe that not knowing what to say is an issue.

You can't create sexual tension and stand in it.

You don't feel worthy of the most attractive women out there.

And you justify these things to yourself in the most clever way in order not to face your fears.

Overcoming these issues and the deeper ones you encounter after takes ACTION.

It's not enough to read books and kinda try things out.

You need consistent, aimed action that follows a proven process.

You need me to keep you accountable, tell you what you need to do, give you feedback on your mistakes, and call you out on your excuses.

You need me to tell you to keep going after the first rejections you will get, or you will lose the motivation and keep being stuck.

And I can tell you to keep going because I know exactly what you have to go through in order to transform.

No book, no video course, no friend who's kinda good with girls can provide this to you.

Period.

How do i know? Do I have a phd in seductional psychology or something?

No.

I f**king did it myself first (with the support of my many mentors).

And it worked.

The same thing has worked for my clients and will work for you.

Your other option if you're too proud to ask for help (which DOES NOT make you manly, it just keeps you stuck) is to:

1 - Understand where you are and what you're missing (doable only if you can see yourself in third person)

2 - Find information on how to move forward (easy peasy with Google, right?)

3 - Test out on the field such information long enough you have a reasonable sample size (This takes time and dedication to do)

4 - Understand what is actually working and what isn't. (good luck on this one)

5 - Keep improving the process without giving up too early (something almost everyone does in dating)

6 - Constantly be aware if you're settling out of fear and complacency and push yourself beyond the limit (lol, not even gonna comment on this one)

Ok, this should be enough for you to see why doing it by yourself is a silly idea.

So, what are the 5 reasons why you need a mentor if you want to improve your dating life?

1 - SAVE TIME

If you ended up on this article, chances are you're quite busy. You probably work around 9-10 hours a day, go to the gym, hang out with friends, read books, and so on.

Do you really have the time and energy to figure things out on your own AND APPLY them consistently?

Even if you do, why do you want to waste your time trying it for years once you know you can have a better result in 3 months working with someone who has already done it before you?

2 - OPEN YOURSELF TO NEW POSSIBILITIES

Once again, there are so many dating opportunities for you out there that the first time you actually notice you feel like Neo getting out of the Matrix.

How could you be so blind to not see how EASY it is to approach that woman at the bus station? Or the one in the queue at Starbucks? Or on the street?

If I don't tell you what is possible you'll literally keep missing out on life.

Since you only live once, you'd better get as much as possible out of it, right?

3 - STOP LOSING OPPORTUNITIES

This point is very dear to me.

You see, when I started my journey on improving my dating I was learning by myself.

Reading books, watching video courses, asking a friend for help.

I had fallen in deep love with a girl, she was part of what motivated me to learn.

I could have got her, I was so close! But in the moment of truth, I did a sequence of rookie mistakes.

I willingly did the OPPOSITE of what I actually had to do.

Was I stupid? No, I just had no clue about it.

It's difficult for me to convey how much I suffered because of it.

Ironically, a couple of weeks after this disaster, I met one of my soon to be mentors.

You can watch my interview with him here if you're curious

Had I taken the program with him even just a month before, things would have gone very differently.

Why? Because he non-stop called me out on my BS and immediately taught me the single thing I would have needed.

Lucky for you, if this didn't happen, I wouldn't be here teaching dating.

Everything is perfect.

Now, do you also want to lose opportunities like this?

How many?

How many do you need to lose because you're clueless?

How much do you want to wait before you decide to learn how to get what you want?

4 - EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING

In our society we get conditioned to think that we learn by memorizing books and repeating them like parrots.

Italians know this very well.

In truth, we learn by doing.

We learn by experiencing things.

You went to university, but how much of what you learned are you actually applying on your job?

You learned how to do your job by doing and by having your manager and colleagues give you feedback.

This is how my mentorship works.

I tell you what to do, you do it, you get my feedback and do it better once again unitl you get the result.

Again, no book nor research paper can give you this.

No videocourse can give you tayloerd excercises, keep you accountable and provide direct feedback and encouragement.

5 - SEE YOUR BLINDSPOTS AND OVERCOME YOUR LIMITS

Experience in itself is not sufficient.

You can do the same thing wrong 100 times.

That's because you don't know exactly where the issue is.

Together with experience you need guidance, helping you interpret the experience in the righ way and make the most of it.

Also, there's a lot of excuses that you make in your mind like:

"I don't have time " "she's too beautiful for me" "I'm not rich enough"

that must be destroyed.

Only someone out of your head can see them and do so, you're too used to hear them that you can't even recognize them anymore.

These are the 5 reasons why you need a dating mentor.

Remember, information alone won't bring you anywhere.

If you want to profit from what you read you must take action and DO IT!

By now you should have understood how much of a no-brainer it is to hire me and get you to your dream dating life.

The only thing left for you to do is to write me a message and book a call with me.

See you on the other side.