5 Reasons Every Writer Should Focus on Their Own Path

As writers, it’s easy to fall into the terrible trap of comparing ourselves to others. I’m incredibly guilty of it. I don’t even mean for it to happen when I see the successes of fellow wordsmiths – their book deals, their accolades, their growing audience – and wonder: “Why not me?!”.

However, this morning I found myself listening to a man on YouTube who said such a short little sentence, but it packed a punch (or a slap) across my face. It was a different topic than writing. Berel Solomon is giving financial and business advice for getting through the economy in that video, and he made the comment:

“People don’t realize it, and everybody thinks the grass is greener on the other side. But maybe, just maybe, the other guy is taking better care of his grass.” -Berel Solomon

What a way to wake up with that sobering thought, right?

It’s gotten me thinking all day about how that advice transfers into so many different areas of my own life – constantly measuring myself and my progress against others.

I don’t even realize I’m doing it as that seed of doubt snakes its way from my eyes and ears, into my mind, and then (before I know it), I start wondering if I should even continue with this goal that I’ve set out to do.

I don't want to only bring attention to problems – I want to fix them. I’m flawed, faulty, and make a lot of mistakes. However, I want to do better and I’m nearly certain that others want to do better, too.

Here are five compelling reasons why every writer should focus on their own path and avoid the comparison trap. And if you’re not a writer, stick around anyway because it’s a transferable skill set.

1.) Comparison Stifles Creativity

When you’re busy comparing your work to others, you’re diverting mental energy away from your own creative process. Instead of focusing on what makes your voice unique, you might find yourself trying to emulate someone else’s styles or achievements. This not only stifles and smothers your own creativity but also dilutes your authentic voice. By focusing on your own journey, you give yourself freedom to create without the constraints of these external expectations.

2.) Your Journey Is Unique

No two journeys are the same. Each writer brings their own experiences, perspectives, and skills to the table. What works for one person might not work for another, and that’s perfectly acceptable. Embracing the uniqueness of your journey allows you to grow at your own pace and in your own way. Remember, success isn’t a race; it’s a personal journey that unfolds in its own time.

3.) Comparison is a Waste of Energy

The time and energy spent on comparing yourself to others could be better invested in improving your craft. Instead of worrying about how far along someone else is, focus on what you can do to advance your own writing. Set goals that are meaningful to you and measure your progress against where you were yesterday – not where someone else is today.

4.) Comparison Breeds Self-Doubt

When you constantly compare yourself to others, it’s easy to start doubting your own abilities. You might begin to question whether you’re good enough, whether your stories matter, or whether you’ll ever achieve your goals. This self-doubt can be paralyzing, leading to procrastination and a lack of motivation. By focusing on your own path, you can build confidence in your own abilities and take pride in your unique contributions in the world of writing.

5.) Mental Health Matters

The impact of comparison on mental health cannot be overstated. Constantly feeling inadequate or feeling like you’re falling behind can lead to stress, anxiety, or even depression. Protecting your mental health is crucial for maintaining a sustainable writing practice. When you’re focusing on your own journey, can are more able to cultivate a healthier, positive mindset that supports your long-term well-being.

BONUS: Look for Inspiration, Not Comparison

You knew I was giving you a bonus, didn’t you? I don’t want to just tell you about the problems – but the solutions. It’s important to recognize that looking at others for insight or inspiration is far different from beating yourself down by comparison.

Drawing inspiration from fellow writers can be motivating and help spark new ideas. One of the reasons I love writing in communities like vss365 and other places online around other people is because it’s like a writer’s room. I do hope one day to be able to be in a writer’s room in person because that is where magic happens. No one is trying to outdo each other but working together to create something beautiful yet never tearing each other down.

And even then, I know it’s going to take discipline and a strong mind to not use a yardstick to measure their success against my self-worth. Using another writer’s achievements as fuel to drive my own creativity instead of attempting to belittle my own progress.

Writing is a deeply personal journey, and it’s important to honor that by focusing on your own path. Avoiding the comparison trap allows you and I to nurture our own creativity, embrace the journey, and protect our mental health.

The only writer you ever need to compete with is the one you were yesterday. Keep your eyes on your own page, draw inspiration from others, and trust that your story will unfold as it’s supposed to in its own time.

I want to celebrate your success and progress with you. Leave a comment below and, remember, your story matters and the world needs your unique voice.

Susan Moore is a seasoned writer with over four decades of experience in the craft. She is passionate about exploring the intersection of creativity and mental health, helping fellow writers navigate the challenges of balancing their art with their well-being.

Susan's work is driven by a deep understanding of the struggles that writers face and a commitment to offering practical, actionable advice to foster resilience and growth. When she's not writing, Susan enjoys dancing to Motown classics, creating eclectic music playlists, and finding inspiration in the simple joys of life.

Susan is also the host of "The Uncomfortable Talk Show," a podcast where she dives into candid conversations about creativity, mental health, and the often-unspoken challenges that come with pursuing a creative life. Tune in for insightful discussions, tips, and stories from the creative community.