5 Reasons why they Show off?

People who achieved a secure life doesn't show off what they achieved.

??This is my observation.

So, Let's understand the reason why people show off?

1) Insecurity; Most common reason for showiness.

When people think that others don't consider them important they will try to prove that they are important.

A Great teacher will never show off his knowledge to his student, student should already know. He doesn't need to make efforts to display his greatness, on the other hand, a beginner student will show off greatly and challenge anybody he can, he wants to prove to others, maybe to himself, that he is good because he isn't sure whether he's good or not.

2) When hard time Hit

we all watch some people who show off constantly. But according to PsychMechanincs, this may be indicative of a deeper issue.

   Like a celebrity who is not getting enough movies, or a person who isn't doing well in his job/business may start to frequently brag about his lifestyle/business/job, etc.

The reason is they don't want to accept reality.

They want to believe that It is going Good. But eventually, they have to face reality.

3) Previous experience 

Like if a person used to get a lot of attention initially and now he is not getting that much amount of attention, he will freak out and eventually start bragging about themselves.

   For example; We had a very beautiful girl who got admission in our school, everyone noticed her and her beauty and she also outperformed all of us in academics in the first 2 tests but after those two tests, she used to get an average grade like many others and many others beautiful girls also got admission in the same school, so she was not getting enough attention as she used.

So she used to do different activities like she used to challenge topper guys to solve a problem to show her greatness or to compare herself with models to make her beauty noticed among peers and other activities like that.

So if someone usually gets a lot of attention from people and when situations change they seek to replicate that favorable situation leading them to show off.

4) Count me

You might have noticed someone who usually doesn't show off in front of everyone but only in front of those whom they're trying to impress.

It happened to me when I was a teenager and was in 11th grade, I tried to brag about my Intellect in academics in front of my teachers, I wanted to impress them and want to gain their acceptance.

You might have observed it also, within a few minutes of conversation, the showy person starts bragging about himself, the reality is -

He/she wants you to like him/her because he/she likes you.

In a love relationship, some people employ this to get love and acceptance from their crush or the person they like.

5) To Get Identified

This happens with many people, every next person who is showing off might have this problem.

If showing off reinforces a particular identity that the person likes about himself, he will continue to do this.

Like I met a guy who likes his Dance a lot, he always wanted to show off "How much he knows about Dance", means he has an identity of being a "Best Dancer". so he likes to show off things that prove that how much he knows about.

And what do we mean by Secure life?

A life worth experiencing different experiences and not relied on the justification and judgment of others to enjoy. Protected from Ego, judgment, fear, anger, fake reputation is a safe and secure life.

So People who achieved a secure life don't show off what they achieved because they understand the real value of life. 

What are your thoughts on this?

How do you perceive people who show off much?

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?Vinay Kumar

Reference: Psychology today, Psycho mechanics

Topic: Observation