5 Immediate Ways to Support Students Processing Trauma

The recent school shooting in Georgia has left us all heartbroken, and as parents, educators, and administrators, we're often left wondering: how do we help our kids process something so traumatic?

Whether they’re openly expressing fear and sadness or staying quiet and withdrawn, every student needs support right now. The good news is that there are simple ways to guide them through this difficult time—by helping them feel safe, heard, and connected.

Here are five immediate and practical ways to support students as they process trauma, starting today.

1. Create a Safe Space for Open Conversations

We all know kids can clam up after something big like this happens, but creating a space where they feel comfortable opening up is crucial. Whether they want to talk about their fears, frustrations, or even confusion, let them know it's okay to express anything. Some students will want to talk right away, while others may need time to process—both are perfectly normal.

Action Tip: At school, think about having smaller, counselor-led discussions where students can share openly. At home, parents can carve out quiet moments—maybe after dinner or before bed—just to listen. Even just saying, “I’m here when you’re ready,” can mean the world.

2. Let Them Know All Emotions Are Valid

After a traumatic event, kids often feel like they should be acting a certain way. Maybe they’re not crying, and they think something’s wrong with them. Or maybe they’re so upset that they feel embarrassed. Here’s the thing: there’s no “correct” way to feel. Whether it’s sadness, anger, fear, or numbness, it’s all okay.

Action Tip: At school, normalize these emotional responses by saying things like, “It’s okay if you’re sad, or even if you’re not sure how to feel yet. Everything you’re feeling is valid.” At home, parents can use phrases like, “It’s completely fine to feel how you’re feeling. You don’t need to have it all figured out right now.”

3. Rebuild That Sense of Safety

For students, school is supposed to be a safe space. When that safety is shattered, it can shake them to their core. Rebuilding that sense of security takes time, but every small step helps. It’s about showing them that you’ve got their back, that measures are being taken, and that they are protected.

Action Tip: At school, administrators can communicate clearly about the steps being taken to increase security—maybe hold a school assembly or send a letter home. Parents can reassure their children with simple, steady reminders like, “We’re doing everything we can to keep you safe.” It’s about consistency, not perfection.

4. Encourage Healthy Expression and Coping Tools

Some kids express themselves with words, others with actions, and some in complete silence. Whatever their way is, they need a way to let it out. Encourage them to draw, write, talk, or even move—whether it’s a walk, playing basketball, or just running around in the yard. It’s all about finding healthy outlets for the emotions swirling inside.

Action Tip: Educators can introduce simple mindfulness exercises in class, even something as short as a minute of deep breathing. At home, parents can create “calm spaces” with cozy blankets, journals, or coloring books. Encourage your child to express themselves however they feel most comfortable.

5. Get Them the Right Support

It’s not always easy for kids to say, “I need help.” But that doesn’t mean they don’t need it. School counselors, therapists, or even trusted teachers can be invaluable during this time. Some students may need one-on-one support, while others may benefit from group sessions. Either way, it’s about making sure they have a safe and trusted adult they can talk to.

Action Tip: Schools can ensure that every student knows how to access counseling services, and parents can take an active role by checking in and offering to arrange a meeting with a professional if needed. Remember: the earlier, the better.

We’re Here to Support You

At a time like this, no one has all the answers—but we can all take steps to support our students and help them feel seen and heard. And remember, you don’t have to do this alone.

At BonfireDW, we’re offering four free sessions with one of our trained wellness coaches to help you and your students navigate this difficult time. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, or administrator, we’re here to offer support when it’s needed most.

Reach out today—because when it comes to helping students process trauma, every bit of support counts.

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