5 Powerful Questions To Overcome Your Past....

Today's article got triggered when I was going through my notes from a coaching conversation with a client last year

The client, a senior leader from the consulting domain, was planning to quit and start his own company

“My first start-up did not do well and I had to eventually?shut it down”?he said?“I had to join the corporate job back”

“But now I am afraid if this new start-up I am planning also fails”?he continued?“Should I really go for it or not ? I am having my doubts”

You see….

His fears and worries were based on his?past experiences

He was assuming that since his first start-up did not do well, anything new he will start might also fail

Look….

There’s a lot we can learn from our past

And I think it's OK to reflect on your past occasionally to learn from it

But too much dwelling in the past can hold both your present and future to ransom

You cannot drive ahead looking in the rear view mirror all the time, right ?

And this is a challenge I have seen in many people – be it CXOs, working professionals or entrepreneurs

They let their action and decision be purely driven by past experiences

They are not able to overcome their past and move ahead in life

So if you are one of them, what should you really do ??

Here are 5 powerful questions to ask yourself to help you overcome your past and move on

1. Do you really want to get over it ?

This might sound stupid, but start here

Because when you say you can’t let go, is it that you don’t want to ?

Staying in your past sometimes can be the convenient thing to do, rather than take action and change yourself, right ?

So be honest and true to yourself when you answer this question

That automatically leads to the next question....

2. Is staying in the past meeting some unmet need of yours ?

This is a really powerful question

Dig deep inside to find the answer

Again, be brutally honest with yourself

Warning – This might not be easy and could get messy

3. Are you fully aware of the cost you are paying by not letting go ?

In my experience, this is where many people lack awareness

While it might be convenient to hold on to the past, what is the price you are paying ?

Examine all areas of your life – career, health, relationships, passion, wealth, lost opportunities etc

And in many cases, you will realize that there is a huge cost you have?already paid and will continue paying,?if you remain stuck

Next question....

And now that you are aware of the costs, let's look at the possibilities

4. If you could get over the past, what sort of life would you have ?

Think of what you don’t have today and what all would be possible

Again, examine all areas of your life – career, health, relationships, passion, wealth etc

..If you are able to move on from your past, what sort of career opportunities could come your way ?

..How would your relationships with people around you improve ?

And so on....

Finally, now that you are aware of both the cost and possibilities, it’s time to take action, hence the next question....

5. Is it too much of an effort to move on? Does it create a lot of discomfort ?

Compare the response to this question with the answer to the previous question 4 ( possibilities )

Is that effort worth it or not ? If yes, what is the smallest action you can take today ?

If it is not worth it, be aware of the cost !

So here's the real deal....

No one is forcing you to stay in the past

Nothing is really stopping you from letting go and moving ahead in life

It’s a conscious choice you are making to stay where you are

But I think it’s time to move on !

So go back and reflect on these 5 questions and see what comes up for you. Do share your reflections

Till then

Stay safe and stay healthy

Harsh

www.harshjohari.com

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b) 7 Questions To Push You Out Of Your Comfort Zone

c) 5 Powerful Questions to Transform Yourself In 2022

d) 7 Reasons Why Leaders Resist Change

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