5 Important truths I Realised as a young entreprenuer

There were many moments in the past one year which made me realise some important truths about handling important situations in life. I’ll uncover everything in this article.

I feel this might help you to look at life situations and events in a different perspective or it might be totally contradicting for you. Whatever the outcome you’ll end up with some unique perspectives.

Now, Let’s dive in:

The willingness to be disliked is a superpower

Growing up we were rewarded for being the same like everybody else, doing the same work as others, getting good marks as others, but in the actual world to do anything bigger and create value to the society we should be willing to be different that means we should be willing to be disliked, If we develop the willingness to be disliked, we will inevitably have the courage to do hard things that most people are not willing to do.

I can't fundamentally change myself or others

When growing up, we undergo a lot of changes, we grow in height, we undergo puberty and lot other changes in terms of personality and due to this reason we think that we can change ourselves anytime we want but that's not the case by 18. I realised that somethings can be changed but there are a lot to our personalities and identities and cultures that really can't be changed.

As I get older, I realised that improving my life is less about changing myself, and more about adapting and becoming more comfortable with who I already am. It’s especially true with relationships with our friends or family, it's not trying to change the other person but it's more about accepting and liking them for who they already are

If I am not embarrassing myself regularly, I am not trying hard enough

The time we have now is the optimal time for us to take risks, we have the most to gain and the least to lose. So the cost of failure is pretty low, conversely the cost of success is pretty high. Yet we stop taking risks for the dumbest possible reason. We don't want to embarrass ourselves in front of others. We worry about what our friends or other students will think, not realising that most of those friends and students will be dead to us in a few years anyways. We worry what our parents and family think when the whole point of being an adult is being able to decide what best for ourselves, this is the time to embarrass ourselves.

Our dreams are overrated

There is always someone telling to never give up on our dreams, but there are 10s of thousands of people have the same dreams but aren't successful yet. Don't get me wrong, Dreams are great, they help us get out of bed in the morning, they keep us excited and focused from week to week but we tend to overestimate the power of our dreams. We have this big bold vision of how we want our life to be and we somehow assume if we achieve that vision then we are gonna live happily ever after,

Two things might happen as we get older we might achieve the dream, but despite the initial joy, it would not make nearly as happy as you thought it would. Or two, we don't achieve the dream and live the rest of your life being a bitter asshole about it. Either way the dream only helps us early in the process and it likely hurts you late in the process. So my recommendation ,hold onto your dreams lightly. Dreams are great pursue them, follow them, care about them, tell everybody about them but never forgot what they are . They are just imagined endpoints in our head. We invented them so you can un-invent them at any time if necessary.

The only way to feel better about ourself is to do things worth feeling good about.

When we feel bad about ourselves, our natural inclination is to believe that some external thing will make us feel good. If I just had better marks, I'd be happy, we say it or if I wasn't afraid of people then I'd finally be happy. This assumption puts us on a treadmill of chasing something, Achieving it, realising it doesn't change anything and then choosing another thing to chase after.

The truth is nothing will make you feel better about ourself, other than having meaning behind our actions. Accomplished or not, The only way to feel good long-term is to do good things and these good things can exist on multiple levels.They're daily good things like making your bed, going for a walk in the college, talking to people you care about and they're are long terms good things like building a career or building an app that help people in some way. The point is, stop looking for happiness in the things you have. Instead look for them in the things you do.Then get working on them. Then if we're lucky, by our 30s we'll have something remarkable to show for it.

That’s it

If you sticked till the end, kudos to you. Hope these helped you to look into a new perspective.

All the best for everything that life’s gonna give you.

Manohar